I got found out, really freaked out right now

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So it's my turn to make one of these..
To explain my living situation i'm 18 years old and studying, living with my parents. My parents are divorced so on school days i live at my dad's and his girlfriend.

So i just came home from school, and saw that the place where i hide my diapers was empty. Normally it has a bag with a pack of diapers inside, a briefcase with some diaper stuff and an old sleeping mat and sleeping bag to hide them a bit. It was all gone. The briefcase is on the other side of my room and the rest is nowhere to be seen. It is trash day today so i presume he just trew it away with the trash.

I'm pretty sure it's my dad that found them, his girlfriend never really goes in my room. He is at work right now but will be coming back any minute now. Totally freaked out. I'm not sure how he will react, how he will bring it up, if he even slightly understands why i have them.
 

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I guess all you can do is wait and see what he might say. Stay calm it's not the end of the world, it'll be ok, and be honest with him if necessary. Hope all goes well, let us know.
 

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Ya, its really not a big deal, even if your dad makes it out to be.
I've seen stories where peoples parents flipped out about it but its just because they have no understanding and might be shocked at first
Just be honest up front about it and try to explain it so that he understands
Afterall, there just a different type of undergarment that your hiding not drugs!
 

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sounds like someone needed the sleeping mat, or decided to wash it?
 
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Dad and his gf are home. They haven't spoken to me yet, i'm just in my room. I hear them speaking pretty harsh down there, but not really angry at eachother or something. my dad's gf did call my name and just said "Yeah [CZDL] is home", kinda weird. I think they don't know how to handle this. My dad is kind of uncomfortable with this kind of stuff.

Best case scenario is that he just ignores it from now on, he did that sort of thing before, just because he doesn't want to talk about this stuff.
Or he kind of figured it out when he found the diapers and is sending a message that i'm not allowed to wear in the house.
Problem is is sometimes instead of ignoring it, he just calls my mom to ask if she knows how to handle the situation. Last thing i want to happen is my mom knowing about this also.

I now hear food being prepared downstairs, hoping for the best.

@bambinod, i think he realized it was still in my room while i never use it, he probably brought it to the garage.
 

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Ya, its really not a big deal, even if your dad makes it out to be.
I've seen stories where peoples parents flipped out about it but its just because they have no understanding and might be shocked at first
Just be honest up front about it and try to explain it so that he understands
Afterall, there just a different type of undergarment that your hiding not drugs!

Got an AB/DL for a child? At least he'll have no money for drugs! xD

Nahh, but seriously, when I got found out a couple years ago by my mom, it was horribly embarrassing, but she was understanding. Everyone's got something, ours just happens to be a little secretive. Like, in any situation, how is it really that bad? The only issues would be from misunderstanding of your interests.

There's a Baby in my Bed really helped me formulate, in my mind, any argument someone might make against me wearing. One of the better 10 bucks I've spent. I'm not really a little, more so a DL, but a lot of it still applied to me. I would recommend skimming it if you get the chance. If the topic comes up, you'll know what to say: nothing to to with children, doesn't hurt anyone, not forcing it on anyone else, not a paraphilia (it's a lifestyle), etc.... Good luck!
 
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My last post had to be approved by a moderator, not sure if it's the same for this one.

Just in case, a recap:
Dad and his gf came home, didn't speak to me, i stayed in my room, they sounded kind of troubled/frustrated downstairs.

Just had the most uncomfortable dinner i every had. It was just a simple television dinner, but even for a tv dinner not much was said. No one really talked about anything, it was just very silent. I think my dad doesn't want to talk about it, or at least not right now.

EDIT. Since the last post didn't get through here's some info. My dad is kind of awkward/uncomfortable with this kind of stuff. He has ignored a problem like this completely before, just because he doesn't want to talk about it and knows i got the message. Thing is back then she called my mother to ask if he knew how to handle it. So maybe my mom knows about this stuff, although i really don't think so.

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Thanks for the tip about what to say. Might give There's a Baby in my Bed a read sometime.
 

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Got an AB/DL for a child? At least he'll have no money for drugs! xD

I lol'd. Brilliant. :laugh:


For the OP, I've had this happen to me as well. A few different times in fact, but I never heard anything about it. Judging by your Dad's reaction, he may actually not want to have a conversation. If anything, he feels too awkward. While invading your privacy and going through your things, he obviously found something he couldn't process, but somehow still found to be negative, and because your things were in his house, he felt motivated and entitled to throw it away. He may approach you about this, but it will probably be a simple "Would you like to see a shrink?" with your answer afterwards. But he may not. If you choose to be silent, a little time may pass and heal any awkward, uncomfortable feelings. This has been my own personal experience, and I continue to have a very strong and close relationship with both of my parents. And no, I'm still unsure if they know about me or not.

If I'm reading your dad incorrectly, and he wants to understand more of what's going on in your closet, you still have the right to the privacy he invaded. But to whichever degree you feel comfortable, make sure you project a strong desire to keep that privacy. There is nothing wrong with you, and as long as you are genuinely confident about that through any conversation, most parents will pick up on that and respect that.

Out of respect for your Dad (because respect is a two way street), I would go on lamb from diapers for a while when it comes to staying at his house. Lucky for you, you still have your Mother's house to wear diapers and express yourself.

I'm sorry to hear about your troubling times, friend. Best of luck and keep us posted!

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Thanks Cloud, your post really calmed me down. I will take your advice and keep a deep low on the diapering for a few weeks.
 

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Got an AB/DL for a child? At least he'll have no money for drugs! xD

I'd debate that. Most TBs can't discreetly order online in the first place (I never had a card, and I couldn't sneak such a large box through the mail), so the really expensive ones are out, if we could afford them in the first place, leaving us to survive on Goodnites and Depends. Plus we don't have the privacy to wear as often as we'd like, so we don't go through them fast. I only wear Abena M4s as much as I do because I saved alot of money over the summer and live in a single college dorm room. Once I move out, I probably can't indulge again for awhile, since I'll be sharing a room with my brother next year. You want to financially break your child? Get them into comic books or Magic: the Gathering.

Anyways, I got caught a few years ago, when my parents found my stash under my bed (yeah, sh*tty hiding place, I know) while I was at Scout Camp. They had set them out on the kitchen table, probably to confront me when I got home. I got inside a couple minutes before they did after they brought me home. My brother was asleep on the couch, so I quickly snuck them back. They never confronted me, or seemed to change their attitude (in fact, I never overheard them talk about it, and I eavesdrop alot, so for all I know, my brother found them and set them out to get me in trouble- not that I really think he'd do that, just saying). Honestly, my advice is, if they don't want to talk about it with you, don't. Nothing wrong with keeping it private, just don't get caught again. And try to make it clear you want your privacy.
 

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Well if my parent did that and then wanted to chew me out, i would let them start and drop a deuce,and end the conversation suddenly with "now you know why i had them".

Thats my sense of humor though, dont think of that as problem solved,look more to the words that others have expressed who have been down this road in there RL.
 

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So many of us got caught by parents, myself included. My mom confronted me, but there was a lot more going on in my life. She also found my gay porn. She had searched my room because I was having a psychotic break and I think she suspected drugs. Anyway, it was uncomfortable and she sent me to a psychiatrist. I eventually talked her out of my going and things got to where we didn't talk about it.

Time is on your side because things will settle down, and probably soon. If your dad doesn't confront you, and I don't think he will, consider that a good thing. Parents have a way of thinking their kids will outgrow all the weird things they did. They probably did weird, but different things when they were young, and they know all about sex drives and what they can make us do, so you're simply now in the human race along with everyone else.

Tomorrow will be a better day, and the day after that will be even better. Two weeks from now the only one who may still be freaked out about this will be you. They will have moved on because life is a bitch for adults.
 
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First of all thanks for all the support. It is nice to hear that all of you went through the same situation.
This afternoon i'm going to my mother for the weekend, as usual. I don't think my dad told her, but kind of nervous anyways. Also thinking that my dad didn't want to have this conversation while his girlfirend was around.
i'll just have to wait it out. If anything happens i'll update.
 

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I would snap the f out on anyone for throwing away my diapers.

Yeah... me too! I'd be tempted to go through your dad's stuff and throw out his silk ties or something random in revenge!

Or just make a new hidden stash... and fill it with small plastic bags of sherbert and oregano... and wait for him to find that!

(Or maybe don't...)
 
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I would snap the f out on anyone for throwing away my diapers.

Yeah... me too! I'd be tempted to go through your dad's stuff and throw out his silk ties or something random in revenge!

Or just make a new hidden stash... and fill it with small plastic bags of sherbert and oregano... and wait for him to find that!

(Or maybe don't...)

Yeah i am kind of pissed that he threw out like 15 euro's worth of diapers, but at the least everything else went better then expected.


At my mom's and her bf's house now, and it seems like nothing happened over here. Think it's pretty save to say my dad didn't tell my mom. Everything is pretty good now.
 

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When I was living at my grandparents after I left the military, my mom and stepdad were building a new house and staying with us. My mom cleaned my room and fount a used diaper... We worked at the same place and when she got to work she found me and diaper checked me under the guise of of a slap on my butt as she said hello but it wasn't on an ass cheek, it was centered. I instantly knew that she knew something. When we got home she went off accusing me of serious drug use( that's why she thought I had them. I just basically told her that my medical issues are between me and my doctor and that she could just " mind her own fucking business." since then I've been on the verge of coming clean with her, even in front of my VA psychologist but she went all sideways on me and him and that's when I knew I would never tell her the truth. She was my next if kin, but after that happened, I told my doctors that she is cut off and is not to know anything about my treatments that I seek. The way we are... We want acceptance from our close relations but TRULY some can't never understand/accept that. I haven't spoken to her in many years, it tears me up to not have any relationship with my mother being a bastard, but without her my life had been a lot more stress free. Our age difference is 17 years so... She was never a proper mother, my grandparents basically raised me. Anyways enough rambling from me, as an adult you should have privacy.... Sure if you are doing something illegal under someone elses roof you are totally wrong in every way. Last time I checked tho, wearing a diaper is not even remotely a crime unless you are exposing yourself in an unlawful manner. Dont tolerate unchecked aggression even by your own family, stand up for yourself in whatever way you feel appropriate.
 
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CZDL, like so many of us, I am hoping to hear further good news about this situation. Hopefully it will blow over without unnecessary drama.

I would agree, probably best to go into stealth mode for a while with regards to wearing. Also, when you do replace your inventory (how dare they throw them away???), please make sure to hide them somewhere completely different in case the nosy person (whoever it was!?) returns to seek more.

Keep us in the loop and all the best.
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Nah the ties would not adequately express it
However decorating the back of the car with JUST DIAPERED and some Cheap depends attached open hanging from the trunk ought to get the message across as other drivers give him looks of scorn and disgust and gesture with only one finger in threre salute!
 
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