I told my wife!

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Well back in March I was on here asking for advice about telling my wife (thanks everyone who responded). Last night I finally just bit the bullet and told her.

So I am sure everyone would like to know her response. Well - she is so far completely ok with it. She wished I would of told her sooner but she understands why I was afraid to tell her. She says she loves me no matter what and if this is part of me then she is ok with it. She has said I do not have to hide wearing them anymore. If I want to wear one around the house then go for it. She told me to put them in my bottom drawer.

When I told her that I like to wear to bed once in a while cause it is stress relieving, she said I can wear them to bed if I want. She even told me if I wanted to wear to bed that night I could. I decided not to, just cause I did not want to overwhelm her too much.

She is accepting but a little shocked. I will update on how things go over the next few weeks.
 

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Congrats on telling and getting such an accepting response. Just don't make things uncomfortable for her.
 

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Im glad she is accepting. I think that we all need one person that we can talk to about this. Im glad you have found that one person. I hope everything goes well.
 

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Best of luck - kudos to you for having the guts to tell someone! I'm just coming to terms with it, about to buy my first nappy in the next few weeks, but I just think I'd need to know a deep secret about someone in return/first before I was comfortable!

But well done again, and I hope it turns out as well as you hope! Let us all know how it all progresses though, I'll be waiting in anticipation!
 
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Last night my wife told me if I wanted to wear a diaper to bed I could. So I did! We cuddled before going asleep and she felt the diaper quickly with her hand. She usually sleeps in later than me, so when I was getting out of bed she looked up and saw me wearing my diaper (lightly wet), this was the first time her seeing me wear. She asked if I slept good, which I did not really (just odd sleeping in bed with my wife while I was diapered). I am sure I will sleep deeper as I relax about wearing around my wife.

I gotta say - My wife is fantastic and so understanding. I love her so much!
 
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Nice, I totally understand.
I bet it feels like a big weight has been lifted off you. Keeping such a big secret from someone you love is difficult, but the fear of something going wrong if it's revealed is tough.
I also wear to bed. I wear boxers over my diaper so my wife doesn't have to touch the plastic if she doesn't want to. The kind with the wide elastic at the waist work best, especially if the diaper doesn't have very good waist elastic.
It will take some time to just relax and sleep well, just getting used to sleeping while wearing is tough for some people, never mind with a partner.
Take it slow, good luck.
 

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Congrats on tell your wife, glad everything worked out for you ;)
 

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Has anyone ever heard of someone being flat out rejected by a significant other due to wearing diapers?

I told my wife before we got married. The conversation was difficult at first, but she was of the mind that it wasn't a big deal. It seems like if you have a decent relationship with someone, the diaper issue doesn't change that. She was glad I told her and very understanding. Better to *not* have secrets to hide from your spouse.

There was one web page I saw that several ladies on there who were going on about how they would never be involved with someone who wears diapers (article was asking advice on how to tell girlfriend). One said she would force him to wear a catheter instead since she 'knew about those things'.

In reality I wonder just how many people would be turned off by being involved with someone who wears diapers. Is it really that much of a deal breaker? There are much worse red flags to be aware of when dating/being involved with someone.

Anyway, congrats on clearing the air with your wife. It must be very liberating to have that weight off your mind. It helps me that my wife encourages and supports my use of diapers. She's awesome.
 
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Uber congrats. You're a model for others now :)

Has anyone ever heard of someone being flat out rejected by a significant other due to wearing diapers?

I told my wife before we got married. The conversation was difficult at first, but she was of the mind that it wasn't a big deal. It seems like if you have a decent relationship with someone, the diaper issue doesn't change that. She was glad I told her and very understanding. Better to *not* have secrets to hide from your spouse.

There was one web page I saw that several ladies on there who were going on about how they would never be involved with someone who wears diapers (article was asking advice on how to tell girlfriend). One said she would force him to wear a catheter instead since she 'knew about those things'.

In reality I wonder just how many people would be turned off by being involved with someone who wears diapers. Is it really that much of a deal breaker? There are much worse red flags to be aware of when dating/being involved with someone.

Anyway, congrats on clearing the air with your wife. It must be very liberating to have that weight off your mind. It helps me that my wife encourages and supports my use of diapers. She's awesome.

When my fiancee found out (this is 4yrs ago, we got married, now divorced for other reasons) she threatened to leave me if I didn't quit...and she didn't even know that I WORE them...she only knew about going to diaper sites.
 
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Has anyone ever heard of someone being flat out rejected by a significant other due to wearing diapers?

I told my wife before we got married. The conversation was difficult at first, but she was of the mind that it wasn't a big deal. It seems like if you have a decent relationship with someone, the diaper issue doesn't change that. She was glad I told her and very understanding. Better to *not* have secrets to hide from your spouse.

There was one web page I saw that several ladies on there who were going on about how they would never be involved with someone who wears diapers (article was asking advice on how to tell girlfriend). One said she would force him to wear a catheter instead since she 'knew about those things'.

In reality I wonder just how many people would be turned off by being involved with someone who wears diapers. Is it really that much of a deal breaker? There are much worse red flags to be aware of when dating/being involved with someone.

Anyway, congrats on clearing the air with your wife. It must be very liberating to have that weight off your mind. It helps me that my wife encourages and supports my use of diapers. She's awesome.

To the OP I say congratulations. Your chick is cool; just take it slow and don't push. You should be fine.

To Pumapunku: I think that yeah, there are a lot of people who aren't as understanding about infantilism as we'd like. Of course there's the pedophilia comparison, but people are also weirded out by it because you're supposed to have completely different feelings for an adult than you do a baby in their minds.

I've told a couple girls who said to just completely keep it away from them and not mention it again. That's a supportive way to deal with it. lol

I've personally never had a girl leave me over infantilism, but I have left girls in part because of how they dealt with it. Mostly that reaction to infantilism was symptomatic of a larger personality problem, though.
 

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When my fiancee found out (this is 4yrs ago, we got married, now divorced for other reasons) she threatened to leave me if I didn't quit...and she didn't even know that I WORE them...she only knew about going to diaper sites.

Personally I would of tried to work it out or end the relationship right there. I mean if a person hate's it (a part of me) that much then it's clear it would not really work out all that well. I'd be fine with a person going "okay, whatever" and being indifferent to it, but not with a person that does not even try to understand. Those types of people that don't even try to understand others are just, selfish.

Anyways TC I am glad your wife took it reasonably well.
 

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Very good news =]

Seems your the lucky type, god knows how people feel after telling their partner if they broke up over it. I would dread that ever happening!
 

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:bunny:Congratulations! Good Show! I was one who advised your being open about this in a committed relationship/marriage. Regarding wearing diapers in bed, my wife likes to snuggle in bed and have unhindered access to "my manhood", So the compromise we reached is when she wears "snuggers" (during her period) I can wear diapers/plastic pants to bed. This has worked really well for us. I sleep well either way, we are both very comfortable with it. I can always have my binkie, blankie and stuffed rabbit every night, so I am seldom frustrated. It's just good to have the love and acceptance of your wife. Congratulations again.:bunny:
 
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Congratulations, everytime I read success stories it makes me happy because I hope I can find the right accepting woman as well. Congrats again and enjoy your wife and yourself!
 

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Has anyone ever heard of someone being flat out rejected by a significant other due to wearing diapers?

I told my wife before we got married. The conversation was difficult at first, but she was of the mind that it wasn't a big deal. It seems like if you have a decent relationship with someone, the diaper issue doesn't change that. She was glad I told her and very understanding. Better to *not* have secrets to hide from your spouse.

There was one web page I saw that several ladies on there who were going on about how they would never be involved with someone who wears diapers (article was asking advice on how to tell girlfriend). One said she would force him to wear a catheter instead since she 'knew about those things'.

In reality I wonder just how many people would be turned off by being involved with someone who wears diapers. Is it really that much of a deal breaker? There are much worse red flags to be aware of when dating/being involved with someone.

Anyway, congrats on clearing the air with your wife. It must be very liberating to have that weight off your mind. It helps me that my wife encourages and supports my use of diapers. She's awesome.

PumaPunku -

:bunny: Go back and read my post in the poll/thread "Have You Ever Told Anyone" Then tell me if you have ever heard of a more negative worst case senario than this. A true scene from hell.

Well, I went and got it for you (if someone could walk me through how to link to a former post, I'll try to do it that way next time):bunny:

Have you ever told
As a poll I would have checked both of the first two yes answers:

Looking to have her acceptance and possible involvement as "my Mommy", I told my first wife (of 11 years; we had two sons, two and five years old, by that time) This did not go well. During the divorce trial proceedings (in 1987), I had to answer questions about my diaper wearing and adult baby behavior interests in court. I had to submit to two complete psychiatric evaluations (because she alleged that I sexually abused my two sons). Due to this accusation, I could not have visits with my boys without supervision at the Dept. of Human Services Office. The outcome was that the allegations of abuse of ANY kind were completely unfounded and dismissed

She also sent letters outlining these sexual abuse and adult baby allegations to every member of my family, every friend and every member of my church, every professional associate, every college/university professor, my employer and all previous employers; in short every person that ever knew or respected me. My most trusted friends and associates were not phased. Most were outraged at my ex's ruthless and purely hateful behavior. So at that point my older brother and sister knew about it, but they never brought it up with me.

It took a couple years to even date after that. One girlfriend found adult diapers in my bedroom closet. Weeks later she commented that "I wouldn't need them any more." (I guess because I was with her and that would somehow meet all my emotional or sexual needs). I knew I wouldn't be telling her any more about my AB/DL side and that she would not be my life partner.

My next girlfriend thought I used diapers due to complications from intestinal surgery. Later when I told her about my AB/DL side - she wanted nothing to do with it.

When I met my current wife and life partner (whom I fell in love with the minute I saw her), I shared all of it with her early on. She was not really interested in playing mommy (especially anything to do with changing diapers). But she was very accepting about my AB/DL side and would let me wear diapers and plastic pants, use my binkie, have teddy bears and baby blankets. We both have our very playful and child-like sides and both nurture that in each other. I can't see having a life partner that did not know these intimate and important aspects of my sexuality or personality. I do realize (probably better than most due to the horrendous reaction and hateful attacks toward me by my ex-wife) the risks involved in telling a spouse, but I do feel that I could not live in secrecy in my most intimate relationship. I would never personally share this with any one other than my wife.
 
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first off congrats man sounds like you got a great wife there

and Diappered Rabbit... *BIG HUG* i feel sorry for ya sounds like you went through hell and back
 
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