Thank you.. I will for sure think about this! It means a lot that you take time to answer my ramblingsI'm not sure if this helps - but maybe it is an idea to spend some time to think about your own role in this relationship. I mean - he's asking for a lot and you're not very happy with it.
He brought you into a position that is hard to accept - so my question would be: What is its contribution to redress this imbalance .
I'm not sure but such a situation can also be seen as a chance and can open a lot of possibilities. The key might be to start thinking about your own desires - best the really deep ones. It's like you just met a fairy godmother who grants you some wishes - which you should choose well, because he stands now in a great debt to you .
I just can guess but when I read what you write I get the feeling that maybe you value his needs more than your own. There is nothing wrong with that and it is part of love, but it will only work if the partner have the same idea of loving. But even if this is not the case - you need to rebalance the relation somehow and this will only work if you kick in your own desires. They may not necessarily fit but I think it's the only way to start a discussion and maybe find compromises that fit to both of you. But again - it's just an idea...