I can understand the feeling.
For the longest time I wanted to meet others into ABDL stuff and couldn't find anyone to, Eventually I settled for joining the local genereal kink/fetish munches and met people there who, while they don't share the same desire for diapers, all had some kind of kink that most "vanilla" people might find weird or disturbing.
That helped a little, and after a while I managed to get to a couple of events and meet some ABDL folk, and have met more since (still only a small number though if you don't count the events i got too that had a good 100+ people.)
All you can do is just keep trying, maybe see if there is a general kink/fetish munch near you and ask the organiser if they think an ABDL would be welcomed (I was at mine) and goto that, people may not share the interest but may be more willing to accept your desires there, you could also look for bigger conventions but you are going to have to travel for that and pay for a hotel room. Then there are sites like this or discord channels you can join, not the same as meeting in person but it is a good start and you can make some good friends.
RetroGirl15 said:
I mean the age shouldn't really matter; in fact i get along with people who are older than ppl in their 20s. (This is coming from a 22 yr old)
^This^ Age really shouldn't need to be a concern, again I can understand why someone would want to meet people around their own age but that severely limits your options especially around the age of 20 since most ABDL's that age are probably still trying to work out what it is they feel and why and trying to come to terms with it and are therefore probably much less likely to come out and meet anyone than someone who is nearly 40 and already accepted themselves.
Littlebabaprince said:
Here here!! Uk here 35 and ppl are near but never wanna meet for coffee or chats Etc
Friends is all I want
#lonely
UK here too, Bristol. I get this same thing. I'm always up to meet for a coffee/beer/lunch or whatever, whether it's about ABDL things or just to chat, make friends and hang out.
I know there are easily 100+ people here in and around my city alone, Fetlife's ABDL group specifically for my city (which sadly seems dead for a while now) has 97 members, the dd/lg group has 377, and the littles group (which is the most active) has 199.
Granted some of those members will be in 2 or more of the groups and some are not from my city but willing to travel here, but going by those figures you can say there is probably 100+ AB/DL/Littles near me I've also spoken to many on there who are local.
I know there are people on Adisc who are in bristol that aren't on fetlife or in those particular groups. We also had an event last year that had well over 100 attendees (sadly canceled for now though 😞 ).
The problem is I and several other people have tried setting up an ABDL munch or similar meet and although there is lots of interest for it from a good number of people, when it comes only a couple turn up. Folks into this tend to be either quite shy or maybe scared or nervous about meeting, even when they really want to deep inside, something holds them back.
