Joined Fetlife! :-) you should too!

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WoofWoof

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I finally joined Fetlife! I look forward to adding some of you, especially if you're in my area.

Find me:
DiaperWoof

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Who else is on Fetlife? Being ABDL, how was your experience using that site?
 

ForeverSmall

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Mixed. People here are also pretty close minded and self-hating at times, but on fetlife it is a lot worse. People on fetlife can be really mean and clicky. If you were to say Your abdl is a lifestyle instead of a fetish expect to be harrassed and possibly banned. I made an account and lurked for a while. I gave up after reading the mean posts.
 

MilesTheFox88

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I am also on Fetlife, and have had a mix of good and bad encounters. Not helped by the fact that the Indiana ABDL scene is pretty much dead.
 

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Hmmm... well I've joined my local city ABDL group. Our city does not have a regular munch, which is astonishing!
So Im single handedly attempting to organize at least one summer munch for the San Antonio area :)
I was up for hours personally messaging and friending some of the ageplay/abdl fetishists in my city. Most seem pretty excited to finally get our city's ABDL community connected. We're still very early in the planning stages, so the munch might not be for awhile..
But I'm really loving this task of organizing my city's scattered troops :) it can be hard and ostracizing being an ABDL, so I want them to know they belong and they matter in my city :)
 

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There's some good people on there, but a lot of the groups are either unmoderated or inactive. When they are active, they're teeming with either neurotic types or creepers. And between the discussions and pictures, I just can't shake the feeling a lot of it is just one popularity contest to see who can accumulate the most friends, comments or picture 'loves'.

I find it very impersonal as well. But that's just me. Some people fit in rather well there, and good on them. Honestly, I'm on Fetlife almost exclusively for the good, consistent supply of fapping material.
 

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I've noticed on fetlife AB/DLs are more closed minded about the diaper and baby stuff. They compare it to sex and think wearing a diaper out in public is exposing your fetish and think you are doing it to get a thrill of trying to get caught. I call it projection. It's more sexual for them so they see it differently and project it on other AB/DLs who don't always find it sexual. They also have a beef about wearing diapers around your kids and the only exception is if you are incontinent.
 

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Mixed. People here are also pretty close minded and self-hating at times, but on fetlife it is a lot worse. People on fetlife can be really mean and clicky. If you were to say Your abdl is a lifestyle instead of a fetish expect to be harrassed and possibly banned. I made an account and lurked for a while. I gave up after reading the mean posts.

Just playing devils advocate here... People who have diapers as a fetish and not as a lifestyle don't really get to enjoy having a site that is specifically related to the sexual fetish part of it. Fetlife is the closest thing to it. So when people come in and are all killing the sexual vibe, it can be very disconcerting. After all, there are plenty of non sexual websites like Adisc.

Edit: I do get the impression here that if you say abdl is a fetish instead of a lifestyle, there will be harassment and possible ban as well. That's just the feeling I get from reading posts...
 
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WoofWoof

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I'm mainly just on there to organize a munch. :p
If I can get even a dozen people to show up, that would be cool. After that, they can feel free to shun/ban/burn my house down or whatever. But for the most part, these seem like lonely, non-raper people. :)
 

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Just playing devils advocate here... People who have diapers as a fetish and not as a lifestyle don't really get to enjoy having a site that is specifically related to the sexual fetish part of it. Fetlife is the closest thing to it. So when people come in and are all killing the sexual vibe, it can be very disconcerting. After all, there are plenty of non sexual websites like Adisc.

Edit: I do get the impression here that if you say abdl is a fetish instead of a lifestyle, there will be harassment and possible ban as well. That's just the feeling I get from reading posts...

I just wanted to correct a small misunderstanding. ADISC is a support site and as such isn't for hooking up or getting off, etc. The format can be somewhat restrictive at times but there's really nothing to stop anyone from having a discreet discussion about an adult topic. While under a broad definition, even non-sexual ABDLs can be classified as having a fetish, I would say it's more trouble than it's worth to push that line. It's a fetish or kink for me first and foremost and I'm certainly not the only one. We still share things in common with the lifestylers. A little sensitivity on both sides is a big help.
 

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Fetlife is great! My great friends and I run our local ABDL/Little group from that site.


(( ABDL IS A FETISH!)) So, when you tell people that it's not, then expect to be corrected. If you explain how it's not a fetish for YOU, but more of a lifestyle, or coping mechanism, or whatever it is for you, then most people are very accepting.
 
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CrinklySiren

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I finally joined Fetlife! I look forward to adding some of you, especially if you're in my area.

Find me:
DiaperWoof

^-^

Who else is on Fetlife? Being ABDL, how was your experience using that site?

I'm on there too! :) ZooeyLunaBaby


I've been on there for the last year and I actually have a group i hang out with most weekends and do little things together, we play and get diapered and i go to monthly parties on this littles group that are so much fun. Its not until i join Fet that ive made so many little/abdl friends ^_^ in my area alone i have made like 10 friends, the majority of them are my age or around my age, and the ones who are older than me are still very wonderful people :)

Ive heard people have had bad experiences on FL, but honestly i've not run into any mean people, granted there are some creepos but thats to be expected from any site >_> this site is not without its share of creeps...
 
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CrinklySiren

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Just playing devils advocate here... People who have diapers as a fetish and not as a lifestyle don't really get to enjoy having a site that is specifically related to the sexual fetish part of it. Fetlife is the closest thing to it. So when people come in and are all killing the sexual vibe, it can be very disconcerting. After all, there are plenty of non sexual websites like Adisc..

This is actually not entirely true, there are plenty of only-sexual ageplay people on fetlife, the problem is that the majority of them lack basic social skills and post crotch shots, randomly friend people with nice pictures and spend most of their time loving picture by picture, never truly being active, and they always have obvious names like "pampersluvsforever" or "diapersme", and lack uniqueness. I know like 5 people who are 100% sexual and they're really cool people, but the sad truth is that some of the sexual ones let it get to their heads and they go around being creeps and saying strange and incoherent things. There are also a few sites that cater specifically to the sexuality side of it, which i wont put on here because im not sure if im allowed to.. the only thing is that if you're a straight male, you wont find very much on these other sites.
 

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Mixed. People here are also pretty close minded and self-hating at times, but on fetlife it is a lot worse. People on fetlife can be really mean and clicky. If you were to say Your abdl is a lifestyle instead of a fetish expect to be harrassed and possibly banned. I made an account and lurked for a while. I gave up after reading the mean posts.

I have a FetLife account that is quite open about my ABDL interests. Also have various diaper pictures on my profile. Never had an issue with people being negative towards me and have certainly never been known anyone be banned over it. Don't tend to use the groups much, as they're simply not that active.
 

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I'm coolcars on there. I added you woofwoof and others. Anyone can add me if you want :).
 

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Usually I'm quick to pick up on sites and whatnot, but I don't really intuitively know how this works. Is it like a dating site?

"A search for “adult baby” resulted in… nothing, nada, zilch. :-("

Edit: So I found some stuff a bit, by ABDL. I'm quite frightened to be honest you guys. So far everything I see looks like something in the earlier scenes of a horror movie. Oh you poorly spelled how badly you wanted to take care of a hot baby girl? Let me get right on that...

Every post here should be titled "I'll love you. To death."
 

Trevor

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Usually I'm quick to pick up on sites and whatnot, but I don't really intuitively know how this works. Is it like a dating site?

"A search for “adult baby” resulted in… nothing, nada, zilch. :-("

Edit: So I found some stuff a bit, by ABDL. I'm quite frightened to be honest you guys. So far everything I see looks like something in the earlier scenes of a horror movie. Oh you poorly spelled how badly you wanted to take care of a hot baby girl? Let me get right on that...

Every post here should be titled "I'll love you. To death."

It seemed to me like if we didn't have a forum and just relied on groups to get things done. It's an odd dynamic but it clearly works for some people.
 

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I have found zero benefit from FetLife. It's a nice idea, but it's useless if you're a guy. Every woman is either partnered, not straight or is some guy pretending to be a woman. Plus, the site is full of little cliques where people are self-righteous and look down upon anyone who enjoys a fetish in a way of which they don't approve (some "open-mindedness", huh?). I made a discussion post asking whether anyone had ever spotted a diapered adult in public, and a cadre of goons "flamed" me for several pages. They have a group of ringleaders -- two or three real (for certain) ab/dl women who are pretty good looking and have guys groveling for them.
 
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