Hi everyone. Very new to this whole thing. Need some guidance!

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Hi guys,

So I have felt like there has been a "little" side to me for many many years, and today, I somehow stumbled upon the term used on Youtube and after watching a few videos I suddenly felt like I'd found people who can relate to how I've felt inside for such a long time!! It was amazing.

I googled and found terms little space, infantilism, age play and DDLG and ABDL and even the name of this forum. I don't know exactly what they mean and I and confused about what I am. I would like to clarify that my needs to feel little are totally NON-SEXUAL and quite honestly I don't accept that being a little or baby can ever be sexualised, I don't see it as a fetish, (I understand people do but I am entirely not interested) and I just hope that this is a place where I can talk about my true desires to be little safely?

So a bit about me and what I have learned:
I have been drawn to buying kids toys for myself to enjoy since I was a teenager. I remember I bought a care bear and a care bear DVD and I would watch it and I felt so cosy and happy. That was the first time I guess I regressed (also a new term I am learning)
I have actually been a "little" on a game called Second Life for a year, and I thought it was just a thing there. I never knew there was a real life community about it. What confuses me however, is that the first time I heard the term age play was in SL and it is related to things sexual in nature and it is completely illegal so what is it in real life? I guess it means something different?
In SL as a little I put myself up for adoption and got a family and I was read stories to over voice and cuddled (well, my avatar) and all that good stuff and I just loved it so much
I've been collecting things for myself in real life, plushies, board games and things
My favourite video games are kids games
The majority of the films I own are for children

I'm not into diapers... I have also decided that I don't want a "daddy" or "mommy", so does that mean that this is purely an indulgence and hobby and not DDLG/DMLG (I think those are the terms)?

I basically just want to sometimes spend time in the headspace where I feel like a little girl again and I can play with my plushies and games and snuggle in my PJs and do soothing activities. Does that mean I am technically part of this community?

I almost feel like I am "coming out". I am Raindrops and I like to act a different age some of the time :) Hello!
 
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I googled and found terms little space, infantilism, age play and DDLG and ABDL and even the name of this forum. I don't know exactly what they mean and I and confused about what I am.

ABDL = Adult Baby / Diaper Lover - An diaper lover is someone who likes to wear diapers; An adult baby is someone who enjoys babyish things / acting as a baby. Infantilism is a more clinical/medical term that roughly means the same thing as ABDL.

Little Space = I think this means the same thing as regression; basically, it's getting into a child-like mindset.

DDLG = Daddy Dom / Little Girl - The more general, non-gender-specific term is CGL = Caregiver / Little. Frankly, I'm very fuzzy on these terms as it doesn't overlap as much with ABDL; my understanding is that it's a dominant (the caregiver) / submissive (little) relationship.

AgePlay = This is the broadest of terms, and in my opinion, it's any sort of roleplay or regression to a younger age, both sexual and non-sexual. AB would fall under its umbrella, as would the terms little and middle.

ADISC = Adult Baby, Diaper Lover, Incontinent Support Community.

I would like to clarify that my needs to feel little are totally NON-SEXUAL and quite honestly I don't accept that being a little or baby can ever be sexualised, I don't see it as a fetish, (I understand people do but I am entirely not interested) and I just hope that this is a place where I can talk about my true desires to be little safely?

ADISC is strictly a PG-13 site, and frankly, we often err on the conservative side of PG-13. You won't run into explicit pictures or stories.

On the flip side, ABDL is often a sexual fetish. As such, we permit non-graphic discussion of sexual topics, within reason. I don't think they make up much of the site's content, but my perspective is of someone who has been here for over 5 years by now ...

What confuses me however, is that the first time I heard the term age play was in SL and it is related to things sexual in nature and it is completely illegal so what is it in real life? I guess it means something different?

I don't know much about Second Life, but I'm guessing the concern revolves around virtual images of children in a sexual situation, which could be considered illegal pornography in some countries.

Ageplay can be both non-sexual and sexual. Ageplay in real life never involves children in sexual situations; it's always between consenting adults.

(I am not a lawyer - This is just what I've picked up here and there over the years of being part of the ageplay/ABDL community.)

So a bit about me and what I have learned:
I have been drawn to buying kids toys for myself to enjoy since I was a teenager. I remember I bought a care bear and a care bear DVD and I would watch it and I felt so cosy and happy. That was the first time I guess I regressed (also a new term I am learning)
I have actually been a "little" on a game called Second Life for a year, and I thought it was just a thing there. I never knew there was a real life community about it. What confuses me however, is that the first time I heard the term age play was in SL and it is related to things sexual in nature and it is completely illegal so what is it in real life? I guess it means something different?
In SL as a little I put myself up for adoption and got a family and I was read stories to over voice and cuddled (well, my avatar) and all that good stuff and I just loved it so much
I've been collecting things for myself in real life, plushies, board games and things
My favourite video games are kids games
The majority of the films I own are for children

I'm not into diapers... I have also decided that I don't want a "daddy" or "mommy", so does that mean that this is purely an indulgence and hobby and not DDLG/DMLG (I think those are the terms)?

I basically just want to sometimes spend time in the headspace where I feel like a little girl again and I can play with my plushies and games and snuggle in my PJs and do soothing activities. Does that mean I am technically part of this community?

I almost feel like I am "coming out". I am Raindrops and I like to act a different age some of the time :) Hello!

Well, to some extent terms are what you make of them. Based on that, you're not into DDLG/MDLG. Nor would you be a diaper lover (DL). You certainly could fit into the ageplay community, but whether you choose to consider yourself a little and into ageplay is entirely up to you. :)

- - - Updated - - -

Addendum ... Moved to ABDL, as that seemed a bit better fit than greetings/introduction. (Plus, you'll most likely get more replies here.)

And if anything I said doesn't make sense, let me know - It's really early in the morning for me, so I'm sure I've mucked something up. ;)
 

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Hello there and welcome,
Wow, you have write introduction well about yourself! Of course you're still a part of us. I found there are lot of people who are unsure about who they are when it comes here, and the only thing is you don't have any doubt of that, the regression is sometimes erratic, we don't necessarily must have to wear diapers to join this site, whatever it does not matter while you still have a mind to seek personal pleasure of yourself, everything was fine. Don't worry we all are friendly, tell us your problems within thread if you had problem for we can help you as far as we can.

AEther*
 

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Hey, welcome, I am a little too, i am glad you came to figure yourself out, but after that please stay, please!:paci:
Being a little I find is so fuzzy, warm and fun. The more toys you have, the more little you feel but it's not just the toys, it's what you do with them that counts, using your imagination and creativity is so fun and I often make things for my little side like simple toys out of recycled materials and clothes out of old clothing I don't wear for my little side. Whilst I like diapers and pacifiers and sometimes like being a baby or other times a toddler or a kid, I would just be what you feel like, some days I feel quite young and that makes me feel safe and loved whilst being a kid you can have fun and be creative. I would experiments with different ages or maybe research what a child of a certain age will do and won't be able to do.
 

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Note, it is more or less we are a site of +18 only, but we keep things PG-13 as to not disturb anyone
 

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I would like to clarify that my needs to feel little are totally NON-SEXUAL and quite honestly I don't accept that being a little or baby can ever be sexualised, I don't see it as a fetish, (I understand people do but I am entirely not interested) and I just hope that this is a place where I can talk about my true desires to be little safely? I'm not into diapers. I basically just want to sometimes spend time in the headspace where I feel like a little girl again and I can play with my plushies and games and snuggle in my PJs and do soothing activities. Does that mean I am technically part of this community? I almost feel like I am "coming out". I am Raindrops and I like to act a different age some of the time :) Hello!
Hello Raindrops, welcome to ADISC.

You'll find that the ADISC membership is a very diverse (and nice) group of people. Age, gender, disabilities don't matter here. We all share a common interest. There are all kinds of 'age players' (for the lack of a better word) here and you'll learn a lot by reading about other people's feelings and experiences. The members are also very supportive, so if you have questions or concerns about yourself and how you fit in, just ask, you will always find someone here who will validate your feelings through their own experiences. And the membership is not shy about expressing their opinions on any subject, as long as it's kept it PG-13.

First of all, you sound to me like you're a 'Little'. The interesting thing about 'Littles' is that they are very often non-sexual in 'Little' mode (and sometime out of 'Little' mode also) for exactly the reason you stated. There are also some sexual 'Littles' here so you'll find that there are always exceptions. There are no rules here about how to be you.

Second, There are 'Adult Baby's and 'Littles' here that don't use diapers. They may prefer to play as older children or just enjoy childish things. Everyone is different so you can't make broad generalizations about who we are and what we do. We're all unique individuals.

I have also decided that I don't want a "daddy" or "mommy", so does that mean that this is purely an indulgence and hobby and not DDLG/DMLG (I think those are the terms)?

DDLG is a BDSM relationship, 'Little' and 'Adult Baby' are identities. Beyond that, it gets complicated. There is a longstanding disagreement with the BDSM community about the meaning (and ownership) of the term 'Little Girl' (LG).

AgePlay = This is the broadest of terms, and in my opinion, it's any sort of roleplay or regression to a younger age, both sexual and non-sexual. AB would fall under its umbrella, as would the terms little and middle.

HogansHeroes gives a very good broad definition of AgePlay in the AB community but there is a more specific definition of AgePlay that is used in the BDSM community.

Simple definition: AgePlay is acting.

Ageplay is a BDSM role playing game that takes place it in a dominant/submissive context. The 'sub' acts like a 'Little Girl/Boy', usually in a sexual context. The 'sub' doesn't regress (occupy a child-like head-space) but just 'acts' the part. Both partners remain in their adult head-space during BDSM AgePlay. By contrast, 'Adult Baby' and 'Littles' ageplay USUALLY incorporate regression and centers on the child-like head-space.

I'll go out on a limb here and say that, in my opinion, 'Sissy' is BDSM AgePlay.
 
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Thanks everyone for your replies! So very helpful with explanations for all the abbreviations etc. I guess for now I would say I am a little/adult baby then and that is my identity/what I identify with. I'm glad the site is PG, thats good. Waves hi to everyone

I can't wait to indulge in getting more little stuff that can take me into littlespace more... I have so many plans. This feels so right for me!

Personally as a child I had to grow up too fast and I never got to be childish and have cute things... and now Its like I crave it!!

I will be sticking around Angelic, for sure!
 

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Yay! I agree with the "I grew up too fast statement" my mom had health issues including epelpsy and diabetes before she died 1-2 months ago. It's been a long road and I loved my mom but at the same time, my mom didn't want me to be a kid, she wanted a adult to talk to, whilst her wish and my wish to have a good relationship with my mom was granted, I didn't feel loved enough, I told her and she said "what do you expect!? Cuddles and kisses?!" I was thinking "exactly mom exactly!" And "yeah?!, that's what I want!" My mom never did little kids, she was nice during childhood as she always read stories when I came up with a book, she taught me to sew, cook, we had a few things in common, later on we made our own games and laughed at our experiences. She cared about my future and I got upset when apparently my mom cried when I didn't get into the college course that I wanted. But I never thought she thought of me as her daughter. She can't tell me what to do now can she? Here I am on Adisc, sucking my thumb and in a wet diaper!
 

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Aww I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mum Angelic. Absolutely same with my mum, she wanted a best friend and I was it, and if I wanted nurturing she'd say "You're mum wants that sometimes too you know" lol kind of ridiculous. It sound like you had some nice memories though :) That's awesome. I'm a thumb sucker too woot! I will never stop neverrrr lolll
 

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Raindrops, there are a few things I, and I'm sure we all, want you to understand about us. First, I don't know what you saw on Second Life, as I haven't been there in years, and when I was, I hadn't yet identified.

Some of us are sexual ABs, Littles, Middles, sissies, babyfurs, diaperfurs, DLs, or any combination thereof. For myself, yourself, and plenty of others, it's not a sexual thing. For me, it's, "the anti sex." That's fine.

The thing is, this being sexual for some isn't illegal, or even bad, because this, in all its individual permutations, is about putting consenting adults in child-like situations, never, ever, ever the other way around. The sexuals here aren't into kids. It's just that for a lot of them, being put in a childlike situation, or a naughty situation, like needing a diaper past a normal age, takes them down a peg enough to give them adult sensations. There are other reasons, too, but that's a common one. That's the super duper important part. We're good peeps, because we watch for creeps, and they get kicked out if they come here.

The bit of advice I wanna give you is, don't be afraid to interact with some of us based on it being sexual for them. You may miss valuable information if you do. For example, when I first got here, I wasn't sure what things would be fun to try. I asked a friend about a contract he knew of, so that I could use it as a springboard for conversations about my limits with playmates and Bigs. Changing mats, not changing tables. Hard limit! Old bad memory. Bigs around me need to respect that being okay with confinement is something I'm working on, and not just put me in a crib or playpen. They need to get that I'm already a wheelchair user, and being in an adult jogger stroller will terrify me at first, because the 5 point harness might make me feel even more disabled.

Point being, I would've never thought I'd need soft and hard limits for a non sexual thing, but without them, I'd feel powerless, and without that friend who just happens to be on the sexual end, I'd have never seen the desperately needed contract that got me thinking of what those limits were, how some may change, and why other limits of mine never will.

Incase you you pop back in and check this post out again, I just thought of something else that might be the reason SL was kinda weird about the ageplay thing. Play is used within kinkdom to mean the unusual behavior consented to by the parties involved, i.e. Cosplay, which can be relatively vanilla, or fire play, or Pony play, not to be confused with bronies, which to me is less weird than letting someone but a bit in your mouth and reigns on you, but hey.

Side note, c
urse you, Christian Grey, you frustratingly fictional, handsome, rich, enlightened about pretty much every bonking thing, ever so alluringly broken soul! Now, when we say playroom, we'll have an even harder time explaining how some of ours are different!:lol:


 
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Thanks for that explanation SpAzPieSweeTot :) With Second Life it's not what I've seen but what is in the rules of the game that there can be no sexual age play and if people mention the word age play they mean it to be sexual so that's why I was confused about the terms, It seems that they are indeed used differently - in there, me being a little is not seen as age play because I don't partake in anything sexual. But it sounds like age play in RL can be seen as sexual and non-sexual. In there it is illegal if anything sexual is involved even if there are consenting adults behind the screen.

I understand that it is consenting adults in RL and it is not illegal for the child-like sexual roleplay but yeah.... not my cup of tea. If it is others that's their business as long as they are not hurting anyone. It's very hard to put my head around I must admit, but I don't have to as I am just little doing my own thing. I don't intend to offend anyone by being confused at it or anything.

Haha and I'm glad the creepers get chased away :D
 
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I'm aware of that. However, the spelling mistake gave me the impression that the ToS has been changed, hence, the clarification...

By the way, welcome to ADISC, Raindrops...
 

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The way I have seen and heard it described:most if not all ageplay ( role-pay where one person takes on a kid role and the other an adult role) falls on a 4 quadrant continuum with sexual vs. non-sexual on one axis and Emotionally real ( The child part of one's self feels real. I think regression might be the term used on this site for that concept) vs character role play on the other axis.ap graph.jpg Personally, I fall squarely in quad 3.

Adult baby is a very young subset of innerkid. Those who prefer the term innerkid like to be treated or role play as older kids ( such as preschool or school age rather than baby)
 
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