Try looking at Littles Munch - that's probably the easiest way to get to meet other ABDLs in person. If you live in or near a city with a gay / kink scene there may be some kind of fetish club night you could get to where you'd find fellow ABDLs as well. Your location just says "USA" so you may be close to an area where you can find ABs easily, OTH you could be two states away...