Slomo said:
It always gets me when someone says they have been inexplicably drawn to diapers since they were a child, and long before they even had sexual desires. And then they go on to say this is a fetish for them. Uh, no.
Well, although it may be semantics, how we describe ourselves, I was into this at the age of two to three, when I was first weaned off of diapers. At that time, the desires were dancing in my head mostly, although I may have been getting erections early on. I don't know. I knew it made my heart race, and I just needed to go deeper. I started playing with "things", and spending way too much time in certain aisles of the pharmacy & grocery stores. I didn't learn about masturbation until I was 12, so I really didn't know what to do with an erection before that. By the time I reached puberty, other things were at play in my sexuality, and although my main sexual attraction was to females, the diaper desires in my brain never went away, they only manifested in ways I could now begin to enjoy. First it was plastic pants and soaps/lubes, and that brought me great comfort, in a way girls weren't bringing it to me. Later it was stuffers that I could get away with, and throw away (toilet paper, rags, etc.).
So, whether the mental desires formed before my sexuality, or not, they eventually merged with my sexuality by the time I was in my teens. Fetish? I don't know. That seemed to be the name for the unusual sexual attraction to an object. At that point in my life, I don't think there was any turning back, and eventually heard the term infantilism used, in place of fetish. That also seemed to fit. I can tell you, it was a guilt ridden stage, but I got over that, and shortly thereafter realized I wasn't alone in my desires. That made things a lot easier to accept. Yes, I knew people were into whips & chains, even women's panties, feet/shoes, vinyl/leather, etc. but now I could actually add diapers to the list of things people could be sexually attracted to, and I was part of that smaller group of kinky folk. Honestly, life got a bit easier to live, at that point, and there was no looking back, even after marriage.
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Gettingoverthefear said:
Recently my wife of 30+ years discovered some of my baby things. I have been increasing my baby behaviors in the last 2 years because I retired and my wife was still working. My wife is planning on retiring soon. I told her I would go to a counselor. I would like to keep the door open for me to continue my abdl habit, but do not know if that is realistic given that I have hidden this habit for all of our marriage. Until the last 2 years, my diaper fetish was merely a way to satisfy myself sexually when my wife did not want to have sex. After retirement, my diaper fetish has grown into a more time consuming and frequent habit which I have to admit is interfering with my sex life with my wife. So now I fell like perhaps I should give it up, but would like to consider the possibility of continuing my abdl habits with my wife's consent.
Well, hopefully, with some intense communications, you and your wife can come to terms with the lost trust, and rebuild something that includes some diaper play. It can happen, but it takes a lot of effort. The easier way would be to drop the diapers, but I can almost guarantee, they'll be back, as will the wifely upsets. Better to figure a way to include them, in your life, and find a way to help her understand the need. A lot of women take it as a slight, that a diaper can be comforting, but they use chocolate, coffee, etc. to find their own comfort level in life, don't they?
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Doshy said:
I think you are going to regret telling a counselor about your diaper fetish. Infantilism and diaper fetishes is the LEAST STUDIED AND UNDERSTOOD phenomenon in the psychiatric world. Unless you're talking to the best doctor in the world and are paying her a boatload of money, I don't think you should tell her.
She can help you with your other problems, but NOT with the diapers. That's just cold hard fact man.
It may be time to just accept that you like diapers. You don't have to wear them. For a long time, I had sworn off diapers. Instead, I just wore a onesie around as an undershirt. I was diapered in my mind only. In the last century and before, liking and wearing the garments of those outside of your norm was called transvestism. In history, people used to wear swaddling robes and just foul themselves, as that's what babies did.
Today we have diapers, but the fetish is still the same. You can be happy with just wearing the clothing of children and babies instead of wearing a diaper. I did it. Try it out before you tell a doctor.
I disagree. I told my therapist many years ago. It wasn't the reason why I sought therapy, but I let her decide if it was important as to what I was trying to solve in my life. If a person does seek counseling over diaper wearing, will he/she try to wean you off diapers??? Only if you make it certain that it's your choice. Even then, the recidivism rate is monstrous... In that respect, you are probably right, doshy.
One thing that is a decent "second best" is wearing multiple (6-8) pairs of undies, and wetting them. It'll never hold a candle to a diaper, but it doesn't require the "goods" that a true diaper fetish does; diapers, powders, etc. It's also a bit easier to hide from anyone but your wife, since the undies can just be washed as soon as they come off, leaving just a greater number of them to address, should anyone get wind. Your wife will know, so don't try to hide that from her, too. That won't go well...