Has anyone had a significant read There's a Baby in My Bed?

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Sorry... :p Never read it, or even heard of it.
 

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I really liked the first half of the book, but the second half was more devoted to her husband's cross gender identification. As a few members have said, some of her theories are a bit dated, but they've certainly been discussed in the AB/DL community and have validity. I don't believe she talks about love mapping or imprinting and that seems to be a more contemporary theory, though I believe love mapping dates back several decades.

Over all, I think the book can empower us to feel freer about our desires, especially engaging our spouses to not only accept us, but become more involved.
 

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I have been attempting to find it, but have had no luck.
 

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I bought a copy from Amazon.com, and asked the wife to read it. She read a little of it and didn't want to read the rest. I thought it was a very good book, but it didn't do anything to change attitudes at home.

I just looked, and Amazon still has it available at $17.65 for hard copy. Kindle edition is $12.95

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I really enjoyed it myself, but I have not been able to have anybody of personal importance read it. I feel like it sheds a lot of light on why we are the way we are, and how we think in a generalized sense.
 

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I'd take it with a grain of salt, some things in the book connected with me, but towards the second half of it, she sounds a little "out there" FOR SURE, read it yourself before you give it to a SO to read.
 

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I also found it helpful in understanding what is going on in my head.
It is written to help a SO take on a parenting role, but even without that, I find the info useful.
 

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I read it and then my wife read most of it. I thought was pretty good, but with too many assumptions (not based on real data) and attention to cross-dressing (that's her husbands thing). So, before I gave it to my wife to read I went through it and highlighted areas that pertained to me and areas that did not. Overall, I think it might be a little too "out there" for the spouse or significant other who doesn't know much about this stuff. But, there are some helpful things in this book for the adventurous or open-minded spouse on how to handle an adult baby. I'm actually thinking about buying another book on adult babies so any suggestions would be helpful.
 

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Sorry for the original horrendous typing, my phone and I aren't always so in sync.

My husband read it, but just the chaper on interaction. I'm worried it might seem too extremist. He has actively thought about it more the last few days.
Like sometimes he holds my hand differently, which I guess the book suggested. And he didn't scoff at the price of the diapers I want quite so much. He said if it was something that made me happy it wasn't a monetary issue
 

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I heard of the book but never read it?
I would like to hear more people's perspective on it.
 

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Did they find it helpful? Or too intense?
Thoughts?

I read the whole thing. My boyfriend is reading it. He says it is really intense to read and it has taken him a few months to read it. He is a bit over half way through. He seems to be taking a break from it. He has learned a lot from it and so have I. It was a really good book.
 

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It's quite an informative book. Like anything though that tries to cover a subject with such breadth as our world, there's going to be hit and miss for some.

I found a lot if the general stuff in the first half to be very helpful in understanding my own motivations. I could relate to much of what she wrote. Because the second part is so focused on her husband who is sissy/ab it became less relevant for me.

The discussion on regression is very interesting and I feel gets close to my experiences.

What is good I think is the advice for potential caregivers, however it does subscribe to a fairly intense kind of relationship, quite a dominant one which could be a bit extreme for some. For this reason I've only discussed some sections with my partner. If she were to read the whole book on her own with out my personal perspective she may very well come to inappropriate conclusions about my needs/ desires.

I recommend a read. It is definitely aimed at AB/littles.
 

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i thumbed through it in barns and nobles relationship section (I'm asexual and don't like dating or marriage, so hell if i know how i got there :)), and it was a bit dated and 50'sish to me, i wouldn't recommend it, but its better than Google.
 

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i thumbed through it in barns and nobles relationship section (I'm asexual and don't like dating or marriage, so hell if i know how i got there :)), and it was a bit dated and 50'sish to me, i wouldn't recommend it, but its better than Google.

Woah! It's in Barnes and Nobel? That is crazy, I would not have expected that.
 

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I read the whole thing. My boyfriend is reading it. He says it is really intense to read and it has taken him a few months to read it. He is a bit over half way through. He seems to be taking a break from it. He has learned a lot from it and so have I. It was a really good book.

I think he felt like he had many more obligations than I expected he should have, or feel like he had after reading it.
 

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i thumbed through it in barns and nobles relationship section (I'm asexual and don't like dating or marriage, so hell if i know how i got there :)), and it was a bit dated and 50'sish to me, i wouldn't recommend it, but its better than Google.

I'll bet that shocked a few of the Barnes & Nobles regulars....haha.
 

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it was shocking to see it in barns and noble next to "Sex For Dummies", yes, it was actally near that book, no joke :))
 

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I'm reading it in this period, going slow...I like reflect a lot about what I'm going to read, expecially in this kind of book. I'm now about in half....well I found it very interesting and helpfull to understand myself. I agree that is some is quite extreme, but I think is important catch the significance we are looking for.
So definetly I raccomend to anybody wants to go deeper in himself!
 

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so heres the full story about seeing it in barns and noble :).
i went to the barns and noble book store because i needed a book on how to sew fleece for my cow print footed sleeper. i walked in, and went to the sewing section, which for some reason merges with the relationship scetion, i don't know why, it just does, its a weird store. i'm looking through the sewing books and start looking at the "For Dummies" books to look for one on sewing. sewing is in the "s" catagory and is right next to "Sex For Dummies", being the bored immature person i am, i look through it and put it down. right next to it is the end of the "For Dummies" section is the relationship section, and "Theres A Baby In My Bed", imagine my shock when i saw it on the shelf next to "Sex For Dummies". i pick it up and look through it, i was kinda offended by it so i got a manager and told him about it. at my barns and noble, they have a policy that if something could be considered offensive, they will take it off the shelves and send it back to the manufacturer, which is good.
 
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