If you met a *B/DL in public...

[Serendiapity]

Riding on the coattails of Pramrider's thread which is riding on the coattails of my thread, I have a question for all of you: if you were talking to someone and they told you they were AB/DL, how would you respond? Would you confess, too?

 

[h200420012]

yeah.. depending on who was with me. I'd let them do the majority of the confessing first....in case someone was trying to out you.

 

[miles]

If I thought the person was saying it truthfully yes I would.
I doubt many people would even joke about something like it though.

 

[Trevor]

A lot would depend on context of the conversation and how I knew this person. I think my default answer would be that I would not, at that time respond "me too!" I'd want to take some time to digest the information and dither about the possible effects of sharing. To me, it's personal and private, so anyone blurting it out without the right context would be a bad risk as far as I'm concerned. It's likely they wouldn't see it in the same way I do and might not be as discreet with any information I shared.

Now if this person was someone I was dating and they told me to come clean because they were more serious about the relationship, then I'd certainly fess up. It's all about context.

 

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Riding on the coattails of Pramrider's thread which is riding on the coattails of my thread...

wouldn't that just make a circle? that really takes the whole perpose away from riding on someones coattails in the first place, doesn't it.

if someone i knew confessed i would tell them i was too, but it it was a stranger than no way.

 

[mizzycub]

I don't know if I would confess, but my reaction would probably make it very obvious that I knew what it was - denial would be a more than a little difficult. You know how people supposedly only double take in fiction - well if that were to happen I would probably disprove that.

If I didn't give it away I probably wouldn't say to start off with. If they are a stranger I don't really want to talk to them about that sorta thing. If they aren't then they are trusting me, and I don't want them to think I am making a joke out of it. Also, I would want to be convinced - if they are pulling my leg (for whatever reason) I don't want to tell them when in reality they were just joking. I would eventually tell them if I thought they were genuine but I would wait and see before just telling them. I would tell them, just not immediately.

 

[Maverick]

I guess it'd depend on who it was. If it were one of my family members, I'd probably hesitate, because it might make our relationship more awkward. I'd be more open to admitting to AB/DL-ism too, if it were a friend. Most likely though, I'd probably think about it for a while and eventually make a decision as to what to do. I'd want to make sure it wasn't a joke or something, and I'd want to make sure it didn't negatively impact our relationship.

 

[ballucanb]

Yes, if someone admitted to me that they wore, I would tell them I wore also, they are the best kind of freinds, someone who shares your little secrets.

 

[Squigma]

I can't really imagine this happening. I'm not the person people usually choose to tell deep secrets too. So I'm really not sure how I would react.

I can't see myself tell this someone, even if they told me about if first. It would be really awkward to share this with any of my real-life friends, just because it's so personal to me and I just don't feel that close to most people. Still, it seems kinda sensible to me, if they're sharing then I should too. Plus, it might be quite interesting.

So I'm really not sure what I do, I guess it just depends on the situation.

 

[Grutzvalt]

If it was a good friend from school, I'd ask if they wanted to come over to my place after school, and then perhaps come out to them.

 

[Pramrider]

Not if there was even the slightest chance of the person coming into contact with any family members and possibly "spilling the beans" about me either intentionally or inadvertantly. So basically, NO would be the answer. Outside of ADISC, my AB side is going to pretty much remain a secret to anyone I meet, even if they do *come out* to me first for some reason.

Lot of coattail riding going on around here lately...

~Pramrider

 

[Cosmos]

Pfft, I already know one. And we're best friends.

 

[Prussic_aux]

I've got a very good friend whom I told a few months ago, and is keen on trying out diapers.

Though I don't know if he'll be totally *B/DL, we'll just have to see...

 

[jenoleander]

I would share thatI was in diaperstoo. If someonewas brave enough to admit it to me first then they must beable to tell that I was wearing too.

 

[ShyBaby]

The short answer is yes, probably.

However as Pramrider said, it it would depend who. I was on good terms with a colleague where I worked who was an M2F transsexual and into BDSM (ie: about as open minded as you can get) and after telling me about some schoolgirl roleplay/spanking establishment she visited once, invited me along.

After politely declining and trying not to choke on my lunch, I nearly said something like 'thanks, but I prefer to regress a little further back than my school years,' but held back, ostensibly because she was a manager where I worked and I just wasn't confident she wouldn't let it slip in some way (but maybe I wimped out and that was the pretext.) It's a pity, because I know it wouldn't have phased her and she would probably have supported me no end, but that's life I guess.

 

[Error404]

Yeah, without a fuss, it's a part of myself I've learned to be very open about. ALL my friends know. I even crash round at their places with my nuk 5 and my bunny plushie.

If anything, I think they appreciate me more because I trust them enough to tell them.

One of my friends (The one whom took longest to get used to it, ironically, being a gay furry) randomly decided to announce it in front of a few others when we were out in a restaurant one time, all of the table went quiet and stared at me, where my prompt answer was "Yeah, so? What's your point?"

Granted, he didn't specifically out and say "You wear diapers!" It was used as an insult in some argument so it came out as "At least I don't dress up like a baby for fun."

He had called me a pedophile once. I punched him square in the nose and fell out with him for two month... ...We argue alot...

 

[Zeit]

I've often imagined what that would honestly be like if someone I know well or even an acquaintance I knew from school would come out and say something, assuming they were.

I live by the "don't **** where you work" principle so I don't really often talk about personal issues with people I need to be professional with such as work-friends and most of my classmate partners. It'd be a really hard decision for me to make and I'd probably inquire as to the reasons for well... mentioning it.

I hate to sound hypocritical but to divulge this kind of stuff in public settings and out in the open makes me wonder about what's working inside their heads...

 

[Eclipse]

If it was a girl, whether a girlfriend, friend, or acqauntence, I would tell her I was one too. As for guys, well it would have to be a really close friend.

Since people brought up the work setting, I would not tell anyone at work, unless it was a girl I knew for several months and felt very close with. I would have to know some deep secrets before I told her, so I would have back up plan for black mail lol.