Figured I had better write an introductory post since I've already posted in a few other places on here. I'm "happy89", I'm 33 and female, and married.
I'm not ABDL myself, but I wear and use diapers every few days with my husband since I discovered he likes it. It's not something I would have chosen on my own (even though I have chosen to wear pull-ups or pads on occasion for practical, non-sexual reasons before) but I am growing to like it because I like how excited he gets, how much attention he lavishes on me when I'm wearing and wetting, the cuddles I get, and so on. I'm coming to realize I do have some "brat" or "middle" tendencies so I am gradually expanding as far as incorporating that when I wear. It's nice to feel carefree and let him take care of everything for me, brush my hair, check that I'm not leaking (though sometimes I'm "bad" and leak right after he checks just to see how he'll respond!). I used to be really opposed to falling asleep wet and insist on either being changed out of a diaper altogether, or put in a dry one, to fall asleep -- but I've started to like it and even ask to stay diapered falling asleep, usually giving it one last good soaking before climbing into bed. That said, I want to be careful that we don't get too over-reliant on diapers or wetting for sex but have a healthy mix in our repertoire. So sometimes it feels like pressing the accelerator then tapping the brakes right after.
As noted before, my husband really enjoys when I wear and wet (and that's why I do it) but he's actually the DL in the relationship, while I'm a bit of a middle/sub. His preference is just for me to wear, not him. Sometimes it's a struggle though because he has a lot of past feelings about this topic and gets down on himself for liking it, can be prone to the binge-purge cycles I've read about, and often second-guesses whether we're doing the right thing. Aside from his DL tendencies I'm actually quite a bit kinkier than he is, so when he gets stressed tends to retreat quickly to fall back to only the most "vanilla" ways of thinking. This in turn does lessen my enjoyment as pretty much the whole reason I wear for him is because I love seeing how confident, gentle-dominant, risk-taking, and so on that he gets when I'm wearing. So I'm looking to learn more about this too because I really want to convince him that this is all right, within our marriage, and that he doesn't have to go back to thinking there's something warped about it. At the same time, I want to expand my horizons so to speak too, and see what other individuals and couples are doing. I know I've already expanded a lot as far as what I'm comfortable with (and simply what feels good to me) but am looking to learn more too and maybe get some new ideas.
I'm not ABDL myself, but I wear and use diapers every few days with my husband since I discovered he likes it. It's not something I would have chosen on my own (even though I have chosen to wear pull-ups or pads on occasion for practical, non-sexual reasons before) but I am growing to like it because I like how excited he gets, how much attention he lavishes on me when I'm wearing and wetting, the cuddles I get, and so on. I'm coming to realize I do have some "brat" or "middle" tendencies so I am gradually expanding as far as incorporating that when I wear. It's nice to feel carefree and let him take care of everything for me, brush my hair, check that I'm not leaking (though sometimes I'm "bad" and leak right after he checks just to see how he'll respond!). I used to be really opposed to falling asleep wet and insist on either being changed out of a diaper altogether, or put in a dry one, to fall asleep -- but I've started to like it and even ask to stay diapered falling asleep, usually giving it one last good soaking before climbing into bed. That said, I want to be careful that we don't get too over-reliant on diapers or wetting for sex but have a healthy mix in our repertoire. So sometimes it feels like pressing the accelerator then tapping the brakes right after.
As noted before, my husband really enjoys when I wear and wet (and that's why I do it) but he's actually the DL in the relationship, while I'm a bit of a middle/sub. His preference is just for me to wear, not him. Sometimes it's a struggle though because he has a lot of past feelings about this topic and gets down on himself for liking it, can be prone to the binge-purge cycles I've read about, and often second-guesses whether we're doing the right thing. Aside from his DL tendencies I'm actually quite a bit kinkier than he is, so when he gets stressed tends to retreat quickly to fall back to only the most "vanilla" ways of thinking. This in turn does lessen my enjoyment as pretty much the whole reason I wear for him is because I love seeing how confident, gentle-dominant, risk-taking, and so on that he gets when I'm wearing. So I'm looking to learn more about this too because I really want to convince him that this is all right, within our marriage, and that he doesn't have to go back to thinking there's something warped about it. At the same time, I want to expand my horizons so to speak too, and see what other individuals and couples are doing. I know I've already expanded a lot as far as what I'm comfortable with (and simply what feels good to me) but am looking to learn more too and maybe get some new ideas.
