As a Mommy who found my babygirl on Collarspace, there are a couple things I can tell you that may help.
First off, there are tons of people all looking for the same thing... A real life CG/Mommy that does not make a living doing it. So you need to understand that we get a ton... pages and pages full of wankers that just want to get their rocks off. So in order to sort through the Do Me Bois, Most of us delete any thing that does not have a picture in the profile or minimally filled out "About yourself" I am not saying you need to put a face pic in there, or tell the name of your small town, but I can tell you from experience that if you are not open and genuine sounding in your profile, I will delete and block you immediately.
Secondly, in any first contact PM, you have to use more than a one line introduction. Any one line , "Hi, how are you?" gets deleted and blocked. There has to be something about me and you that adds interest.... For instance if you were to contact me and notice that in my profile it says I like mountain biking, you could say... Hello my name is a kittybaby. I live in small town Missouri. I see you like mt biking I was just wondering how you would make me ride in a diaper or if I could wear a pullup if you were to become my Mommy and we went for a ride... where all would we get to go? I know I live really far from you, but would you ever consider.....? I like blah, blah, blah.... It's really hard for me to stay in babyspace and sound desirable, what do you look for in a little?
What I am saying is that because there are so few of us (Mommies) out here, there has to be something about you that piques my interest. Be wise, be honest, be forthcoming. Ask questions about the CG that are more than yes or no answers. Be intellectually simulating... you have to be more than just the same as the last wanker.... So for example, if you look at MrMae 's introduction on this site, there are a ton of things that you can talk to her about that could set you apart!!! Be wise... Be Brilliant!!! Stop whining. xo