Hiding...is it really necessary?

[TheWolfEmperor]

With teens, I could understand. Lets face it, growing up is a challenge, especially when your parents have expectations of you. I've been there and I had to hide my diapers too.

Sometimes, I see a thread by people who are older and asking about how to hide their products. Or mentioning in a post about hiding, etc.

While I could understand the necessity of hiding TB and AB related products like pacifiers and other such items. But I wonder if hiding diapers is more a part of the fantasy of getting caught then it is about a real need to hide them.

 

[CrinkleGamer]

Well, I still live with my parents and I would be in hell of a lot of troubles if they discover my stash so, I must hide my diapers.

 

[alu]

Some adults will still need to hide them so family, friends, Girl/boyfriends don't know about them. If not have them in a draw or something like that.

 

[dayannight]

As a parent I was aware of a lot of stuff the kids hid at home* - not all of it as innocuous as diapers! Sometimes it is easier all round if some things are not known about too openly!


*Not that i knew about everything you understand, but if it was legal and didn't need feeding it was OK by me.

 

[Petorawolf]

I hope no one shoots me for this O=) I feel most of my non-ABDL friends equate diapers with waste and as such prefer not to be around it. I tuck things away when they come over, but if ABDL friends are coming over I don't bother hiding them. However, I do keep most everything tucked away (particularly diapers) as over the years I've had several times when someone would show up unexpectedly and that made things horribly awkward (repair people, house painter, unannounced guests driving through the neighborhood etc). I eventually made a bedroom into a nursery and was able to just shut the door if this occurred. That was perfect =)

 

[irishabdaddy]

I still hide mine but i think my parents now they have found my stash before ....And my excuse was i have a drinking problem which they believed and i went to the doctor just for them....since then i have worn less but i do suspect they know i wear on and off

 

[Trevor]

I'm not looking to have anyone who isn't involved see my stash. You could call it hiding. I call it discretion. I don't want to be open about it with people who aren't involved. I could pretend I had some kind of bladder problem but that leads to a whole expectation of use and my desires aren't consistent like that. There's also the more open path of "yeah, I like diapers, what of it?" I could see going that route under the proper conditions but since I live alone and my stuff is in the closet, it hardly seems necessary. I don't feel like I'm hiding my underpants in there, that's just where they go. There's the full-blown out and proud about it and I don't see that ever happening with me. While diapers are important to me, I don't care to be defined by them and that's exactly what would happen if I was obvious about it. I can only imagine it would be confusing in any event since I'd only be out and proud a couple times a week for the most part (as this is when the mood naturally strikes) and I'm not going to go around wearing diapers when I don't want to just to be consistent.

 

[Rockie]

I'm not looking to have anyone who isn't involved see my stash. You could call it hiding. I call it discretion. I don't want to be open about it with people who aren't involved. I could pretend I had some kind of bladder problem but that leads to a whole expectation of use and my desires aren't consistent like that. There's also the more open path of "yeah, I like diapers, what of it?" I could see going that route under the proper conditions but since I live alone and my stuff is in the closet, it hardly seems necessary. I don't feel like I'm hiding my underpants in there, that's just where they go. There's the full-blown out and proud about it and I don't see that ever happening with me. While diapers are important to me, I don't care to be defined by them and that's exactly what would happen if I was obvious about it. I can only imagine it would be confusing in any event since I'd only be out and proud a couple times a week for the most part (as this is when the mood naturally strikes) and I'm not going to go around wearing diapers when I don't want to just to be consistent.

"Again, Mr. Trevooooor from Seeeaaaaattle, Washington, scores a bullseye!"

My thoughts exactly, Trevor.

 

[princessjade]

i never hid the simply because my mum always helped me with mine. i sometimes let my sis kate help me as she's an insominac till about 3am

 

[Nam Repaid]

I'm 52 and presently live alone and I still hide my diapers. I hide my porn and any other socially uncomfortable items too. You never know when a freind or neighbor will drop by or that hot watress will want to go home with you. I don't work as hard at as when I lived with my parents

 

[AstroDL]

I feel as if my stash should be hidden even though my mom knows about me being a DL. My guess is that she forgot about it by now but I still keep it well hidden. I was thinking about something similar to this earlier today.

While we hide our stash, should we really be that worried about getting caught wearing? For me the hardest part about wearing around my mom would be putting it on and taking it off, but once its on I realized that I have nothing to worry about except the smell.

 

[princessjade]

The only time I get a bit frisky with it is when I have ppl over who don't know like some of friends from college.

 

[eeyore]

Not really too much to add to this - other than hiding is always necessary unless you are happy for someone to find out - personally, I don't wish to share this lifestyle with anyone other than my partner, so I hide anything out of sight. I imagine there might be a fantasy for some of "being caught", but I think that would preferably involve being caught in the act... not because they hid them in a poor hiding place.

 

[Gil]

While I keep my diapers in a special spot, I don't go to great lengths to hide them. I really don't care if my parents find out and I really don't care what they think.

 

[Neugierig]

I hide mine very well but since I re-did my room, my new hiding spot isn't as good as the one before but I still think it's important to hide them from friends, and family.

 

[supercas29]

I keep all of my boyfriend's baby stuff at my house (cause I'm his momma ) and honestly, sometimes it's a pain in the butt to keep things hidden. I don't often have company, and I'm quite comfortable taking care of him when he's over, and idunno... I don't want to "drag out the stash" every time he comes over, because that's not how you take care of a baby. When you're a parent, your whole entire house becomes a great place to put stuff, and when you go hiding things, you tend to forget where they are. I think my boyfriend would be upset with me if I forgot where I stashed his bottle or his favorite books or toys. A few times people have come to the house and I had to go tossing things in drawers, like the bottle of baby powder on the night stand, and the baby bottle in the dish drainer just before I opened the door and afterwards all I could think is "I hate this! I don't want to apologise for the things that are in my house!" Clearly there's a place for things. The diapers go in the diaper drawer, and the onesies and baby blankets have a spot of their own, but other things that would normally be out should get to stay out where you'd normally have them!

Of course, out of respect for my boyfriend's privacy, I'll continue to keep his secrets, because they're his to keep... but I'm quite proud to be his momma and I like our crazy life!

 

[dogboy]

I still hide my stuff, though the sippy cups are in our cupboard which holds our glasses. You can do that when you have visiting grandchildren. The diapers stay in a closet, and when the kids come home to stay, they get put in plastic garbage bags and hidden in the laundry room (the diapers that is, not the kids). Onsies and footed jammies stay in my bedroom, but they're not obvious. I usually hide my big teddy bear when there's company because he wears a cute onsie.

 

[Cherub]

I keep all of my boyfriend's baby stuff at my house (cause I'm his momma )
Of course, out of respect for my boyfriend's privacy, I'll continue to keep his secrets, because they're his to keep... but I'm quite proud to be his momma and I like our crazy life!

WOW!!! I tell you this much for sure,,, I envy the living heck out of your BF. I wish to high heaven my wife was so accepting! I'm not 100% AB, more of a DL, but still, I wish my wife was as accepting as you!

But onto the topic at hand. I keep my diapers and diapering supplies in a small plastic tote in the bedroom closet. The wife knows it is there, but doesn't have much to do with it. However, I am very glad that as of my last purchase of a pack of diapers, she hasn't said anything against them. So, who knows, maybe someday,,,,,,(daydreams)

 

[twtw]

I keep my stash in a locked trunk in the corner of my room. It is both obvious and inconspicuous. I have thought about moving out and my parents even encouraged me to, but I ended up going to a school that's a ten minute bike ride from home, so there was no point. I occasionally wonder if my mother has even opened the trunk, which can be done with a screwdriver (it's been the only way to open it since I lost the key), but honestly I don't care. Though it is nice to have when I have the house to my self for a day (not often), I think the respect of space is such in my house that no true hiding is necessary.

I have had some issues with others, my grandfather almost walked in on me wearing nothing but a diaper (thankfully I was for some reason wearing pj pants, which I never wear). I've just accepted the fact that when my grandparents are over that they may not understand that they need to knock on a closed door. I'd much rather be caught by my parents than maternal grandparents (paternal grandparents are a different thing altogether, I don't know where I would start explaining what that would look like, but they live far away). So when they are visit I adjust my behaviour in my room to accommodate that. It's all really about finding a balance both in how much of all role you want your AB/DL side to play in your life and and the relationships you have with others vs. your need for space and privacy.

 

[Ninikins]

My boyfriend and I keep our stuff hidden pretty well. We hide our diapers in his closet as well as our bottles. As for our pacis,I carry them around in my purse in a cute little bag. It looks an aweful lot like a make-up bag so when I open my purse people don't think twice! So often times I carry our pacis around so that I have them always on me if ever we were to see each other.

Even when we get our own space together in the future I think we'd still hide things. I mean,we can get away with a lot of stuff like baby lotions and all because I have always used those anyway x3 I think we'd hide more because I know my boyfriend and I are social people. We like our friends coming over and doing movie nights with us and what not and even with our closest friends we know that we don't want to throw this in their face (whether they know about us being ABs or not).

So it's not really hiding out of fear of getting caught, more us not wanting the whole world to know what we like because it's a private issue