Going Through With Acceptance

[babied]

Hi Everyone,

Just thought the best way to get this off my mind is to write it out and share it.

For the past while I have been going through with the acceptance of my DL side, and most of us here know that it can be tough. Since the acceptance kicked in I tend to go around in a circle telling myself that it's fine one minute and its not the next. I have got to the stage where I know that it is a part of who I am but now and again I start to feel that there is something wrong with me and work myself into a panic. The main thing that I have told myself recently is that no one can choose what they like or dislike.

Advice ?

Side-question: All of this as got me looking for something to relate to, and the only thing I can think of is that, could we relate this acceptance with the LGBT people. Since we do go through the same type of things that LGBT people go through with acceptance ?

 

[Trevor]

Try looking at it as objectively as you can and try to determine what's really so wrong with it. You may come up with some others but these are the ones that are primary to me:

• It is generally a negative in relationships, although occasionally positive if you can share it. This makes it like a lot of things but objectively, I would say it creates more problems for the average person.
• It's something that most want to keep private, if not secret, which creates additional complications. Again, there are other things in life that are similar but manageable.
• It's an added expense. This one is pretty trivial to me. Hobbies and interests often have an associated cost and while I wouldn't call this a hobby, some do, and the cost is manageable.
• Refusing to accept yourself can lead to significant stress. This one is hard to really see until you're on the other side of it. I would call this the biggest negative and it's one that is within your own power to alleviate.

For me, this list seems to put the most negative aspects of it coming from society rather than from objective harms. It says to me that being an ABDL is pretty neutral in and of itself, but has some negative consequences because society at large isn't on board with it. In that I keep this to myself and those with whom I share the interest, society's stigma doesn't matter to me too much. Write up your own list and see what's really worrying you.

As to the LGBT part of your post, I don't think it serves us too well to focus on those similarities. There are some that do exist but I think trying to make that connection risks trivializing that struggle. When I need something relatable, I tend to think of the broader acceptance of geek culture or how kinks in general have become more accepted, which is really where I think we should be focusing our energies rather than seeking broad acceptance for a pretty strange practice held by a tiny number of people.

Keep at the acceptance thing. It's really worth it!

 

[babied]

Thanks Trevor,

I do agree with you on the point about society, that it can make many people feel like they are/will be judged just because they are different. The only thing that comes to mind about making a list is that I did get dumped recently which I think led to me getting caught in this spiral deeper, and also that I still have to meet another abdl person.

 

[dogboy]

Great advise from Trevor. From your last post, I wouldn't necessarily limit myself to another ABDL person. Like Trevor said, we are few in numbers compared to the entire population. I didn't find an AB/DL person, but rather, someone who loves me unconditionally. I can wear diapers when I want because she understands me, just as I understand and accept her. It works for us and I hope you find someone where it works for you.

 

[Trevor]

Thanks Trevor,

I do agree with you on the point about society, that it can make many people feel like they are/will be judged just because they are different. The only thing that comes to mind about making a list is that I did get dumped recently which I think led to me getting caught in this spiral deeper, and also that I still have to meet another abdl person.

Remember that anyone can get dumped, not just ABDLs. There are so many reasons why things don't work out (or do) and this is just one piece of that overall puzzle. While it's obvious that ABDLs can get along in relationships with those who aren't into it, I would recommend getting out there and meeting other ABDLs. I've found it really helped me put it in a better place in my mind to know others out there like myself. I had managed to get myself to a place of grudging acceptance all on my own but it wasn't until I made ABDL friends that I understood how it could be a positive thing in my life.

 

[viker55]

im brand new to the community just did my first post a few mintues ago and i stumbled across this thread. I am also on a journey to finding out where i lay in the community and mabye more importantly about accepting myself for who i am and rather or not i should accept this newly found love or desire for diapers and i wanted to reach out and find people that were in the same boat as me and after reading your top thread i have to say i have those same feelings from time to time and tend to ask myself why do i want to wear them, what if people find out, Am i wearing them for attention or am i depressed and the list can go on and on but i think one thing thats really opened my eyes recently is that i can reach out to support groups and forums like this and speak to people and learn alot more about the community and learn to accept myself with this new found love.