i lost my virginity to a prostitute.

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Well, I agree with the others - it was stupid in a sense. You can chalk it off as being drunk or peer pressure, but realitically, your "First Time" wasn't quite something you can tell your kids about, or your friends later in life.

On the other hand, red light districts exist for a reason. If Singapore's is anything like Amsterdam's, they probably live off people like you and your friends who dare each other to make use of a prostitute's service, because all I ever see and hear about Amsterdam's red light district is that it's quite the attraction for smaller groups of young male adults.
Since you say prostitution is legal, the only consequence will be (1) to your wallet and (2) to your mind. I hope you've learned your lesson and will stay out of places like that and keep the "real" First Time for someone special. However, you're most certainly not the only person to lose their virginity to a prostitute or some drunk chick/guy whose name you don't remember the day after. Same result in the end.

To people throwing out negative reputation: Remember that negative reputation is for posts that are offensive, cause drama or hurt to someone or are against other forum rules. I fail to see how any of this applies here. Andrew presented his point in a mostly mature manner and neither did he cause drama or hurt anyone but himself. If you disagree with prostitution as such or think his actions were stupid, feel free to say so (in a mature manner), but don't give negative reputation for things like that.
It's the "Mature TOpics" forum, so expect topics of a controversial or adult nature and expect people to disagree with your opinion - that, however, does not make them bad people or people who should not be on this forum!

To andrew: If you disagree with the reputation comment(s) you have received, please post a message in the Requests forum. Please don't mention it here any more.

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Go Go neg repping! Because someone trusted us to tell us something that they might not be terribly happy about, we should punish them.

Can I come?
 

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What if this thread is locked? I've seen more offensive comments towards the starter than really helpful posts.
 

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Well, I agree with the others - it was stupid in a sense. You can chalk it off as being drunk or peer pressure, but realitically, your "First Time" wasn't quite something you can tell your kids about, or your friends later in life.
I happen to know that's my dad's first experience as well. It was a similar to Andrew's experience. He's not proud of it, but that's the way it goes sometimes.

I don't have much to say about this individual case, but I think the larger subject of prostitution is an interesting one and something people ought to be able to discuss without getting crazy. My personal thought is that it should be legal and if you don't like it, don't be one or use them.
 

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You choose this and, If there will be consequences, you'll pay them.
Virginity was your, and if you felt like loosing it in a such way, I don't see where the problem is.

The only thing that I can say, In my opinion, is that way isn't romantic.
I imagine My first time with somebody I really love in a more romantic context, for example on a beach Under the moonlight (I'm a dreamer).

I have nothing against people who have sex with prostitutes (unless they are married, I think is a kind of betrayal of a holy promise of love), just take precautions.
Their are "used" by a lot of different people and you don't know if they have some illness or something.

Anyway, congratulation, you are a man.
 

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I really don't understand... lots guys lose their virginity to prostitutes even here in the US. Just because everyone here on the forums are "good" and hold the ideals of virginity to such a high standard does not mean that andrew is an idiot. What I see here is people bashing someone who slept with a prostitute that was: a) drunk, b) pressured, and c) a young, horny teenager.

He's already said he's not proud of it, but let me tell you what... next time you guys have a problem I'll post, "I think your pretty stupid." as my reply and hopefully everyone else follows suit.

to andrew:

good for you! now you're one of the guys and more importantly sex is easier from now on! just go get yourself check for diseases and such and stay away from the prostitutes :p having said all of that, find new friends that wont pressure you into doing anything else that should be done with a clear mind.
 

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I think prostitutes are an amazing thing, and I think they should be legalized where I live (although I'm not encroaching, nor am I trying to turn this into a legalizing thread -- it's just a thought)! In America, teen pregnancies are up, up, up, up, so maybe what these uppity teenagers need is something else to boink. Legalize prostitution and make it a taxable commodity, give it affordable prices, and look out for the prostitutes by giving them insurance and other benefits and assurances of safety, and you'll actually find girls who want to sell their body. If exotic dancers are common enough, prostitutes won't be far behind. Then, you'll literally have an accessible, reasonable way to reduce teen pregnancy while giving everybody what they want -- sex! Would I buy them? No. But I can think off the top of my head the names of at least ten horny dudes who would, and they wouldn't be spreading their genetic idiocy into children, either.
i agree with that point. the fact is there are prostitutes everywhere you go: it's a normal part of any human society. in washington state it's completely illegal, yet there are ads for it in the weeklies. as long as they don't explicitely mention that their "escort service" is for sex, they can get away with it. if prostitution were legal, then measures could be put into place to ensure that the people working in the sex industry were doing it because they enjoy it, not because they've been forced into it.

and people who enjoy it do exist. i have a very good friend who used to work as an erotic dancer; she said it was the funnest job she ever had. there's even a newspaper column in a local paper by a very intelligent woman who calls herself "mistress matisse," all about her experiences being a professional dom. the trouble is that a lot of illegal immigrants get forced into prostitution unwillingly because it's one of the only jobs you don't need a SSN for. i've heard a lot of scary stories about people being forced into sex slavery. because it's illegal, the authorities basically just end up turning a blind eye to the exploitation of women.
 

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From Peachy's post:

To people throwing out negative reputation: Remember that negative reputation is for posts that are offensive, cause drama or hurt to someone or are against other forum rules. I fail to see how any of this applies here. Andrew presented his point in a mostly mature manner and neither did he cause drama or hurt anyone but himself. If you disagree with prostitution as such or think his actions were stupid, feel free to say so (in a mature manner), but don't give negative reputation for things like that.
It's the "Mature TOpics" forum, so expect topics of a controversial or adult nature and expect people to disagree with your opinion - that, however, does not make them bad people or people who should not be on this forum!
Folks, I apologize to have ruffled so many feathers, though I realize I had it coming. I am the one who negrepped the subject post and then reported another one.

My problem with the first one was invalid, I now realize. Indeed, this is a mature topics forum. I guess I felt like he was bragging about having seen a lady of the night. Not something I'd personally ever even admit, except to a psychologist, but that is the moral system that was instilled in me, no one else. I can actually be a bit of a prude, unfortunately. In this case, I forced my own "morals" onto the community. Although it still does make me cringe, I do need to internalize the rules better than I thought I was doing. For that, I apologize to the posters I have offended. I negrepped you. I reported you.

As for the post I reported, I misinterpreted it as threatening me. With what, I don't know and don't want to know. Luckily, the admin I dealt with profoundly disagreed with me on this count as well.

My beliefs are what they are, and they are not popular, from taste in music, to taste in Presidents, to things sexual. I'll try to be profoundly more constructive in how I convey them.

But everybody, just please be careful with yourselves in whatever you do. Too many good folks in adisc, no?

Cheers. :)
 

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Who can really honestly say that losing their virginity happened in a manner that can be described as even remotely romantic? It's usually pretty awkward, really, especially if you're BOTH virgins. Bodies bumpin' and grindin', but not in an at all elegant manner; trying to find the right position, working out what goes where and how to not pull a muscle, et cetera - and after all that, it's usually just not that enjoyable when all is said and done. In-fact, my first time as a boy with a girl was mediocre, and my first time as a girl with a boy was even moreso; mostly painful with very little pleasure to it all. So..why wouldn't want you want a professional to take you through it the first time? I mean..you get a driving instructor - someone who drives for a living - to teach you to drive; why shouldn't you have somebody who has sex for a living teach you how to have sex?

At least now you've got a good grounding on how it all works, and you won't stress out about being inexperienced when you meet a girl you really like. Plenty of boys (and even some girls) lose the big V to a sex worker, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm so sick of hearing how "Oh you should have saved it" blah blah blah as if the first time you have sex is suddenly worth 100x more than the most recent time you had sex. Protip guys and girls; it's not! It's just the first, it's not the best, it's not the most memorable and for many people its just a useless barrier caused by social stigma and pressure to 'perform'.

I say congrats, to you Andrew, you *SHOULD* be proud. And to those who gave this guy negative rep? Go get a hobby or something, gawd.
 

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So..why wouldn't want you want a professional to take you through it the first time? I mean..you get a driving instructor - someone who drives for a living - to teach you to drive; why shouldn't you have somebody who has sex for a living teach you how to have sex?
Well I guess you might call me a idiot for this but I want to save myself for my wife whenever I meet her and get married to her. It might be dumb to you but I will be glad that I waited. On the other had sure you will have sex with a "professional" for the first time. But your first time will not be with someone you care about and vice versa. Does any hooker care about the "johns" she meets? I highly doubt it.

Also sex is not as hard as driving a car. You can always read about positions and everything else online. I know there's a difference between reading and doing but in this case your not behind a big hunk of metal going at 60 MPH.
 

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Well I guess you might call me a idiot for this but I want to save myself for my wife whenever I meet her and get married to her. It might be dumb to you but I will be glad that I waited. On the other had sure you will have sex with a "professional" for the first time. But your first time will not be with someone you care about and vice versa. Does any hooker care about the "johns" she meets? I highly doubt it.
I don't think you're an idiot for wanting to wait; but I gotta tell you - it's going to be far more awkward on your honeymoon night when you're in your late twenties/early thirties and neither of you have any idea what you're doing outside of what you've read in text, than it would be as a sixteen year old with a school sweetheart, or as an 18/20/whatever year old with a prostitute~.

Also sex is not as hard as driving a car. You can always read about positions and everything else online. I know there's a difference between reading and doing but in this case your not behind a big hunk of metal going at 60 MPH.
Nope, sex sure isn't driving a hunking piece of metal down a freeway; it's far more powerful. In sex, you wield in your hands the power to create life; which is like the most powerful thing mankind has the ability to do. I personally think it's a great idea to approach that sorta thing with caution and seek out someone with some experience and professionalism to set you on the right track :3

But everyone is entitled to their own thoughts on the matter, and that's all I'm saying; all you virginity-is-sacred peeps jumping down this boys throat are totally out of line~
 

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On the main forum page the topic reads '...my virginity to a...' needless to say I was expecting something far more outrageous, bit of a let down really.
 

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But everyone is entitled to their own thoughts on the matter, and that's all I'm saying; all you virginity-is-sacred peeps jumping down this boys throat are totally out of line~
Not at all. Like you said, we are all entitled to our own thoughts. If he is going to post a thread about something he did that is quite debatable, then he should expect to have negative reactions, as well as the positive and neutral ones.
 

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I don't think you're an idiot for wanting to wait; but I gotta tell you - it's going to be far more awkward on your honeymoon night when you're in your late twenties/early thirties and neither of you have any idea what you're doing outside of what you've read in text, than it would be as a sixteen year old with a school sweetheart, or as an 18/20/whatever year old with a prostitute~.
Meh, I think I can handle that. I will tell her that I am a AB/DL anyway so being a virgin won't be that big of a deal to her I think. It's also not like it requires a college course to preform sexual acts. As humans sex is really a natural instinct.

Kenshin I got negative rep for my first comment as well.Though I guess its since I type BS fully and in all caps in reply to the excuse Andrew used. But I also got a positive rep for it as well so it all balanced out. I just never like it when people say or imply its not their fault for submitting to peer pressure.
 

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Not at all. Like you said, we are all entitled to our own thoughts. If he is going to post a thread about something he did that is quite debatable, then he should expect to have negative reactions, as well as the positive and neutral ones.
I know, but there's a big difference between "Thats not what I would have done" and "I think your pretty stupid."/"you apparently lost your mind."/"Does this thread really need not to be closed", though, pretty Mandi :3
Everyone has their own view - but it gives nobody the right to make someone else feel lousy for theirs :\
 

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More negrep?

This thread is getting way, way, WAY. Out of hand.
 

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I'm so sick of hearing how "Oh you should have saved it" blah blah blah as if the first time you have sex is suddenly worth 100x more than the most recent time you had sex. Protip guys and girls; it's not! It's just the first, it's not the best, it's not the most memorable and for many people its just a useless barrier caused by social stigma and pressure to 'perform'.
I used to be one of those "I'll wait till I'm married" people. However, growing up and realising on how you body starts to act towards sex, its nothing that special. Its just a fun activity. I mean, I don't mind people holding such a view, I just hope they understand what it really means to them. Such a view is mostly heard by young people, but they are too young to reach the point where you will start to get impulses and sun consciously your mind does not care whether you and your partner is married. I think that people are too stuck to the "old ways" "Its tradition", if so, you'll forever live with many different problems as the world changes. And I think sex hasn't changed that much over time. Its only the fact that today's society is more accepting and open minded than yesterdays that we are hearing sex out of wedlock more often, well I think it would be hard to find a couple who haven't had sex out of wed lock to be honest.

On the side topic of the thread going downhill. It isn't really. Its what the readers make of it. But I feel that the original post could of been worded better and explained better to help understand the issue and the needs of the user.
 

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Not for me thanks, when i have had sex i dont just have sex i make "Love" and i dont think i could just "Have sex" i personally dont see the point.
 

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Frankly I don't have much more to say that good for you loosing your virginity to a prostitute o.o
It's not something I personally agree with, but congratulations, I guess?
 
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