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I have this trait that leads me to depression if things either fail or didn't work as I planned. Now for those who care, I'm at RTX. Enjoying my time and everything that goes with it. I've met people who I didn't realize how much them meant to me until I met a few of them. While I was here I was hoping for some sign to help push me toward my future. But as of now I don't feel like it's happened. It's foolish to think something like that was going to happen. But one of the few things my heart still does it hope. But here I am still hoping still wishing, still dreaming for some kind of sign I just feel like a fool every time it doesn't come along or like I missed it at some point. And to the people who say "It'll come" I'm tired of waiting.
 

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What are you looking for? What do you imagine your future to be?
 

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"Kicking around on a piece of ground in your hometown,
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way…"
— Pink Floyd, Time

Andustar asked a good question — what future do you want? Do you know? If not, do you know how to start finding out?

In any case, I think you are quite right to be tired of waiting. Time for another strategy, perhaps… ^.^
 

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I just want to not have to work myself to the point where my spirit is broken. I hate my job but it pays me well enough to live with the Asshole (boss) and the other Assholes (Customer) I want just something I enjoy to be my work, Something that make me happy to do. But I'm cursed with the Jack of all trades ability. I'm okay at most things, but not a master of anything I thought once it would be my greatest gift. But in the real world, no one wants that guy. They want they one person to do that one thing, but I'm not that good at anything
 

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They want they one person to do that one thing, but I'm not that good at anything
Your hanging out with the wrong people, if you truly believe in that and not versatility then your closing more doors then opening them. I live my life like this... I work my butt off but I've learn to love aspects of my job, not the whole thing, just parts of it, so when I hit a point in my work where things are stressful I set the goal of working towards the part where I love it.
The other key thing is that working is not all rainbows and gumdrops in chocolate land, your going to have bad days (that's how you know your working, having your hand in the pie when things start getting rough, but being a contributor to fixing the issue) Its when the bad days start out numbering the good / mediocre days when you should start looking for a new line of work.
 

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I just want to not have to work myself to the point where my spirit is broken. I hate my job but it pays me well enough to live with the Asshole (boss) and the other Assholes (Customer) I want just something I enjoy to be my work, Something that make me happy to do. But I'm cursed with the Jack of all trades ability. I'm okay at most things, but not a master of anything I thought once it would be my greatest gift. But in the real world, no one wants that guy. They want they one person to do that one thing, but I'm not that good at anything
I was in the same situation as you were about a year ago I had an okay job but the boss was an asshole and most of the customer were as well. I was very depressed because I had gone to college for a bs in this field of work and thought I had made the wrong choose.

You need to do something drastic in your life and that means maybe quitting your job and moving that is what I ended up doing best choice I have ever made.
 

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I feel for you. It is hard to fly with eagles when you work with turkeys. Sit down and list your pluses and minuses. What else can you do with what you just wrote? Many colleges give online courses for free so you can improve your job skills.

Just remember everything you want is just beyond your fears.
 

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I can't do college again. It broke me the times I tried. I tired going three times and failed out all three times. My spirit took a big hit from that. I want to leave my job I hate it there. I also want to move but failed at this one before. I moved to a town where my mom's family was and got a copy of the job I had before. But that was only because no one else was hiring. I went to job interviews, but got nothing back. I was getting paid so little I had to move back to the hell where I live at now
 

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I'm not going to lie. Hope had died a while ago, but I've been building it back up again. I've just don't know what to do anymore.
 

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But I'm cursed with the Jack of all trades ability. I'm okay at most things, but not a master of anything I thought once it would be my greatest gift. But in the real world, no one wants that guy. They want they one person to do that one thing, but I'm not that good at anything
I often get in this position myself. I've worked in IT for the better part of 20 years, but no job has lasted quite long enough for me to become a specialist in the eyes of the many HR people and recruiters with button-down minds. At the same time, I have performed pretty much every aspect of IT in some form. What eventually happens is that I'm able to circumvent them and talk directly with the hiring manager or maybe the company owner, who has the insight to see me for who I am.

What is it that you really want to do? Find a large-ish company with such a department, get hired in some form, and work your butt off. After you've been there a few months, contact the manager in charge of that other department and explain your interest. Ask what you would need to demonstrate to move up. They could be more accommodating than you think. In the meantime, is there anything you can do to better your skills? How do you learn best? Some people can just pick up a book while others do best with guided instruction. Maybe find a web board dedicated to that skill and read it every day? Maybe YouTube could help? And SeasonedCitizen did mention free online college courses. I recommend college to anybody who has the time, desire, and aptitude, but unless you want to go into law, medicine, etc., it's not absolutely necessary. I once met a lady who was a self-taught electrical engineer.

The transformation into a dream career isn't going to happen overnight, but you can do this. Myself, I'm on the cusp of an army-of-one corporate web development job by being in the right place at the right time.
 
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I don't know what I want to do. I haven't had a passion for anything for a long while. I've been helping everyone I know for so long I don't know what I want to do anymore. Being helpful would be nice in someway with my skills, if I happened to get paid at the same time. I'm of the logical mind and have skills with tactics, Reasoning, Computer skills, car skills. My social skills are shit. I hate being around others. They tend to kept me from doing what I want/need to do at any given time. One of my more odd skills is to come up with designs. Weapons, buildings, cars, bridges, redesigns for current systems. Trains and the like. The problem with that is I'm horrible at drawing. I've tried to get better but I've never gotten that much better. SO more of my ideas tend to die in my head
 

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don't know what I want to do. I haven't had a passion for anything for a long while.
That is generally a symptom of depression.

I understand the feelings you are having about having poor social skills and the desire to design without the ability to draw. I'm autisic and brain-injured and my fine-motor skills aren't really good enough to do the things I really love, but life can always be better than it is now.

I can only suggest asking for help. Either in dealing with what sounds like depression, and finding a related vocation that is nearer something you would enjoy...at least more than you are now. I know how hard it is to be poorly and under-employed though. Its not easy.
 

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Finding a good job can be hard, even some jobs that are good jobs still have negatives to them

Furthermore any job that you hate is gonna be more of a drag than a job that you like

I'm sort of in the middle myself because I dont have a horrible job, I hate it sometimes, and love it at other time

But in the end my current job is just something for where I am, I am not planning on staying at this job forever (though why I wanna move in my case isnt purely because of my job)

For me to get a good job I had to find a job outside of town; the town I live in is pretty much cursed when it comes to job, none of them pay really well

If there wasnt a good job in the next town over I would have to have moved or just been stuck with the last job I had (which was a bad job and was getting worse over time)

Life is pretty annoying

you continually struggle, until one day you figure out how to make it better and take action to make it happen; for me I had 2 bad jobs over the course of 6 or so years, and then I got my current job which I have had for a few months shy of one year.

I like Factory Work myself for the most part, but it isn't for everybody

It is physically and mentally draining, especially when something complicates the job or you work a lot of overtime, but when you finish a good week at a good factory with overtime thrown in the pay can be very good.

You need to find somewhere you want to work, that has good pay and go after it.

It might not be easy and you might have to work in another department (if it is a company with multiple departments) or find other jobs while trying to get into the company you want

But I believe if people want something badly enough and they work for it they can get it (as long as the end goal isnt something crazy, and X amount of money for a hobby or to get a better job is definitely a realistic goal for most people)
 

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One of my more odd skills is to come up with designs. Weapons, buildings, cars, bridges, redesigns for current systems. Trains and the like. The problem with that is I'm horrible at drawing. I've tried to get better but I've never gotten that much better. SO more of my ideas tend to die in my head
If I understand you correctly, pretty much all of this is done in CAD systems, so there's little need for traditional drawing skills. Do you have any experience/interest in CAD or in 3D printing? Jumping ahead a little, I found a thread on Reddit that speaks to this: www.reddit.com/r/AskEngineers/comments/19jiax/getting_a_draftingcad_job_without_an_engineering/ . If not, give us time and I think we'll find something that grabs your interest. :)
 
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Being a jack of all trades can be a blessing or a curse. The challenge is to find the plane that values a broad skill set, and to develop some depth in areas that interest you.

Try finding a small company. My experience is that a small company has more use for a generalist than a large company does, and you're more likely to be seen as valuable for the sum of your skills.
 

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...But I'm cursed with the Jack of all trades ability. I'm okay at most things, but not a master of anything I thought once it would be my greatest gift. But in the real world, no one wants that guy. They want they one person to do that one thing, but I'm not that good at anything
I'm the same as you and you need to see this as a positive. It means that you can pick up and learn things quickly, it means that nothing new surprises you and you are up for a challenge.

You are capable of becoming skilled and knowledgeable in a specific area or subject you just need to get that spark. My team is converting all reports over to Power BI from SSRS/Excel based reports. I want to be ahead of my co-workers and I use that as a driver to keep me ahead... so I google how to's, and I watched tonnes of Power BI training videos on youtube... I was the first to launch a Power BI report, my manager and director are very impressed and used my report as a demo for the VP.

In your case I share your struggle, I cannot draw worth sh*t and that seems like something you can get better at... but it's hard to master if it doesn't come naturally. If you want to draw better then try and find some courses or training videos that can help improve your skills?

Don't give up, make it a game, look at what your co-workers are doing and try to beat them at it.

It's hard work, but once you get home and into a nice fresh diaper you feel better :)
 
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