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Littleraindrop

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I was just wondering how everyone copes with their little sides. Wether it's a secret or its shared.

I myself have beer told anyone and things can get difficult for me as I have hide things and sometimes the people around me mean I can't be little. So my little is mainly confined to my bedroom.
 

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I treat it as one of several interests which I enjoy when appropriate and when in the mood.

I'm more open about my BDSM side than my ABDL side. The two tend to cross over, but I'm way more comfortable telling someone that I'm into bondage than telling someone I'm into diapers.

Obviously life sometimes curtails our ability to do what we want when we want. That extends well beyond this fetish. It's never really been a huge deal to me. I play when I can, I do other stuff when I can't...
 

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I was just wondering how everyone copes with their little sides. Wether it's a secret or its shared.

I myself have beer told anyone and things can get difficult for me as I have hide things and sometimes the people around me mean I can't be little. So my little is mainly confined to my bedroom.

Hi

Its all about balance, boundaries and control.

As you work through the different forums here you can see how the members have dealt with the situation.

The best thing to keep in mind is there is time to wear the big boy undies and make a living and there is the time to let the little out and live it up on the big boys dime.

Bottom line is how knows and when they know is up to you. As you work through the understanding aspect of the fetish you will learn the full aspect of the balance and controls then in a year I can answer (OH sorry I mean YOU) a newbies question on when to let your little out to play.

Good Luck.

P.S. The thing I did was read about 150 thread back in the adult baby forum and I got a lot of information in the first month that helped me so much.
 

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I've told no one felt like this for a long time. And I just get frustrated at times having to be so careful all the time. I am glad I have finally found this place it's peaceful and not very sexual like a lot of other places I've looked at.
I like to experiment but its hard when you share a house and no one can know.
 
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I was just wondering how everyone copes with their little sides. Wether it's a secret or its shared.

I myself have beer told anyone and things can get difficult for me as I have hide things and sometimes the people around me mean I can't be little. So my little is mainly confined to my bedroom.

I've told no one felt like this for a long time. And I just get frustrated at times having to be so careful all the time. I am glad I have finally found this place it's peaceful and not very sexual like a lot of other places I've looked at.
I like to experiment but its hard when you share a house and no one can know.

welcome little rain drop;
looking at your question, and then your response..... i then read your personal page and noticed with interest what you wrote that about your self.

i too am simply a "little".....
or maybe i could better put it that i have one or more "little's" in my system.....
they are forever little, simply little. never changing remnants or left-overs from a childhood long past.
non-sexual, non-diapered.... seven year-olds for the most part.

by chance, does any of this sound familiar?
little lodge wrecker.....
 

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I'm pretty much a lifestyle Little. Which means to me, it's something that most people who get past the acquaintance bar know just because it's sort of obvious. It's not something I hide, but I don't shove it in people's faces either. I can go to Denny's and passerby wouldn't know at all, but I have learned not to really be anyone else either. Basically to me, being a Little doesn't always mean running around in cutesy clothes and speaking in a thick lisp even if those things are super fun sometimes. My berry little me can be a well-behaved, boringly dressed, quiet, and polite young lady who blends in with the crowd too.
 

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welcome little rain drop;
looking at your question, and then your response..... i then read your personal page and noticed with interest what you wrote that about your self.

i too am simply a "little".....
or maybe i could better put it that i have one or more "little's" in my system.....
they are forever little, simply little. never changing remnants or left-overs from a childhood long past.
non-sexual, non-diapered.... seven year-olds for the most part.

by chance, does any of this sound familiar?
little lodge wrecker.....

Hmm yes it sounds very familiar. I would say I have a few different littles with different personalities and such.
We are usually too old to be diaperd but when we are at youngest 3 it Could be done but I never felt a need for that I hadn't Ben heard about any of this until I saw a documentary.

I am glad I am not the only one. As when I found bout all this a lot of you wear diapers and are full on babies so I sort of felt in place but out of place. It's hard to act completely myself where i am as I said no one knows but there is one person I can let my self relax around a bit. But I dot want to push it too far. It's very toned down to what I want and I often wonder how long can I let it go on for. The world makes us grow up its what's expected but to me the important thing is I can be an adult when I need to.

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I'm pretty much a lifestyle Little. Which means to me, it's something that most people who get past the acquaintance bar know just because it's sort of obvious. It's not something I hide, but I don't shove it in people's faces either. I can go to Denny's and passerby wouldn't know at all, but I have learned not to really be anyone else either. Basically to me, being a Little doesn't always mean running around in cutesy clothes and speaking in a thick lisp even if those things are super fun sometimes. My berry little me can be a well-behaved, boringly dressed, quiet, and polite young lady who blends in with the crowd too.

I can be like that I don't wear cutesy clothes or talk all Lyspie I do like to buy things I think are cute but I'm not mad on it. I am just simply little and I'm happy when I'm like that
 
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Hmm yes it sounds very familiar. I would say I have a few different littles with different personalities and such.
We are usually too old to be diaperd but when we are at youngest 3 it Could be done but I never felt a need for that I hadn't Ben heard about any of this until I saw a documentary.

I am glad I am not the only one. As when I found bout all this a lot of you wear diapers and are full on babies so I sort of felt in place but out of place. It's hard to act completely myself where i am as I said no one knows but there is one person I can let my self relax around a bit. But I dot want to push it too far. It's very toned down to what I want and I often wonder how long can I let it go on for. The world makes us grow up its what's expected but to me the important thing is I can be an adult when I need to.

yes, different personalities is a very good way of putting it, little rain drop;
separate and distinct little's.... each with a mind of their own.
back in my younger days, each of them had their favorite things to wear too. getting dressed in the morning on weekends could become a real exercise diplomacy and peace-keeping at times. only one body to dress, and so many little's, each one with their own idea of just what was best.....

at 59 i have learned to keep my closet simple so such chaos is kept to a minimum.... (soft smile)
but still, the little-one are always in search of a replacement "daddy" for their birth-Father. they have had a couple over the years for short periods of time....

currently my worst problem is going to the store to buy groceries and finding that i have a half-gallon of ice-cream in the bag when i get home. ice-cream that at my age i can't afford to eat.... those little devils have quite the sweet tooth....
 

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Yes it can be a battle for me too. Very frustrating to have all these mixed up feelings and personality a wanting this and that. Clothing is also a bad issue I have had the biggest tantrums with myself over that.

Also I have too much ice cream I really do need to eat it all I have notion in my freezer.
 

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My little is confined to my bedroom as well. I know, :( it's not terribly fun.

I just keep in mind that as I am exploring this I will make many great friends who share my interests, and I will have people I will be able express them to.

Which is what I kind of already do on here anyway haha. But I might actually get to hangout with the friends I make. And who knows, I might even find a daddy that I really like!

Until then, night time is my little time.

:grouphug:
 

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You'll find that as you get older, you will have passed through various stages in all of this. When I was a kid living at home, I had to be so very careful. I had the attic to myself, so I stashed my stuff under the eves of the roof. I either wore and wet, late at night, or when my parents went out.

When I moved out on my own, I only had to keep things hidden from my visiting friends. Later, when I married and had children, I went back to keeping everything hidden, and there was much less active use.

At night, when I'm diapered, I can be 3 or 2 years old in my mind. During the day when I'm doing chores, I may be a "little", playing cute with my wife. At work, I'm all grown up, which I often am when at home, again during the day. For me it's fluid, and I have no trouble flowing in and out of various ages.
 

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Hi LittleRainDrop and welcome to the community (I didn't get a chance to welcome you before). I usually limit my little time to bedtime, as it is easier to be little during this time. I have on weekends, especially since it is winter time, to be still in my footie PJs until noon.

My roommates only know about my plushies and footies, all other AB things are kept in private. They haven't as far as I know, pieced things together and as far as I know, they don't even know what an AB or little is. So they just think it is something that I do.

Again, welcome and I hope you enjoy your visits.
 

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I am so glad there are similar people here. :) it's already made me feel better just being in here for a couple if days. I get easily worked up and find it so hard having to hide things a lot. Just talking is great.
I don't feel as bad about it here either as this is a very relaxed and friendly place it's also simple which I like.
 

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Well for me I wouldn't really use the word cope because honestly I just act however I'm feeling when I feel that way so unless there is something hindering me I act little when I'm feeling little.Of course as it stands only a handful of people know about my lil side and the fact I like to wear diapers but I don't really keep it a secret because I'm an honest person so if asked I'd tell them but as of now I keep my lil stuff in places out of the way where only I ever go to.
 

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I am not very good when it comes to putting what I'm thinking into words so sorry if I offended anyone saying cope.
 
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I am not very good when it comes to putting what I'm thinking into words so sorry if I offended anyone saying cope.

Don't worry it, Littleraindrop... I don't think you were anywhere near offending anyone!
Hang around here long enough...you may be surprised at how well you do in putting your thoughts to words...which is tricky for many of us still... :)

You are among friends!! Misunderstandings, or confusion are easy to come by... we can't hear tone of voice, or see facial expressions, or body language... so, in that sense, we are all a bit blind.

Add to that, that some words have different connotations for others... You can't be expected to keep up with that!
Full disclosure is more about not being afraid to show and tell all, about all of one's own proclivities...it's not necessarily dishonest at all, to keep more of yourself to yourself... that's up to each person to decide if, when, or how for themselves alone...

discretion [may be] the better part of valor!

Take care!
-Marka
 

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My little side is normally confined to my dorm room, but every once in a while it breaks free and I sneak to one of large classes with some unseen little things :3 Kind of just embraced it as a part of me you know
 

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i mainly just listen to music and talk to my close friends
 
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