I have Autism and bad ADHD, and I was never that short, even as a 3 year old. I was taller than my doorknob on our house's front door inside even at age 3 1/2. I was 4 feet 9 inches tall at 9 years old. I was already at that age taller than a few of my mom's grown up friends (I'm Asian American, so most of my mom's friends were not that tall). By the time I was 11 or 12, I was already 5 feet 6 inches or 5 feet 7 inches. I did know two boys in my 8th grade class that were 6 feet 3 inches, both were Caucasian. I ended up being 5 feet 10 inches in 10th grade and in the end being 5 feet 11 inches as my final height. My brother (who doesn't have Autism) was short as a little kid, but eventually he grew up to be 5 feet 9 inches tall. He has a good job and has his own family now, while I'm still living with my actual biological parents in my mid 40s.
I hate having Autism and ADHD and being very tall (almost 6 feet tall and 180 pounds). I act emotionally and socially like a 4 1/2 to 5 year old, if anything. I really wish I was very little, because society would be more understanding as to why I act like a small child, if I looked like one. With my Autism, it would almost be a blessing or silver lining and would give me more solace, if I had, say, been a proportional pituitary dwarf about 3 feet 4 inches and 40 pounds instead of being big like I am. Society would be set aside their expectations for me and lower them for me, important because I, out of my control, act like a child. It certainly is less disconcerting to see a person act like a child when they look like a child than one act like that in a big body. I absolutely HATE being tall. I think it's more disabling being tall than small - at least when you have Autism like me. There are so many advantages actually being little. I can't drive a regular car, because of my attention span being so bad, but I can't ride on a Power Wheels. It's like the worst of both worlds - no real adult rights, but no child rights either. It's so frustrating. Even getting a longall and T strap shoes made for me is not that easy.
I talked before with a clinical psychologist from New Orleans before and she has a son with HFA who is 13 now, and she told me in the past that she had at least 2 dozen Autistic adult children tell her they wish they had stayed a child size. Not only that, but several parents told her that out of earshot of their adult child, that they too wished their child was little so people would be more understanding of them. Autism is a very difficult thing and often those with it get bullied in school - sometimes badly. A lot of Autistic adults are emotionally and socially like 7 to 11 year olds - even if they have graduate college degrees. I've read the attempted suicide rate for Autism is unacceptably high and possibly the highest of any disabilities. I would say having Down Syndrome is much easier as they do have social skills built in and plus they are viewed as being "cute". Thus they don't get bullied as much.
But nope I was never short. I'm the tallest person in 25 people in my extended family virtually. And I act the youngest!! My maternal grandparents were small. My grandfather was 4 feet 11 inches tall and my grandmother was 5 feet 0 inches and wore size 3 growing children's shoes (for about a 8 year old).
- longallsboy