How To Not Making Diaper Wearing Not Sexual

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I think it varies like for some wearing 24/7 makes the diapie less "saucy" because some of the allure is the "taboo" of it. At least for me it is like I feel kinda "saucy" like thinking about diapers because its something I should have "grown out of" . But for others the sexual allure never fades. For me personally my DL side is split pretty well between comfort and sexual. But when I'm super in my AB space inna dip its not sexual in that way. *shurgs* I would try just wearing them casually or embrace the perversion >:3
 
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Not so much, now that I’m diapered up 24/7, but when I started to wet in a diaper, inevitably, I’d get randy and consummate that condition. Nothing wrong with that! That’s one of the benefits of wearing a hook and loop fastened diaper....easy to get inside and easy to cinch back up after I’ve taken care of business!
 

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Is there a way to train yourself to not love diapers in a sexual way? Would chastity work? I’m wondering if there is any of you who managed to enjoy diapers and not be so turned on about them.
Wear them all the time. At night, through the day, keep a change with you so you are always in nappies. Does that idea excite you? Well it will at first and masturbation will be hard to avoid so don't try to. After a few weeks or months nappies will be a normal part of your life. (The excitement is finite.)
But not ripping the nappy off afterwards and not vowing never to wear one again will be the beginning of a lifetime of nappies. Just because you want to. Of course sometimes they will still excite you but not so much. And, as they become your normal underwear, they'll excite you less and less til they don't excite you at all.
But you'll need time and patience and a lot of nappies.

Good Luck
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I am a DL and there is a sexual side to it for me. However, I find that completing an orgasm centered around diapers creates an immediate turn off and a loss of desire to wear. So my preference is to wear as much as possible for security and the calming effect diapers have for me.
I have or had the same issue. Immediately after an orgasm the need to strip takes over. I suddenly lose the desire to be padded.
When I first started wearing I didn't know what sexual excitement was. Progressing through my nappy career the sexual excitement grew.
Having worn for years it has become more comforting than anything else. The feeling of padding between my legs is very calming...
I've worn for need over the years and the needing security of protection against soiling myself.
The sexual excitement does happen but only when stimulated by being tormented or changed by a sexy nurse or carer.... better still is having my almost naked body bared by pulling said nappy down and soundly spanked..!
 
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I never tire of getting off in my wet diaper, nor do I have the desire to rip it off after and put on a dry one. I love the feeling of added slippery silkiness in my diaper!
 

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The sexual side. Yes.

For those fortunate few of us where diapers present as a sexual turn-on, there will be many ways to deal with it.

My personal reaction is similar to messydiaper and woolybobs. Giving in to the sexual side would generally kill off the desire to wear. Sometimes that is fine. Since no one in my house participates, I have to find the time when I can to indulge. That might only be a couple of hours or less every few weeks. Wearing, having a good time and quenching the desire for a while is sometimes my only option.

When I have an opportunity to wear for longer periods of time, I have had to employ drastic measures to prevent an early release. One word. Discipline.

I make a game of it. It is nothing new to the BDSM crowd, but I deny myself the option to orgasm. In my DL headspace, I have trained myself to hold off as long as I possibly can. If you want something even more exciting than orgasm, try edging. Bring yourself close, then deny yourself a grand finish. Yes, all of this would be better if I was participating with someone else, but that is not an option for me. So into my head I go.

I am not always successful with the discipline part, so I have a technique to help me along the way.

Since my behavior has to be hidden, I try and trap myself into a situation where if I orgasm, I won't be able to change for a while. No changing options are easily available and I am forced to wear the soiled diaper. The best is climbing in to bed. If my desires overtake my ability to resist, I have to sleep in my diaper until morning. It's easier because after a nice climax, I am usually sleepy. When I wake up in the morning, my urge to purge has subsided. I am usually very happy I didn't take off the diaper. The bonus is that that first orgasm 'takes the edge off' and I can concentrate on being the big baby I am.

None of this is easy. The rewarding stuff usually isn't. I find that the more I take control of my urges, the better I feel about AB/DL. I used to think I didn't want to have these feelings. Now, after a long time honestly, I am able to take control and just accept.

My $0.02
 

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Well, I found diapers sexual for a while because I was denied them. They were forbidden. Just getting a pack of diapers was boner inspiring.

Once I had unrestricted access to them, the sexual allure went away. I still use a vibrator in them and they figure into my sexual play with my partner, but I no longer get hard just trying to get one on me. To me they are just underwear, and I do everything in them that I would do in my less functional underwear.
 

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i dont get many sexual feelings that are diaper related but can get stimulated in it getting hard if im playing with someone else while im wearing my diaper but then it has to come off for actual sex or when i want to masturbate mostly as i prefer to masturbate completly in the buff (sorry if its tmi)
 

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Wearing diapers isn't sexual but helps me enjoy my pee fetish. While it has never happened, I'd love to have a "pee mate" that would like to involve water sports in a sexual situation. I find diapers to be comforting for me and peeing in them to be quite calming.
 

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I can manage both pretty well...Theres time of comfort and time of sexual ways. When I was young it was mostly sexual, just put it on and play with it a while do my thing and done. Nowadays being older, I put one on and can feel pretty comfortable especially at night. My wife isnt into the diaper thing and not included in intimacy. Interstingly though she does like if I put a pair of plastic pants on, keeps me going for like forever......
 
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Hmm I love 💕 wearing diapers k 25 yrs ago I would put on a diaper wet it break a hole in it then masturbate then toss the diaper out because of shame . however today I really like to wear wet and sometimes poop in my diaper and not masturbate because after I masturbate I would feel guilty and throw away the diaper I want the wet diaper on me so no masturbate
 

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I agree with others. Wear more often and for longer starches. Also just masturbate before the diaper, that way the sexual urge is weakened and let associated with the diaper.
 

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For me it started to be something primarily sexual but there was also a non-sexual component. I also thought about it way before puberty. But today its definetly not something sexual anymore. The non-sexual part completely took over.
 

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The sexual side. Yes.

For those fortunate few of us where diapers present as a sexual turn-on, there will be many ways to deal with it.

My personal reaction is similar to messydiaper and woolybobs. Giving in to the sexual side would generally kill off the desire to wear. Sometimes that is fine. Since no one in my house participates, I have to find the time when I can to indulge. That might only be a couple of hours or less every few weeks. Wearing, having a good time and quenching the desire for a while is sometimes my only option.

When I have an opportunity to wear for longer periods of time, I have had to employ drastic measures to prevent an early release. One word. Discipline.

I make a game of it. It is nothing new to the BDSM crowd, but I deny myself the option to orgasm. In my DL headspace, I have trained myself to hold off as long as I possibly can. If you want something even more exciting than orgasm, try edging. Bring yourself close, then deny yourself a grand finish. Yes, all of this would be better if I was participating with someone else, but that is not an option for me. So into my head I go.

I am not always successful with the discipline part, so I have a technique to help me along the way.

Since my behavior has to be hidden, I try and trap myself into a situation where if I orgasm, I won't be able to change for a while. No changing options are easily available and I am forced to wear the soiled diaper. The best is climbing in to bed. If my desires overtake my ability to resist, I have to sleep in my diaper until morning. It's easier because after a nice climax, I am usually sleepy. When I wake up in the morning, my urge to purge has subsided. I am usually very happy I didn't take off the diaper. The bonus is that that first orgasm 'takes the edge off' and I can concentrate on being the big baby I am.

None of this is easy. The rewarding stuff usually isn't. I find that the more I take control of my urges, the better I feel about AB/DL. I used to think I didn't want to have these feelings. Now, after a long time honestly, I am able to take control and just accept.

My $0.02

Yes edging capped of by denial is so rewarding. I too love it.

I don’t know how much detail I can go into here without getting into trouble. However my sessions usually involve me rubbing my semi erect member (due to Ed from a radical prostatectomy) in what sometimes starts out as a dry diaper and either watching some porn or getting lost in my inner mind. I find that at the peaks if I pee it’s is extremely sensitive and satisfying. I have kept this up for 2-3 hours at a time snd when i get to close then getting up snd walking around and doing something takes the edge off leaving all my sexual tensions intact. If I wish to continue then I can.

The longest edging/denial period I have had was 470 days long about 10 days ago. Strangely when I did end the denial in orgasm it was not nearly as satisfying as the ruined orgasms of denial.

Please post me with how you got started edging n denying.
 
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Well, I'm female but here's my take on diapers and sexuality . I'm just on the edge inbetween sexual and non sexual feelings with diapers . I'm sure if i wore 24/7 for months at a time I'd lose the urge . In other words the fantasy gets Boring .
 

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I don't think there is a sure fire way to make it not sexual. For me though, embracing it has made it quite a bit less sexual. It's still somewhat sexual, but more in a safe, comfortable feeling kind of way rather than feeling hardcore sexual thoughts. I feel sexually more pure embracing it than I do not. It may take a bit of time though. I did think it was all sexual for me at first, but it quickly turned into more of a comfort thing and I ended up realizing that my mind has a tendency to sexualize who I am to compensate when I can't be myself for imagination. That was the weirdest realization for me. The same thing happened for me being trans. I just wish I could stop the one other one that I can't seem to fully get rid of that I don't want. I have made some decent progress towards it though. I think it's generally healthy to embrace who you are sexually though, as long as it doesn't hurt anybody or yourself. I find that embracing it seems to make it less sexual and more comforting personally.
 

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I still have that problem, after wearing hundreds of Goodnites and dozens upon dozens of adult/ABDL diapers. Masturbation helps, I now rarely rip off a diaper after I finish. I think I've overcome that part, but yes some people are quite dialed into diapers being sexual. But I can also enjoy the warm squishiness post-orgasm and enjoy the comfort they give.
 
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