How to get used to the possibility of someone noticing the diaper

[biohazardgoat22]

My major and career eventually require athletic clothing. I’m mostly in leggings or sweatpants. I’ve used tricks of compression pants or bathing suits to get rid of some of the bulge.

My question is to ppl with just incontinence not littles, ABDLs or any other things like this. I’m only saying this as ABDLs, littles and other names I may not know actually like diapers, which doesn’t help in this thread.

My question is how do you deal with the fact others are eventually going to notice you wear diapers.
I’ve had on and off issue with my bladder since 6th grade. I think being in college while transitioning to female makes the anxiety around it worse. As my butt has grown, tighter clothes in general, so it’s just harder to have bigger thighs and a butt, wear leggings or sweatpants for my major and now need to wear diapers.

I need advice on how others have mentally dealt with it.

 

[dpcare]

often wear nylon or Polyester Wind pants with a looser fit and no noticeable bulge plus if the pants are swishy it covers any diaper noise

 

[biohazardgoat22]

often wear nylon or Polyester Wind pants with a looser fit and no noticeable bulge plus if the pants are swishy it covers any diaper noise

I’ve tried them I’ve noticed it weirdly sticks to the diaper.

I’m honestly just looking to see how ppl in their own lives mentally deal with the fact ppl may notice there diapers and anxiety surrounding it.

 

[hbic60]

First of all it has do do with your self-confidence. Being IC doesn't give you a choice - you have to wear some kind of protection in order to avoid wet pants, which is much, much more embarrassing than having someone maybe eventually having a glue that you might wear a diaper and even if - so what ?!? You have a medical condition! And, in my experience, nobody - in normal life - will ever say something about it! On the other hand, most IC people are trying to be as discreet as possible. Means wearing protection which is appropriate to your level of IC (as absorbent as needed, as discreet as possible) and wearing appropriate clothing. Before being IC I wore for example jeans in 32 waist size, being IC I switched over to 34 waist size which covers my diaper perfectly and without anyone being able to tell that I'm wearing one. And second thing is your behavior - just move and act as you did forever and everything is fine!

 

[chiaochai]

are you able to wear an athletic skirt over your leggings? personally thats one of my favorite ways besides harem pants to hide a diaper. dresses with poofy waists are perfect too

 

[Raven801]

Double incontinent here and it's simple do your best to be discreet and if someone notices well it is what it is I'm learning not to give a fuck ...way less stress that way not like it's a choice...it's a medical condition no point in living in fear or letting it control your life in college talk to the disability resource center and if you work talk to HR.any issues will be dealt with swiftly and fairly.. in life realize this most people are so busy with themselves they won't notice....

 

[enthusi]

I am an ABDL but I also have total urinary incontinence. While I enjoy wearing diapers, I am also a working professional, and am in many day-to-day situations where I need to be discreet. I also volunteer my time with elementary school kids and there’s a lot of floor time and I cannot afford for my diaper to be seen.

That said it isn’t easy. Even after all these years, it isn’t easy. From a practical standpoint snap body suits (onesies) help tremendously in times where I have to be extra careful about my diaper poking out. Preventawear has a line of slim fit onesies for non abdl. https://preventawear.com/. They are super friendly and will customize your order if needed.

Another practical tip is to have clothing custom tailored. This is what I do for my professional wear. I buy clothes a bit large, and I have a trusty tailor who knows I wear diapers and they’ve been able to work their magic. Well worth it in my opinion.

As someone else mentioned, when it comes to work, you have every right not to be harassed at work or treated differently if a coworker says something inappropriate if they find out. It’s called workplace bullying and perhaps even discrimination and it’s illegal.

Last but not least: Whenever you’re anxious about anything, be it finances, relationships, or worries that someone will see and judge you for wearing a diaper. Make it a habit to first ask yourself if you’re in serious immediate danger. Chances are you’re not. Then once that is out of the way, you are now FREE to take your time and explore the problem at hand. What assumptions have you made? How can you challenge those assumptions? Make it a point to experiment different attitudes, techniques, styles, whatever. It’s quite liberating.

 

[Raven801]

I am an ABDL but I also have total urinary incontinence. While I enjoy wearing diapers, I am also a working professional, and am in many day-to-day situations where I need to be discreet. I also volunteer my time with elementary school kids and there’s a lot of floor time and I cannot afford for my diaper to be seen.

That said it isn’t easy. Even after all these years, it isn’t easy. From a practical standpoint snap body suits (onesies) help tremendously in times where I have to be extra careful about my diaper poking out. Preventawear has a line of slim fit onesies for non abdl. https://preventawear.com/. They are super friendly and will customize your order if needed.

Another practical tip is to have clothing custom tailored. This is what I do for my professional wear. I buy clothes a bit large, and I have a trusty tailor who knows I wear diapers and they’ve been able to work their magic. Well worth it in my opinion.

As someone else mentioned, when it comes to work, you have every right not to be harassed at work or treated differently if a coworker says something inappropriate if they find out. It’s called workplace bullying and perhaps even discrimination and it’s illegal.

Last but not least: Whenever you’re anxious about anything, be it finances, relationships, or worries that someone will see and judge you for wearing a diaper. Make it a habit to first ask yourself if you’re in serious immediate danger. Chances are you’re not. Then once that is out of the way, you are now FREE to take your time and explore the problem at hand. What assumptions have you made? How can you challenge those assumptions? Make it a point to experiment different attitudes, techniques, styles, whatever. It’s quite liberating.

Onesies are definitely a god send as I wear them the ones I have are from leak master I believe and there not bad and they give the appearance of a tucked in shirt and they help hold everything in place which is wonderful...I know the anxiety and concern of being noticed and to be frank...it's gonna happen sooner or later...it's just the way it is ....what makes the biggest difference is how you handle it and how it affects you. First time someone noticed mine they were a prick it was not fun but I got through it but I really let it affect me ..I stopped going out and really let it control me and that was honestly my biggest mistake. Just because your ic doesn't mean you have to live in fear ....last time someone notice and said something I simply replied yup that's what I'm wearing and it's not fun as my medical conditions require it there isn't much I can do but thanks for pointing it out and making it more embarrassing than it had be your judgement of me and my situation simply shows how much of a credit you are to the human race ..thanks for that have a wonderful day. ...after that they didn't have much to say and neither did I. Sure it was awkward but these things will happen. Live your life and don't be ashamed or controlled by a condition. Do your best to be discreet and learn to not give a shit about it ....I'm getting there and it's been a massive struggle mentally and physically. But I am living life now I am attending college classes and actually going out again and I am much happier now. Best of luck and if there is ever any advise I can offer or anything just ask 🤙

 

[mickdl]

So I also needed some time - but you just have to live with the fact that there is the one or the other situation where others can notice that you have this problem. I have not chosen this and if there is actually someone who has problems with it I can then only wish that it does not catch him...

However, you do not have to let it come to that and some discretion is certainly helpful. That starts with the clothes. In any case, I would not get the idea to run around in leggings. A black jeans is much better suited. During sports or workout it will not always be possible to avoid that someone may notice something - but so far I have only been approached once and that was someone who had the same problem.

In the end, it is a health problem like many others. Nobody gets upset when you walk on a crutch or sit in a wheelchair. You really have to realize that all these diffuse worries arise first and foremost in your own head.

 

[schooner]

It just takes time and the "confidence" that the diaper bulk is not noticeable to most people under general circumstances. That said, diaper bulk is noticeable, as are plastic pants, and they both make noise when you move around. Of course the bulk increases when I wet my diaper. It took awhile, but I eventually accepted this reality and adapted by losing some weight, wearing denim (thicker) pants one size larger in the waist than I normally would and took care to change regularly. My wife's positive mental attitude and supportiveness definitely helped.

All that said, I work with kids and they do notice everything! For most grade school kids, their ears are about level with my waist to mid-chest so it's easier for them to hear and see. It doesn't happen often, but I have had kids either tell me that they can hear my diaper or ask me if I'm wearing one. I have no problem lying about that and the issue ends there. My own two daughters both grew up knowing about my incontinence and diapers. My wife and I never volunteered that information, but when they saw the diapers and plastic pants in the closet, they asked. We were honest with them and they took it in stride. The thought of wetting their pants or having to wear diapers is horrifying to most kids, but if it's handled discretely and in an affirming way, they'll accept it as normal.

 

[Rita]

I have never had a issues even , that I know of or have been ask about wearing !!

 

[bbrz]

Admittedly, when my wife first started making me wear diapers because of my intermittent bladder problems, my biggest fear was that people would notice or notice the noticeable bulk of my diaper on my buttocks, just like my panties plastic, and both make obvious rustle when I move, and the fact that I'm wearing a diaper made me anxious about the discomfort and everything around it. Sometimes my diaper is in plain sight, that's when my wife, when my panties plastic or diaper stick out from the waistband of my pants, especially since you never know when our diaper has become visible and if someone is watching us. She will hasten to approach me, then pull up my pants and pull my T-shirt, to tell me indiscreetly to anyone who will want to hear, YOUR DIAPER COMES OUT OF YOUR PANTS, even if there are people nearby, I find her all the more embarrassing and humiliating, sometimes I'd rather she left me with my diaper or my plastic panties sticking out so I didn't have to intentionally attract people's attention. It still takes time to get used to the possibility of someone noticing our diaper or being asked why I wear diapers. I do my best to be as discreet as possible, even with the support of my wife, plus she likes to treat me like a baby and finds me cute in diapers, it really helped me. I ended up accepting this reality and adapting well since.

 

[biohazardgoat22]

Admittedly, when my wife first started making me wear diapers because of my intermittent bladder problems, my biggest fear was that people would notice or notice the noticeable bulk of my diaper on my buttocks, just like my panties plastic, and both make obvious rustle when I move, and the fact that I'm wearing a diaper made me anxious about the discomfort and everything around it. Sometimes my diaper is in plain sight, that's when my wife, when my panties plastic or diaper stick out from the waistband of my pants, especially since you never know when our diaper has become visible and if someone is watching us. She will hasten to approach me, then pull up my pants and pull my T-shirt, to tell me indiscreetly to anyone who will want to hear, YOUR DIAPER COMES OUT OF YOUR PANTS, even if there are people nearby, I find her all the more embarrassing and humiliating, sometimes I'd rather she left me with my diaper or my plastic panties sticking out so I didn't have to intentionally attract people's attention. It still takes time to get used to the possibility of someone noticing our diaper or being asked why I wear diapers. I do my best to be as discreet as possible, even with the support of my wife, plus she likes to treat me like a baby and finds me cute in diapers, it really helped me. I ended up accepting this reality and adapting well since.

I can’t believe your wife does that to you. I’m sorry