dprlvr1 said:
me 21 her 19
We have always been shy of each other but have really had a connection since our teens, never went out or anything though.
*Edit* she is definatly interested in me...
She had been asked by her friends about it a few times she would blush and play it off on her siblings.
It is "Definitely" Don't worry though, its like one of the most misspelled words ever.
OK, so 19 and 21 that is fine, no problems there.
Sorta been crushing on each other for a few years now but neither of you had the nerve to pull the pin, Awwww Cute!
You said she is recently single. Was this a long term thing? Was it a good or bad breakup? Did she do the breaking up?
Keep doing what you are doing, hanging out together, reconnecting, ect.
You don't want to ask her out too soon, but you don't want to wait too long either.
If she is showing interest in you in more of a B/F - G/F way then a friend way then she's probably ready.
Next time you are alone with her, (so do not do it in front of your friends or especially her's) ask her if she wants to go out with you.
Show some emotion, lol, tell her you have liked her for a while but your job you/her dating, bad timing, ect. kept you from asking her.
Buy her a small gift, nothing expensive, something you know she likes or cute always works. Girls like that shit! LOL!
And don't be guy about it, LOL. Make it VERY CLEAR you want to DATE her, you want to be her B/F and you want her to be your G/F.
Go out and have fun together, get over the maybe awkward (for you both) phase of going from friends to dating, take it slow.
*** Leave the whole diapers thing alone, don't bring it up, yet.
If things are going well and you two are really hitting it off as B/F-G/F then you can *carefully* bring it up.
From what you said - she is shy at the least about it, and probably more embarrassed then anything about it.
When the subject comes up don't go all I LOVE DIAPERS TOO on her, lol. That may freak her out a bit.
You know you, and her best, so I'm sorta guessing from here but after you settled into dating you can ask her.
Be nice about it, be ALL about her! Be sure to tell her that whatever she says, no matter how embarrassing it may seem you are there for her.
There is always that point when dating where you start to share weird, funny, personal stuff about each other, she may even start it.
After you've told her something personal about you (not diapers) Be like, Sweety so can I ask you something now?
You too already sound close and she knows you know there is something about her and diapers sooooo..
Tell her there is something about her that you have always thought was kinda cute about her but you know she is sorta embarrassed about.
I think she will know exactly what you are talking about at that point, maybe not though, lol.
Ask her if it would be OK with her if you talked about how she used to love diapering things (including her friends, lol).
And about those times her friends found stuff from her younger siblings and that you think it is totally OK!
Let her talk about it, let her do it in her own time and way. For all you know she may think she's some kind of freak for liking this stuff.
If she continues to shy away from it, or is noticeably upset and quickly tries to change the subject, then you can tell her you have a secret too.
Remember to keep it about Her! Yes you like it too, but that is for later, she is a girl, she has feelings, she may feel very vulnerable.
Comfort her, tell her (if she thinks she is) that she is not weird or whatever.
Once she feels safe, hopefully she will open up more and spill the beans, lol
Joking (done right) can sometimes help a lot! See sweety you don't have to hide it with me, you can diaper me all you want, I won't mind, lol.
OK, totally long post, lol so this concludes Mandy's class on how to date a girl 101
