• Please go to your preferences page and make sure your "See Mature Topics" setting is set. Setting it to "Yes" means you see the Mature Topics forum (contains political and religious debates). Setting it to "No" means you do not see those threads.

Is it weird to be turned on by my wife wearing incontinence pads?

PaddedInEastvale

Straight Diaper Lover
Est. Contributor
Messages
765
Role
Diaper Lover
So my wife has had stress incontinence since she had our twins almost 12 years ago. This means she leaks a little when she sneezes, coughs, laughs, etc. She was able to get by with a very small and thin panty liner up until a few weeks ago. The leaking became too much for the small liners and she now has to wear big thick pads that extend halfway up her front and backside. When I caress her backside and feel that thick pad, I get turned on. I love patting the pad because it sounds like patting a diaper. Is this weird that this has become a big turn on for me? She obviously finds it weird that I’m turned on by it, but she knows about my love for diapers so she’s not too surprised. Have I crossed a line here?
 

Nem0

Est. Contributor
Messages
26
Role
Private
I don't think it's that weird honestly. Sounds sort of natural. People do things and have things that make them unique I've learned over my lifetime. People change too, could have been her pregnancy changing something with the pain. Like eating hot sauce it can give you sort of a rush over time for a short while that can be gratifying.
 

RedPandaDL

God bless America!
Est. Contributor
Messages
890
Role
Diaper Lover
I have always thought my wife wearing pads for her period was kind of sexy. I originally thought it was because it is feminine, but now that I am a diaper lover, I think that has a lot to do with it. I don’t think your being turned on by your wife wearing pads is weird at all.
 

irnub

Est. Contributor
Messages
1,416
Role
Diaper Lover, Diaperfur
Is this weird that this has become a big turn on for me?
Yes, it's weird. That's why abdl is considered a fetish and not a mainstream sexual attraction like genitals/butts/breasts/legs/whatever. We're all a bunch of weirdos here.

That said, I remember very occasionally sneaking a pad from the supplies of female family members from back before I could get out and buy my own diapers. From the other replies, pads being a turn on doesn't appear to be out of the norm among abdls.

Have I crossed a line here?
Talk to your wife. If she's ok with it, do whatever makes the two of you happy.
 

TeddyBearCowboy

A real-life, genuine teddy bear cowboy...
Est. Contributor
Messages
919
Role
Adult Baby, Diaper Lover, Babyfur, Diaperfur, Little
Yes, it's weird. That's why abdl is considered a fetish and not a mainstream sexual attraction like genitals/butts/breasts/legs/whatever. We're all a bunch of weirdos here.

Ummmm.... Irnub, no. That is not the case.

I am not a weirdo, and I think most of us here are not "weirdos".

Just because we have a unique interest, doesn't make us weird. It is just different from others. I know, I know, perhaps you are grammatically correct in that a "weirdo is defined as --"a person whose dress or behavior seems strange or eccentric."

Okay, by this definition, maybe we are weirdos.

But I for one do not think I am a weirdo. Yes, it may seem strange or eccentric to some, but for me and those within our community, it certainly is not. What is weird is all in the eye of the beholder. Personally, I think that anyone who likes eating cooked insects is weird. But if you go to another country, they are considered a delicacy and you would be the weird one for not wanting to eat them. Soooo.... who is the one that is weird?

Like I said, it is all in context and in community.

To the OP...

No, this is not weird. It is part of the interests that you have in being ABDL and often incontinence and diapers can have a sexual context for those who have this interest. You are also talking about your wife, who hopefully you otherwise get turned on by, so by combining the two, it seems only natural that you might get turned on by it.

Best wishes





one whose T
 

ChocChip

Est. Contributor
Messages
895
Role
Diaper Lover
Certainly not surprising it’s a turn-on, for most straight male ABDL’s it definitely would be. The challenge is not making her feel uncomfortable given it’s probably something she finds far from sexy herself.

I bet you’re hoping she eventually graduates to proper diapers though ;)
 

fearfulharmony

[they/them]
Est. Contributor
Messages
26
Age
19
Role
Adult Baby, Diaper Lover, Babyfur, Diaperfur, Little
As someone who regularly has to wear pads thanks to my biology, I don't think its weird! I can't say I'd ever share the same opinion since pads are dull and boring to me, but I can see how they could be arousing for someone who's never had to wear them for 10 years off and on every month, especially for mild urinary incontinence. If your wife isn't uncomfortable because of this, there's no reason to feel ashamed. If she is, have a talk and see what can be done to not cross her boundaries.
 

ElPulpo

The friendly diapered octopus
Est. Contributor
Messages
742
Age
47
Role
Diaper Lover
So my wife ... has to wear big thick pads ... Is this weird that this has become a big turn on for me? She obviously finds it weird that I’m turned on by it, but she knows about my love for diapers so she’s not too surprised. Have I crossed a line here?
Weirdness is within the eye of the beholder.
She obviously finds it weird, and that's unfortunately for you perfectly legitimate. To be honest, I find a lot of what I do weird, too. Pee is meant to leave your body, so it's unnatural to keep it around if you have the possibility to get rid of it. From the reproductive point of view, arousal from excretion in humans may be considered futile and hence rendered weird as well. (Mind that many mammals flehmen, though). But that's probably not the point here.

There's lots lof diaper porn available, if you haven't noticed yet, so getting turned on by other people being diapered is not unusual, even less so, if the person in question is your significant other. Considering this, I'm not at all surprised and might feel just a wee (haha) bit jealous, because on the one hand, my wife tolerates me being diapered, but on the other refuses to give it a try herself.

For me, the biggest question seems to be whether you cross a line. You get a turn-on from something which for your wife is probably at best neutral or might even be seen as a nuisance. Suppose, as a more extreme example, you have a leg amputated and your wife happens to be turned on by your prothesis (Yes, Acrotomophilia is a thing). This might irritate you. Incontinence is of course less drastic, but you sure get the analogy. I noticed your wife does not tolerate your diapers, so I can imagine she does not approve of hers being your object of lust either. But that's just my imagination, of course you have to sort it out yourselves.

I know from the past how frustrating it is to oppress your desires. Maybe you are lucky and one day some padding gets normal for both of you. Maybe some day she even learns to appreciate some of the softness and safety she gets used to and accepts that this may be a thing for you too. I wish you the best and hope you can reach an agreement of one sort or other.
 

AAO

Est. Contributor
Messages
995
Role
Diaper Lover
After our son was born my wife had to wear Always Discreet underwear then pads for a time. I’ll admit that turned me on even though she didn’t really like having to do it. It also turns me on to get a glimpse of her wearing her period pads but she does everything she can to hide them. Every so often, like maybe once a year, we will get so hot and bothered that we play around while she is wearing one and I get to feel it. That really turns me on but I can tell she gets a little embarrassed by it but not enough to stop. I’ve tried to explain to her that it doesn’t bother me to see her wearing one but she just doesn’t understand how that could be.
 

KenworthW900b

Est. Contributor
Messages
599
Role
Diaper Lover, Incontinent
I personally have never experienced this but it sounds rather enjoyable, my wife wears pads during shark week but they are not really all that noticable. She has padded up with me a time or two for various reasons but not in a while and I enjoyed that even though I admit it felt a bit awkward seeing her that way.
 

Rescue

Contributor
Messages
84
Role
Diaper Lover
100% not weird and Id like lying and I said I didnt get alittle turned on reading the post while imagining it was my own wife!

My wife is the same as most others. Pads only during shark week but goes out of her way to hide it and HATEs when I even get near it while feeling her behind. I can hear the pad crinkle when she walks by me and that is equally as much as a turn on.

Same tho...she doesn't understand how much easier things would be if she would just buy into it and incorporate it somehow.
 
  • Like
Reactions: AAO

xtrabulk

Est. Contributor
Messages
472
Role
Diaper Lover
My girlfriend only wears pads, and it's hot. Not for incontinence though, just for her periods, which are light due to her IUD. I find it hot not only because I used to steal pads as well, but also because I pretend she's "too tight" for tampons. There's a lady at my AA meetings who wears pullups, and I think that's totally hot as well.
 
  • Like
Reactions: AAO
D

Deleted member 50300

Guest
So my wife has had stress incontinence since she had our twins almost 12 years ago. This means she leaks a little when she sneezes, coughs, laughs, etc. She was able to get by with a very small and thin panty liner up until a few weeks ago. The leaking became too much for the small liners and she now has to wear big thick pads that extend halfway up her front and backside. When I caress her backside and feel that thick pad, I get turned on. I love patting the pad because it sounds like patting a diaper. Is this weird that this has become a big turn on for me? She obviously finds it weird that I’m turned on by it, but she knows about my love for diapers so she’s not too surprised. Have I crossed a line here?
Being in the medical field... it your wife is not AB/DL has she seen a urologist or GYN doc who specializes in incontinence? They have lots of options available starting with Kegel exercises and biofeedback, all the way up to corrective services. Even as a DL who occasionally pretends about being incontinent, having problems continuously is not fun, and most aren't happy about it. If she is unhappy with having to wear large pads, and that is the norm for those who don't share our fetish, she needs to look into this.

Otherwise, women have decidedly different opinions on their periods... One of my girlfriends years ago loved for me to pull her tampons out before lovemaking. Then there's my wife who would prefer to be abstinent... you have to respect those boundaries as they are dictated by the woman in the relationship!
 

PaulLovesMaxipads

Contributor
Messages
8
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
So my wife has had stress incontinence since she had our twins almost 12 years ago. This means she leaks a little when she sneezes, coughs, laughs, etc. She was able to get by with a very small and thin panty liner up until a few weeks ago. The leaking became too much for the small liners and she now has to wear big thick pads that extend halfway up her front and backside. When I caress her backside and feel that thick pad, I get turned on. I love patting the pad because it sounds like patting a diaper. Is this weird that this has become a big turn on for me? She obviously finds it weird that I’m turned on by it, but she knows about my love for diapers so she’s not too surprised. Have I crossed a line here?
I don't think you've crossed a line if your wife enjoys you feeling or patting her pad, or perhaps not so much 'enjoys' but doesn't mind it, which appears to be the case. I can understand her thinking it weird though, or pervy.

I'm in the UK, and my wife has always worn big thick pads, both for stress incontinence and for her periods (Tena Lady Maxi Night and Kotex Night Time Maxi sanitary toweld), and she absolutely hates me being turned on by her pads, and the white cotton panties she wears with them.

She finds it really weird and pervy, so hides her pads and panties from me as much as possible, covering up at night with PJ bottoms and making me leave the room if I happen to catch her changing pads. Before we have sex, she always goes into the bathroom to remove her pad and knickers, so I can't see it, and if I go near her bum or put my hand in between her legs when we're having a snog, she'll push it away.

She doesn't even like me being there when she's buying pads in the supermarket, as she knows that looking at the packets of big thick pads she's put in the trolley turns me on, as I imagine her wearing them, and she doesn't like it, so I'd count yourself lucky that she allows you to touch her padded bum at all!

Paul.
 
Last edited:

PaulLovesMaxipads

Contributor
Messages
8
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
After our son was born my wife had to wear Always Discreet underwear then pads for a time. I’ll admit that turned me on even though she didn’t really like having to do it. It also turns me on to get a glimpse of her wearing her period pads but she does everything she can to hide them. Every so often, like maybe once a year, we will get so hot and bothered that we play around while she is wearing one and I get to feel it. That really turns me on but I can tell she gets a little embarrassed by it but not enough to stop. I’ve tried to explain to her that it doesn’t bother me to see her wearing one but she just doesn’t understand how that could be.
Join the club! As I said, my wife's exactly the same. She's not only shy about it, but hates me being turned on by her pads. May I ask what sort of things she does to hide them, and what lengths she goes to achieve that? I could tell you a few stories in that respect!

Also, does she wear large (thick and long) period pads? My wife does, and I think that's also part of the problem, as she's embarrassed by the bulge it causes in her panties, and as she often wears white ones, which are quite transparent, that makes it worse. She's always worn white cotton panties (Sloggies) since I've known her though, on her period or off it.

The thing that gets me too, is that I know she gets really horny on her period, and plays with herself in private to satisfy her urges (as she doesn't like sex when she's on), but won't let me watch, or if I catch her playing with herself (rubbing her pad through her panties, to make herself cum), she gets very embarrassed and asks me to leave the room until she's finished, which is quite frustrating!

Also, I know she likes wearing thick pads, and finds them soft and comfy (enjoys the padded feeling), as I've heard her talk to her girlfriends quite openly about it (although at the time they didn't know I was listening), so it's clearly something she enjoys herself, but unfortunately doesn't wish to involve me in. When I press her on it, she just says it's a "girly thing" and nothing for me to be concerned about :(

Paul.
 

PaulLovesMaxipads

Contributor
Messages
8
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
My wife is the same as most others. Pads only during shark week but goes out of her way to hide it and HATEs when I even get near it while feeling her behind. I can hear the pad crinkle when she walks by me and that is equally as much as a turn on.

Same tho...she doesn't understand how much easier things would be if she would just buy into it and incorporate it somehow.
As I've said, my wife is the same. Again, may I ask if she wears the larger kind of period pads? I suspect she does, and that that's part of the issue. What does she tell you and say that she hates? Also, does she try and hide her pads from you at night before bed or when getting dressed or undressed? Mine does.

Your last sentence in particular resonates with me, as I'm in the same position of wishing she would involve me in her wearing of pads, but being frustrated at the existence of the opposite: her hiding them from me at every opportunity and finding me being turned on by them as weird and perverted.

Paul.
 

bounduptoplease

Contributor
Messages
217
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
Definitely not weird, my ex who hated her periods knew that as she lost heavily she had to use the thicker pads, and I found running my hand over them in bed felt....well........good. She used to laugh, and said it seemed odd to her that I would find something so simple as a pad exciting.

Interesting she did not mind me running my hand under her crotch, until she found she had started to leak, I suggested she wore one of my nappies and she found it quite liberating, and saved a fortune on washing the sheets.

So no it is NOT weird.
 

AAO

Est. Contributor
Messages
995
Role
Diaper Lover
Join the club! As I said, my wife's exactly the same. She's not only shy about it, but hates me being turned on by her pads. May I ask what sort of things she does to hide them, and what lengths she goes to achieve that? I could tell you a few stories in that respect!

Also, does she wear large (thick and long) period pads? My wife does, and I think that's also part of the problem, as she's embarrassed by the bulge it causes in her panties, and as she often wears white ones, which are quite transparent, that makes it worse. She's always worn white cotton panties (Sloggies) since I've known her though, on her period or off it.

The thing that gets me too, is that I know she gets really horny on her period, and plays with herself in private to satisfy her urges (as she doesn't like sex when she's on), but won't let me watch, or if I catch her playing with herself (rubbing her pad through her panties, to make herself cum), she gets very embarrassed and asks me to leave the room until she's finished, which is quite frustrating!

Also, I know she likes wearing thick pads, and finds them soft and comfy (enjoys the padded feeling), as I've heard her talk to her girlfriends quite openly about it (although at the time they didn't know I was listening), so it's clearly something she enjoys herself, but unfortunately doesn't wish to involve me in. When I press her on it, she just says it's a "girly thing" and nothing for me to be concerned about :(

Paul.
The ones my wife wears are pretty thin. She doesn’t hide that she’s wearing them as much as she used to. We’ve been married almost 12 years now. But she would usually go to the bathroom or wait for me to leave the room to change pants.
 

PaulLovesMaxipads

Contributor
Messages
8
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
Definitely not weird, my ex who hated her periods knew that as she lost heavily she had to use the thicker pads, and I found running my hand over them in bed felt....well........good. She used to laugh, and said it seemed odd to her that I would find something so simple as a pad exciting.

Interesting she did not mind me running my hand under her crotch, until she found she had started to leak, I suggested she wore one of my nappies and she found it quite liberating, and saved a fortune on washing the sheets.

So no it is NOT weird.
I agree it's definitely not weird, and like you I find the feel (softness and bulk) of thick pads exciting. However, unfortunately my wife doesn't find that funny. If I tried to do what you did (which I have done in the past when she was asleep), and she felt it and woke up, I'd be in big trouble!

Her panties are strictly a 'no go' zone, when she's got a pad on (either incontinence or period). Love it that though you converted her to wearing one of your nappies(y)

Paul.
 

PaulLovesMaxipads

Contributor
Messages
8
Role
Diaper Lover, Other
The ones my wife wears are pretty thin. She doesn’t hide that she’s wearing them as much as she used to. We’ve been married almost 12 years now. But she would usually go to the bathroom or wait for me to leave the room to change pants.
Ah ok, no problem. Mine does that, too. So when you say that doesn't hide her pads as much as she used to, that implies that she still does to an extent. Does she allow you to touch the pad in her panties, or be there when she's putting one on or changing a used one?

Paul.
 
Top