How do I deal with this.

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miles

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There's just too much going on right now for me.
I'm in a constant state of distress now, and I'm lost on what I can do.

I'll try to make this as breif as possible.
A few weeks ago my Grandpa went into the hospital for cancer. He was expected to die around now, and just a few days ago he passed away.
His funeral is tuesday.
Just tonight I found out one of my good friend's father also has cancer, and is in the hospital right now. He apparently only has a week or two to live, and I'm trying hard to help my friend find a new place to live (he is 17, lives with his father, and all of his relatives live on the east coast or in Malaysia. I had to help him get back on the right track. He was thinking about how he'd get into UCLA now instead of finding a place to live)
And of course, we have the holidays and winter weather to deal with as well.

I just need help, I don't know what to do right now, I feel like screaming..
 

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If you feel like screaming then do it , just let it out
 

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Well if you need someone to talk to im here

Thanks..

I just don't know how to deal with all this all of the sudden.
And I start college in 2 weeks as well. It's really hard.
 

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your friend's dad should appoint somebody as a guardian to his son until he turns 18, the guardian will be able to enter into contracts and legal things for your friend. hopefully his father has life insurance.

could your parents possibly provide guidence for your friend?

Luckily I am from a large family, so when my aunt passed my cousins had aunts and uncles to help them.
 

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I am truly sorry for your loss and I extend my best wishes to your friends dad's health.

That said for years now I have accepted that I and everyone else has to die at some point. Yes it still sucks when people do die and it always will.
 

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Find someone you already fully trust, and that is totally outside of the whole situation to talk to. Don't start new friendships to talk with them about this, that generally goes wrong. Not always, I know a great example that that doesn't always happen but generally it doesn't help unless the situation takes a long time.

So without all the crap I am telling around it:
Find someone you already fully trust, and that is totally outside of the whole situation to talk to. And talk to them.
 

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Is it possible that your parents could take in your friend until he's 18? Otherwise like diapernh said, his dad needs to appoint someone to be a legal guardian.

We all have tough times, some tougher than others, try to sit down and talk with your friend, share your feelings with each other and if it helps then cry. I've had multiple family members die, but unfortunately I made the mistake of holding it in, and I'm sure it's probably scarred me emotionally and caused me to become detached from my emotions. Good luck and you have my deepest condolences.
 

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I feel your pain. My grandpa is dieing, not from cancer, but none the less, I hope you'll be okay. If you ever need somebody to talk to, I'm here.
 

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Thanks for the support guys.

@briefboy - We wouldn't have enough money to do so. And the thing about his Father is that he isn't in a condition to sign any legal documents or anything, legally or physically I hear. He already contacted his family on the east coast, so I'm sure he'll find a place to live out there. Also we have talked, I've been trying to help him sort his priorities out (He was thinking about college instead of where he was going to live), so I've gotten all my emotions out about my Grandfather as well. It's just really stressful.



Again, thanks for the support everyone.
 

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My grandpa is dieing, not from cancer, but none the less, I hope you'll be okay.

Everyone is dying. Not trying to sound rude but it is a fact. Every second we live is another second closer to our own deaths.
 

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Every second we live is another second closer to our own deaths.

You are a spark of sunshine aren't you? :p

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Miles:
I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather and your friend's situation. :(

I don't what to say, other than I wouldn't feel too bad about having to deal with it all. If you're upset about your grandfather then I wouldn't stress myself too much by taking on other people's problems. I'm probably just stating the obvious, but you have balance being a good friend with not taking on too much additional stress. Easier said than done...
I hope the funeral went well, and I hope your friend is okay.
 
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