I miss the old forum.

[Serendiapity]

I don't know if anyone else on ADISC feels this way, but I miss TBDL.org. It always seemed friendly, everyone in the community was happy to see you, and, at least for me, it just seemed happier. I miss some of my old friends from that site, and people who I looked up to. I miss the great stories that died with the crash, even my own story, The Infantilist Chapters of My Life, which I am negligent to re-write. (It was a fun hobby, it even got me 4 reputation points, but I don't know if I'll ever re-do it.) The community was smaller, warmer, closer-knit, and I always felt... wanted... which I don't always feel here. I remember finding out that there were others like me.

While there's nothing wrong with the modern site, it's just different. While I like the fact that there is much more diversity in age, I still miss when it was more for teenagers, because they are going through the same stuff that I am at this time. Now, I get the feeling sometimes that I'm not taken seriously. My crackpot theory? Reputation. Looking around, I notice that many people 16> have consistently lower reputation counts than our older friends in infantilism, and although you may argue, "Russian, it's because your posts suck more," I know that I try my best to make good, well thought out posts.

Also, the quality of the threads has changed. There are more repetitive topics now, in my opinion, the worst offender is the legalization topic. One or two threads on it would be fine, but now it seems like that's all a lot of people want to talk about anymore. F***ing drugs. Oh, and all forms of sex and genitalia size and shape, too.

I just want to feel accepted and loved. Usually, ADISC is good about this, but my bottom line is, times have changed, but I don't know if I have, too. I hope that, in reading this, you will not just shrug it off and negrep me, but will seriously consider what I am saying. Peace everyone, thanks for reading this piss-and-moan rant, please post if you have any comments. :grouphug:

-The Russian

P.S. I am Han Solo, if any of you remember me.

 

[Gingy]

Ive noticed that many people have been repping posts that make them laugh or insignificant things like that. I think its always good to add a little joke just in case. But yes they should be repping helpful or informational posts.

 

[avery]

the worst offender is the legalization topic. One or two threads on it would be fine, but now it seems like that's all a lot of people want to talk about anymore. F***ing drugs.

lawl, i know, right? how many threads do we need full of people getting their panties in a bunch over whether or not marijuana should be legal? i was bored with that topic the fifth or sixth time we had a thread about it. now i don't even bother to open those threads.

i don't really see that much of a difference between the old forum and the new one. it's still the same community. it's true that it's bigger than it used to be, but it's still a thousand times better than most other AB/DL communities. every time i start to really dislike someone in this community i remind myself how cool it is that i've actually gotten to know them well enough to dislike them. in most other places, you'd never get to know someone's actual personality. i see people having conversations that are like
"i like diapeees!"
"i like diapees too!!!!1"
"we like diapees!!!!1one =DD"
it's a shame that ADISC is getting a bit larger and more impersonal. but at least we'll never be like that.

looking down the member list at the people with the highest reputation, i don't really see any evidence that reputation has anything to do with age. mandi has the highest reputation right now, and she's only 17. to me this forum still seems to be oriented toward teens. i'm glad of that: it keeps people on their best behavior.

 

[Fire2box]

lawl, i know, right? how many threads do we need full of people getting their panties in a bunch over whether or not marijuana should be legal? i was bored with that topic the fifth or sixth time we had a thread about it. now i don't even bother to open those threads.

i don't really see that much of a difference between the old forum and the new one. it's still the same community. it's true that it's bigger than it used to be, but it's still a thousand times better than most other AB/DL communities. every time i start to really dislike someone in this community i remind myself how cool it is that i've actually gotten to know them well enough to dislike them. in most other places, you'd never get to know someone's actual personality. i see people having conversations that are like
"i like diapeees!"
"i like diapees too!!!!1"
"we like diapees!!!!1one =DD"
it's a shame that ADISC is getting a bit larger and more impersonal. but at least we'll never be like that.

looking down the member list at the people with the highest reputation, i don't really see any evidence that reputation has anything to do with age. mandi has the highest reputation right now, and she's only 17. to me this forum still seems to be oriented toward teens. i'm glad of that: it keeps people on their best behavior.

she has a lot of referrals I was one of them and I think you get like 2 or 3 rep just for one of those. Anyways I was never on TBDL.com though I did check it out once or twice but back then I was on another site and I recently switched from there to here since this place is more active.

The problem with being one of the largest sites is more and more people will start jumping into the mix and thus it will get more impersonal. I try to be as open as I can without giving away my phone number or stuff like that. But I do tend to talk about stuff here more then I do with the people that are around me in real life.

The bigger things get though the worse off they do. Everything collapses on itself at some point. Then something new comes along and it starts the cycle all over again. No matter what everything changes as depressing as it may sound.

 

[MarcusBear]

Nostalgia goggle syndrome.

It made me download virtual console games which I thought were awesome & fun in the ''good ol' days'' but now, the they just suck.

I don't know if anyone else on ADISC feels this way, but I miss TBDL.org.

Got over it, quite quickly infact, I got more irritated by people reminiscing the ''flawless'' TBDL.org days than I did the site being purged into oblivion.

I still miss when it was more for teenagers

When I registered on this site I was a teenager, woefully people do get older. As to your ''crackpot'' theory it isn't all that surprising that the senior members recieve more reputation than the younger, seeing as they have the privilage of wearing the 'been there done that' stylish clothing range, thus they're able to respond with personal, well constructed advice thus earning more reputation, it isn't some deprive the young of reputation conspiracy, nor when you think about it a big revelation. Besides having 100> reputation and through fault of my own crashing back down to 0 I couldn't give two shits about reputation, I know now it isn't as important as its cracked up to be nor do I need lots of it to make me feel as though my opinion isn't being taken as seriously as others, that's nothing more than emo self torment.

Also, the quality of the threads has changed. There are more repetitive topics now, in my opinion, the worst offender is the legalization topic. One or two threads on it would be fine, but now it seems like that's all a lot of people want to talk about anymore. F***ing drugs. Oh, and all forms of sex and genitalia size and shape, too.

HELLO!?! this website is full of teenagers, young or hormone enraged of course there are lots of topics about sex, drugs & rock n' roll, that's what our target audience is curious about. Hypothetically if TBDL.org were still active and we had the mature section you'd see the exact same topics of discussion there, it has nothing to do with this forum being of lesser quality than TBDL. That's just nostalgia syndrome talking.

Ive noticed that many people have been repping posts that make them laugh or insignificant things like that. I think its always good to add a little joke just in case.

Identical to TBDL, how do you think I got all my reputation on the TBDL forum? Because I was teh funny. Besides, what's so bad about being given reputation for making people laugh? Making someone feel good is just as important as giving step by step instructions on how to make a diaper out of a bin bag and a tub of washing up liquid.

Don't tell me which posts I can or can not give out reputation to, if I feel like I should give pro rep to someone that made me laugh, get over it.

The bigger things get though the worse off they do

Only because of members complaining ''they got here'' first and moan about how they aren't being paid enough attention than they used to make it worse, thank god we got over that.

The bottom line is times have changed, don't like it? Get over it.

 

[daria7483]

Well, I'm one of the newer members, and I was never a member of TBDL.org. I had heard it was a great forum, but I never joined, partially because I was an active member at teenbabynet.org (which I haven't been to since joining this site, I feel a little guilty) and partially because the name seemed to imply it was mainly a teen site. Now, I know that sounds funny since I was at another site with "teen baby" in the name, but I was personally invited to join that site and the person who invited me assured me that it wasn't just teens.

When I first joined here, I was a little discouraged because it seemed like while TBN had quite a few college students or recent college graduates, it seemed like this site was mostly teens or adults much younger than me. I wondered how I'd fit in. It's not that I dislike teens - although, you'd probably think I did, from some of my other posts. I dislike a lot of characteristics that some teens these days have, and I won't go into that on this thread, because by and large, the teens here don't have those characteristics. Time and time again I've read a thread thinking "wow, this is really well-written and very mature" only to look at the poster's age and see that he/she was under 18. So I'd have to second naruto's comments about reputation.

It's just that, if a site is almost ALL teens, I just don't feel comfortable there. Although I sympathize with teens having to deal with their parents and getting caught, I get a little tired of "omg my parents found my diapers" threads and other similar ones that crop up more on sites with lots of teens. It's like the legalizing drugs threads. And although I can relate to most things teens said even though I'm not one anymore, I feel a little lame and grandma-ish continually writing "well, when I was your age" or "back when I was a teen."

Not to mention that if, by chance, this site was ever looked at by authorities thinking it was a pedo site - which does happen, unfortunately - one or two adults on a site with mostly teens would look really sketchy for those adults. And I feel like to a degree, I need to maintain a distance from teens in the AB/TB/DL community because of that. I don't want someone's mom discovering they've been on this site, freaking out, and then finding a whole bunch of PMs from a 24-year-old and assuming the worst.

On the other hand, I've explored adults-only sites, although not recently, and never liked what I saw - most of the posts seem to be sexually related and there's very little intelligent discussion. I like that this site, because it has teens, has to stay fairly clean. I enjoy posting in topics like "what's your ideal penis size," it's the ones where people describe exactly what they're doing in their diapers that I hate seeing. I like that we can discuss sex without it having to become sexual.

So, I guess the point I'm trying to make is I feel like a site like this offers the best of both worlds. I never visited TBDL so I don't know what I missed, but I really like adisc and I'm glad it's here.

 

[Vladimir]

I preferred the old website, but all the changes that were made aren't the website's fault, it's Moo's. I hate all the new rules, especially about memes and the taboo 4chan topic or anything that's related to it (like Anonymous), EVEN in the Mature forum. It pisses me off.
Another thing that I hate is the secret VIP requirement. Moo told me that he had enough of people who thought that they only had to get reputation to become a VIP or something similar, but isn't the point in reputation to show how respectable someone is and worthy of being on a higher rank?
There are many other things that annoy me with the new forums, like all the added features that are really pointless, at least to me, as well as the advertising politic with ADISC, and Moo's obsession with being in the first Google results. It attracts lots of members, which is not a good thing to me. I found TBDL thanks to my motivation, and I believe that helping random people to find the site through Google is stupid and pointless. I also don't like the fact that people who donate get more stuff, but I know that a lot of money was wasted during the crash and that you need help from members, so I don't mind. But I wonder when the donations will be hidden from the top of the main page, because it looks like MMORPGs that want you to pay to get extra items.
Also, to anyone who agrees with what I think about all this, I'm one of the only people who stands up and says what they think should be changed (yes, there are things that can and should be changed). That doesn't help with influencing our beloved administrator. Oh noes, revolution.

I could find a lot more things that I hate about the new system, but again, I don't blame the website itself.

Oh, by the way, the name change seems to attract even more pedophiles than before, at least to me. Maybe the proportion non-perv/perv is lower than before, but there ARE more members who join every day.

 

[Footed P.J.]

I preferred the old website, but all the changes that were made aren't the website's fault, it's Moo's. I hate all the new rules, especially about memes and the taboo 4chan topic or anything that's related to it (like Anonymous), EVEN in the Mature forum. It pisses me off.
Another thing that I hate is the secret VIP requirement. Moo told me that he had enough of people who thought that they only had to get reputation to become a VIP or something similar, but isn't the point in reputation to show how respectable someone is and worthy of being on a higher rank?

Yes, it is. However, that's a matter of opinion, imho. I think I'm worth maybe a few more points than 1, but others have reason not to think so. I do wonder if popularity is starting to penetrate the site, though. So, maybe more safeguards need to be put in place. I do admit, I'd love to know these secrets, but trust there is a reason they are secret.

There are many other things that annoy me with the new forums, like all the added features that are really pointless, at least to me, as well as the advertising politic with ADISC,

Well, I do like the features, but it does seem like some of the usergroups are hard pressed to get off of the ground. Personally, in that area, I'd love a reply system, which kind of notifies you when you are replied to.

As far as the "advertising politic", not even sure what it is.

 

[Charlie]

The site is bigger, and obviously that makes the whole community less tight. But it's not like it is much of a struggle to know everyone... I feel like I know all the VIPs and regular posters well.
I do miss being able to read most posts, as opposed to just some posts that I can read now. But that's not really a big deal, it's not like I've ever seen a regular or VIP and thought "Oh, I've never seen them before".

As for the age difference, I don't know. I think we have it a pretty good way. Members as young as 13, members as old as [insert oldest age here]. The poll on this showed it to be about 50/50 between under and over 18s. I like having younger teens here, because the site is after all a support site, and they do benefit from the site a lot. And the younger teens keep everyone else clean. I like that people, as Daria said, "can discuss sex without it having to become sexual", and I wouldn't like it if people swore excessively or got too descriptive about certain things.
I like older members, because they inject maturity into everyone else, and give the place a more grown up feel.

On on Darksun's post:
Yes there are more rules, but they are often for a good reason. And the meme rule is technically gone, except you can still get negative rep for it. Personally I think the problem is with people being too quick to give negative rep. Having vague, commonsensical rules are great, but people can abuse them... Having strict rules isn't good because there's always exceptions, and you end up lots of complicated rules.
I like the rules we have now, I think people just need to get over the obsession with rep.

Donors don't get much extra stuff... What do you mean? The only thing that donors get (apart from the satisfaction of donating ) is a pink username, if they want. And also they have the title "donor". That's it.

And I don't think the name change has attracted more pedos at all. If anything going from "teen" to "adult" has helped with this.

 

[Grutzvalt]

Definitely TBDL.org was better. Nowadays, we are getting to be less personal, less of a group of friends, and just a group of people who know each other's names. Rep has become a joke, yes. People are giving rep points for insignificant things, things that you can get from Comedy Central.

In conclusion, TBDL.org was much better.

 

[MarcusBear]

Definitely TBDL.org was better. Nowadays, we are getting to be less personal, less of a group of friends, and just a group of people who know each other's names. Rep has become a joke, yes. People are giving rep points for insignificant things, things that you can get from Comedy Central.

In conclusion, TBDL.org was much better.

Load of rubbish.

Don't take your own personal opinion and present it as fact.

Just what does it matter if people are getting insignificant rep points anyway? If pointless they will be deleted, besides how does it affect you any when someone other than yourself is given a rep point you deem to be inappropiate? Honestly, if it irritates you that much, take a step back.

As for this less personal accusation how do you think other original members felt when we invaded TBDL.org? When I first registered on the site it didn't stop them from being close friends so I can't fathom how it should stop you or anyone else for that matter. I'm still close with my original friends from TBDL before any of you lot came and ''ruined'' TBDL.

 

[FullMetal]

I just love how people here are talking about repetitive posts and threads when we have gone over this subjects maybe, what? Ten times. Honestly people just have to shut up about it already, if you really feel so strongly about it, go make your own site and see how easy it is to never make it change. This is a place to have fun, not to focus yourselves on reputation or what others are doing that you do not like. If someone is doing something really bad, report them. And you talk about the same threads and how they are boring, get the hell over it or, I don't know uuum, MAKE YOUR OWN. All I read are complaints and no one is actually doing what they are complaining because of X lack their of. You guys only focus on the bad and are so blind now to even accept the awesome things that are going on here. Nice one. Complain more though, maybe one day, when you have nothing more to complain about, something will magically change.

FullMetal

 

[Vladimir]

Yes, it is. However, that's a matter of opinion, imho. I think I'm worth maybe a few more points than 1, but others have reason not to think so. I do wonder if popularity is starting to penetrate the site, though. So, maybe more safeguards need to be put in place. I do admit, I'd love to know these secrets, but trust there is a reason they are secret.

Problem is, it makes becoming a VIP impossible without his consent, seeing as nobody knows how to become one and it makes it really hard and confusing.
I also wonder why only I and Ganymede (maybe a few others that I've never seen), who seem to have annoyed Moo to some point, have become Regulars from our VIP statuses. Which is why I want to know the requirements to being a VIP. But whatever.

Well, I do like the features, but it does seem like some of the usergroups are hard pressed to get off of the ground. Personally, in that area, I'd love a reply system, which kind of notifies you when you are replied to.

Not sure about what you mean.

As far as the "advertising politic", not even sure what it is.

I mean being in the first Google results seems to be very important to Moo, and I don't see why it's important to promote such a restricted community.

Yes there are more rules, but they are often for a good reason. And the meme rule is technically gone, except you can still get negative rep for it.

Never heard about that one.

Personally I think the problem is with people being too quick to give negative rep. Having vague, commonsensical rules are great, but people can abuse them... Having strict rules isn't good because there's always exceptions, and you end up lots of complicated rules.

I just think people are more inclined to neg rep someone if they aren't fond of them.

I like the rules we have now, I think people just need to get over the obsession with rep.

I honestly wouldn't care about rep if it wasn't for the VIP forum, and the fact that I used to be a VIP and that I suddenly got back to Regular status. It pisses me off, because the threads in the VIP forum are way more interesting and meaningful than the ones in, say, the Regulars forum (I don't even frequent that one anymore).
The problem isn't the reputation, it's the ranks and the private forums to me.

This is a place to have fun, not to focus yourselves on reputation or what others are doing that you do not like.

Makes me wonder why there IS reputation in the first place. Other than for becoming a VIP or whatever, I don't see what role it has, seeing as people can simply report people who really exaggerate and need to be given a warning, then an eventual temporary or permanent ban.

 

[chevre]

I honestly wouldn't care about rep if it wasn't for the VIP forum, and the fact that I used to be a VIP and that I suddenly got back to Regular status. It pisses me off, because the threads in the VIP forum are way more interesting and meaningful than the ones in, say, the Regulars forum (I don't even frequent that one anymore).
The problem isn't the reputation, it's the ranks and the private forums to me.

Really? Back in the days when I was a VIP (i.e. before the old site died) there was never much of any discussion there.

 

[Moo]

inline replies to some of the above posters

lawl, i know, right? how many threads do we need full of people getting their panties in a bunch over whether or not marijuana should be legal? i was bored with that topic the fifth or sixth time we had a thread about it. now i don't even bother to open those threads.

I agree, it is quite annoying. But, there are a few people here who care about it a lot.

i don't really see that much of a difference between the old forum and the new one. it's still the same community. it's true that it's bigger than it used to be, but it's still a thousand times better than most other AB/DL communities. every time i start to really dislike someone in this community i remind myself how cool it is that i've actually gotten to know them well enough to dislike them. in most other places, you'd never get to know someone's actual personality. i see people having conversations that are like
"i like diapeees!"
"i like diapees too!!!!1"
"we like diapees!!!!1one =DD"
it's a shame that ADISC is getting a bit larger and more impersonal. but at least we'll never be like that.

looking down the member list at the people with the highest reputation, i don't really see any evidence that reputation has anything to do with age. mandi has the highest reputation right now, and she's only 17. to me this forum still seems to be oriented toward teens. i'm glad of that: it keeps people on their best behavior.

Agreed

I don't know if anyone else on ADISC feels this way, but I miss TBDL.org. It always seemed friendly, everyone in the community was happy to see you, and, at least for me, it just seemed happier. I miss some of my old friends from that site, and people who I looked up to. I miss the great stories that died with the crash, even my own story, The Infantilist Chapters of My Life, which I am negligent to re-write. (It was a fun hobby, it even got me 4 reputation points, but I don't know if I'll ever re-do it.) The community was smaller, warmer, closer-knit, and I always felt... wanted... which I don't always feel here. I remember finding out that there were others like me.

While there's nothing wrong with the modern site, it's just different. While I like the fact that there is much more diversity in age, I still miss when it was more for teenagers, because they are going through the same stuff that I am at this time. Now, I get the feeling sometimes that I'm not taken seriously. My crackpot theory? Reputation. Looking around, I notice that many people 16> have consistently lower reputation counts than our older friends in infantilism, and although you may argue, "Russian, it's because your posts suck more," I know that I try my best to make good, well thought out posts.

Also, the quality of the threads has changed. There are more repetitive topics now, in my opinion, the worst offender is the legalization topic. One or two threads on it would be fine, but now it seems like that's all a lot of people want to talk about anymore. F***ing drugs. Oh, and all forms of sex and genitalia size and shape, too.

I just want to feel accepted and loved. Usually, ADISC is good about this, but my bottom line is, times have changed, but I don't know if I have, too. I hope that, in reading this, you will not just shrug it off and negrep me, but will seriously consider what I am saying. Peace everyone, thanks for reading this piss-and-moan rant, please post if you have any comments. :grouphug:

-The Russian

P.S. I am Han Solo, if any of you remember me.

I don't think that people are giving you less respect just because of your age. Mandi here has the highest rep of anyone on the site, and she's 17. Obviously, being young doesn't stop people from respecting you.
If you're not getting respect, it is far more likely to be your tone/attitude than your age. That's my guess, at least.

And Han Solo does ring a bell Welcome back.

Ive noticed that many people have been repping posts that make them laugh or insignificant things like that. I think its always good to add a little joke just in case. But yes they should be repping helpful or informational posts.

I think people should get credit for making others laugh. It helps keep the community together when we have fun by reading others' jokes. Also important is that it makes people realize that in order to get status, they have to add value to the discussion, value that others like.
On the other hand I think that a one-line joke is not as valuable as a long, thought-out post or article on a particular subject.

Nostalgia goggle syndrome.
The bottom line is times have changed, don't like it? Get over it.

Times change. Live in the past, or live in the present. Your choice.

I preferred the old website, but all the changes that were made aren't the website's fault, it's Moo's. I hate all the new rules, especially about memes and the taboo 4chan topic or anything that's related to it (like Anonymous), EVEN in the Mature forum. It pisses me off.
Another thing that I hate is the secret VIP requirement. Moo told me that he had enough of people who thought that they only had to get reputation to become a VIP or something similar, but isn't the point in reputation to show how respectable someone is and worthy of being on a higher rank?
There are many other things that annoy me with the new forums, like all the added features that are really pointless, at least to me, as well as the advertising politic with ADISC, and Moo's obsession with being in the first Google results. It attracts lots of members, which is not a good thing to me. I found TBDL thanks to my motivation, and I believe that helping random people to find the site through Google is stupid and pointless. I also don't like the fact that people who donate get more stuff, but I know that a lot of money was wasted during the crash and that you need help from members, so I don't mind. But I wonder when the donations will be hidden from the top of the main page, because it looks like MMORPGs that want you to pay to get extra items.
Also, to anyone who agrees with what I think about all this, I'm one of the only people who stands up and says what they think should be changed (yes, there are things that can and should be changed). That doesn't help with influencing our beloved administrator. Oh noes, revolution.

I could find a lot more things that I hate about the new system, but again, I don't blame the website itself.

Oh, by the way, the name change seems to attract even more pedophiles than before, at least to me. Maybe the proportion non-perv/perv is lower than before, but there ARE more members who join every day.

I've seen small groups of 'Anonymous' cause tens of thousands of dollars worth of criminal damage. I've seen them ruin innocent peoples lives by outing gay furries to their family and friends. I've seen them stalk people in real life. I've seen them push racist, homophobic and violent speech which creates a very destructive culture. They are morally bankrupt criminals who get their jollies from hurting other people. Promotion of them or their 'causes' is going to remain forbidden on ADISC. Memes are usually bad, but not always. Promotion of 'Anonymous' is always bad.

Reputation does show that someone has got status, but it is not the only measure of status. There are others... like how much that person has helped the community, and how mature/thoughtful they are. This has nothing to do with age. One of the guys I respect the most on this site for his mind is Spirit, and he's only around 15-16. Being young doesn't mean you have to be immature.

I don't want to be #1 in Google. It would be nice as a 'congrats, your site kicks ass' thing... but very quickly it would become a nightmare. The background check guys would quickly get overwhelmed with new applications, for example.

Donors get a pink username and a 'Donor' title under their name. That is all they get.

The donation link will never be hidden, because I spend $50 on this site per month, in addition to software licences and other costs (like the $150 software I bought yesterday). So I need that up there.

I don't mind people standing up and saying what they think, so long as they do it politely and with respect for the fact that I created this site and when things go wrong, I'm the one who gets stuck with fixing them. For example, taking down the donation link would cost me $60 a month and result in me buying less stuff for the site, hence reducing the site quality for all of you.

The only person who'se really qualified to judge on perv question is Charlie the background checks guy.

Well, I do like the features, but it does seem like some of the usergroups are hard pressed to get off of the ground. Personally, in that area, I'd love a reply system, which kind of notifies you when you are replied to.
As far as the "advertising politic", not even sure what it is.

As for getting off the ground, do you have any suggestions?
As for a reply system, check out the 'thread subscriptions' options in the thread tools and your UserCP. You can set it up so that you get emailed when someone replies to threads you've started or posted in.

The site is bigger, and obviously that makes the whole community less tight. But it's not like it is much of a struggle to know everyone... I feel like I know all the VIPs and regular posters well.
I do miss being able to read most posts, as opposed to just some posts that I can read now. But that's not really a big deal, it's not like I've ever seen a regular or VIP and thought "Oh, I've never seen them before".

As for the age difference, I don't know. I think we have it a pretty good way. Members as young as 13, members as old as [insert oldest age here]. The poll on this showed it to be about 50/50 between under and over 18s. I like having younger teens here, because the site is after all a support site, and they do benefit from the site a lot. And the younger teens keep everyone else clean. I like that people, as Daria said, "can discuss sex without it having to become sexual", and I wouldn't like it if people swore excessively or got too descriptive about certain things.
I like older members, because they inject maturity into everyone else, and give the place a more grown up feel.

Donors don't get much extra stuff... What do you mean? The only thing that donors get (apart from the satisfaction of donating ) is a pink username, if they want. And also they have the title "donor". That's it.

And I don't think the name change has attracted more pedos at all. If anything going from "teen" to "adult" has helped with this.

Agreed.

Definitely TBDL.org was better. Nowadays, we are getting to be less personal, less of a group of friends, and just a group of people who know each other's names. Rep has become a joke, yes. People are giving rep points for insignificant things, things that you can get from Comedy Central.

In conclusion, TBDL.org was much better.

Rep isn't a joke. Far from it.

Here are the last page of reps given:

* Negative useless post, dumb question [-1]
* Good post, except its been done before, make sure you search the forums next time. -XYZ
* Very good analysis! -XYZ
* Excellent, thanks for the video!
* For posting this thread. -XYZ
* Best. Story. Ever. -XYZ
* Very nice idea. I would've posted this myself, but you had. Thanks. ^_^ ~ XYZ
* Wise comments on the changes to this site.
* Lol, I was wondering when someone was going to say that, and those other 2 sites are terrible to use...
* Not exactly a smart comment... [0]
* Thank you for standing up for us.
* Thanks for this guide. =) ~ XYZ
* No need to bash moo in a post. [-1]
* Great story so far! ^.~ Can't wait for the rest... =p -XYZ
* i agree with some things you said and i disagree with other things, but i always admire people who have the courage to speak their mind.

Except where indicated in []s, all of these were +1.
"XYZ" has been used to cover the names of the people giving the rep.
Most of these rep seem reasonable, and some are very good. They might be a little vague, but they're OK. Certainly not a joke.

I just love how people here are talking about repetitive posts and threads when we have gone over this subjects maybe, what? Ten times. Honestly people just have to shut up about it already, if you really feel so strongly about it, go make your own site and see how easy it is to never make it change. This is a place to have fun, not to focus yourselves on reputation or what others are doing that you do not like. If someone is doing something really bad, report them. And you talk about the same threads and how they are boring, get the hell over it or, I don't know uuum, MAKE YOUR OWN. All I read are complaints and no one is actually doing what they are complaining because of X lack their of. You guys only focus on the bad and are so blind now to even accept the awesome things that are going on here. Nice one. Complain more though, maybe one day, when you have nothing more to complain about, something will magically change.

FullMetal

I don't mind the complaining, its what drives me to make the site better. The only things I mind are when people demand things rather than ask nicely, and when they seem more concerned with flaming other people off than being constructive and trying to make the site better.

 

[Error404]

I personally like these forums just as much as the TBDL forums.

A few choices of skins would be nice, this place could do with a lick of colour.

 

[dogboy]

I'm a relatively new member, having joined earlier this year. I'm certainly one of the older members, having gone through college during the Vietnam War era. In fact, my wife graduated from Kent State in 1970 during the student massacres. So Daria, if you feel somewhat removed from those teenagers, I really feel like I need to be careful in what and how I say things. At the same time, I feel fatherly emotions towards a number of the young regular contributors, and there have been times that I have shed tears over a few of them when life has come crashing down. Even as a new member, I too have enjoyed the smallness of the site, and wondered what would happen if there were hundreds and maybe thousands of members. I suspect some members will come and go as well; just disappear from the site. There are some I would truly miss, and yet, for some of the young ones, they probably will grow out of their infantilism, though I never did.

To the original post, as someone who has been around, all things change, and it is natural to cling to the safe past. In fact, that is a main part of being an infantilist. We want to keep the past that gave us joy, comfort, and safety always present. I've seen a lot of things change, and the worst of the world stay the same. I wiser older man, in fact he was superintendent of our schools when I was just a kid, told me that the mark of a sane man, was one who could accept and master change. I never forgot it.

 

[Vladimir]

Really? Back in the days when I was a VIP (i.e. before the old site died) there was never much of any discussion there.

There wasn't when I had access to it, but it was much more interesting than in other forums, because VIPs seem to express their personality more or whatever. It's a more comfortable place than the Regulars forum in my opinion.

I've seen small groups of 'Anonymous' cause tens of thousands of dollars worth of criminal damage. I've seen them ruin innocent peoples lives by outing gay furries to their family and friends. I've seen them stalk people in real life. I've seen them push racist, homophobic and violent speech which creates a very destructive culture. They are morally bankrupt criminals who get their jollies from hurting other people. Promotion of them or their 'causes' is going to remain forbidden on ADISC. Memes are usually bad, but not always. Promotion of 'Anonymous' is always bad.

What you're mentioning is the extreme. Look who's talking, a guy who made a forum for infantilists, which have a worse reputation than even Anonymous. I can't accept this kind of answer. I've been in Anonymous forums, and all they wanted was to be safe and have fun while sensitizing people. So no, Anonymous is NOT always bad, just like infantilism.

Reputation does show that someone has got status, but it is not the only measure of status. There are others... like how much that person has helped the community, and how mature/thoughtful they are. This has nothing to do with age. One of the guys I respect the most on this site for his mind is Spirit, and he's only around 15-16. Being young doesn't mean you have to be immature.

Anyone has the potential to be very mature or immature. Maturity can NOT be measured. Reputation is earned through maturity.

The donation link will never be hidden, because I spend $50 on this site per month, in addition to software licences and other costs (like the $150 software I bought yesterday). So I need that up there.

I understand.
Then was there a donation link on TBDL and did you pay the same amount of money to host it?

I don't mind people standing up and saying what they think, so long as they do it politely and with respect for the fact that I created this site and when things go wrong, I'm the one who gets stuck with fixing them. For example, taking down the donation link would cost me $60 a month and result in me buying less stuff for the site, hence reducing the site quality for all of you.

I intended to be polite, in case it didn't seem like it.

 

[betagame]

Also, the quality of the threads has changed. There are more repetitive topics now, in my opinion, the worst offender is the legalization topic. One or two threads on it would be fine, but now it seems like that's all a lot of people want to talk about anymore. F***ing drugs.

The repetitive topics are FRUSTURATING
like theres a trillion topics of which diapers to buy.

i see people having conversations that are like
"i like diapeees!"
"i like diapees too!!!!1"
"we like diapees!!!!1one =DD"

:laugh::laugh:

Everything collapses on itself at some point.

ADISC Could come down too and then it will be called ABDLSC

 

[EmeraldsAndLime]

To those of you who are bitching about repetitive topics and threads, why not just post in them, "There is already a thread on this matter, please take the discussion there", then link them to the thread and have a mod close the new thread. Perhaps emphasise to them to use the search function in the future.

That's a lot easier, not to mention a lot more positive than just flaming and bitching about it. And regardless of whether or not you like a particular topic, you do have the power to ignore it.