So a few weeks ago I made an account on ABDLMatch (without really doing any research) because I thought why not give it a shot. Since then I've read what people have said about it being a complete scam designed to extract money from desperate people. I've also received a couple of notices that people had messaged me on there, which of course I have to pay to be able to read. The first one I ignored because it seemed fake, which honestly kind of confirmed what people had been saying. The second message though was better, so I decided to bite. I'll go over what I've done in this thread, and provide updates on my findings.
1. Using
https://www.privacy.com/ I create a disposable credit card with a $10 limit that was set to expire immediately after the first use. I purchased the 3-Day Silver trial. If this message turns out to be a scam (which it probably will), they won't see another dime, not even a first month "oopsy you forgot to cancel" $29 charge.
2. I read and replied to the message. I also looked at the profile of the user who sent it. Turns out a sexy older woman from my city wants to get into ABDL and has already bought diapers and everything. Of course, her message to me was so generic that it could really appeal to anyone, and since my profile doesn't have any information, I could take it to mean anything from "I want to try this to spice things up in the bedroom." to "24/7 Total Power Exchange Diaper Slave with Contract".
3. I posed 3 simple questions in my message. These questions were designed to be the types of questions that literally anyone from my city could answer immediately, and if they couldn't answer them then they're really not someone I would be interested in anyway, even if they were real. On the other hand, it is extremely unlikely that a bot or even an actor or actress would be able to guess the answers:
1. What is a major landmark our city is famous for? (My city has an extremely famous landmark, and if you live here and don't know what it is, then you're too ignorant to even have a conversation with, much less pursue a relationship.)
2. What is the name of a major roadway (any major roadway) that goes through our area? (Anyone who has ever had to drive or navigate in this city could easily throw up many correct answers to this one.)
The problem with the first two is that a staff member arguably could get those answers using Google and 5 minutes of research. Those questions were mostly designed to defeat bots and increase the cost of any actor/actress. That brings me to the last question:
3. There is also a really really huge gas station on the way to the next major city that is pretty famous and as a particular mascot, can you tell me the name of the store or the mascot? (This question is vague enough that you probably can't just use Google to figure it out. On the other hand, it's also a pretty well known place, and this person claims to be a real estate agent, so this one is also easy for a real person to answer in my opinion.)
UPDATE:
I actually got a reply! I considered this possibility far less likely than simply hearing nothing at all, so at least we know it's not a bot. Or that at least an actor or staff member takes over when they get a response.
They were offended that I would question whether they were real, and suggested that if I had doubts I should never have joined the site, and said that my distrust is a turn off to many people. They also said that "for the record, I'm not going to answer your questions." they "don't want to fall for your (my) trap." because "it makes me (them) look stupid".
Ya right. It's only a trap if you're an actor and not a real person from my area. I think they gave themselves away with that line.
I replied to their reply. I apologized that I had offended them and explained that ABDLMatch has a terrible reputation within the ABDL community, and it was the site I distrusted and not them. I explained that people like them are very rare to find, and that I would love to talk to them more. I then insisted that they needed to answer the questions in order for me to be able to verify them. We'll see what happens next.
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By the way folks, I just wanted to take this time to point something out for all our younger, newer and especially less assertive folks.
A PERSON GETTING OFFENDED THAT YOU WANT TO VERIFY WHAT THEY TELL YOU IS PREDATORY BEHAVIOR AND A HUGE RED FLAG. Do not be swayed by this attempt to distract you, because that's exactly what it is, an attempt to distract you.
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My predictions are as follows, from most to least likely:
1) I get another generic message claiming to be offended that I dare question whether they are real.
2) I receive no further replies at all (a good scam artist won't waste time on someone who isn't going to be a good mark).
3) I get clearly made up or otherwise non-convincing answers to the questions. (seems less likely unless they aren't very smart or are extremely desperate for customers)
4) I get correct or reasonable answers to my questions, and we continue to have a conversation. (I'm not holding my breath).
If #1 or #3 happens, I'm going to respond and give ABDLMatch a piece of my mind. Preying on people's desperation and insecurities to extract money from them in a recurring fashion is despicable. The 3-Day trial will expire, and any further charges to the card will be declined because it expired as soon as I made the initial $3 purchase. I will then contact tech support and have them delete my account.
If #2 happens, I will let the trial expire and then contact tech support and have them delete my account.
If #4 happens, I will immediately try to find a way to connect with this person on another platform that doesn't charge for the privilege.
I'll keep you guys posted.
