Getting your messy diaper changed

[diaperscent]

I know a lot of people on here have described that they don’t like messing in their diaper because of the smell and the cleanup required which I think is understandable.

However, how does it feel if you’re someone who’s being under the care of someone else? I would have to imagine there’s such an intense feeling that comes right afterwards knowing that eventually that person is going to find out and change you. Can anyone who’s gotten to experience that describe how it feels and if it changes your attitude towards just doing it by yourself?

 

[jdinvirginia]

Having others change your messy diaper usually occurs in a hospital or other clinical setting such as rehab. Usually you would be pre- or post-surgery, following an injury or illness. I was in this situation following back surgery.

Anyone who is bowel incontinent and successfully coping with being fecal IC, has had to accept the realities of their situation and how to deal with it following a bowel accident or a scheduled diaper change with a messy diaper. This also means that they must accept that they need assistance during your recovery - until they can tend to themselves.

Despite what I have written above, a messy diaper chage by another person can be embarrassing. Often the caregiver is female and any diaper change requires exposing yourself to the other person. If you have a messy diaper, there is the added embarrassment that the situation probably will be offensive to the other person by both sight and smell.

Nonetheless, the caregiver changing your diaper in a situation such as above, often is changing diapers for multiple patients and probably has changed hundreds in the recent past. For them, it is just an unpleasant task that is part of their job. They are completely professional and will not comment or react to your messy diaper unless there is something of medical significance. They never will say or do something to make you feel uncomfortable.

 

[Saltedcaramel64]

My wife changes my dirty diaper in the morning every day that I wake up messy. I lean over the sink while she wipes me clean, and then we shower together. It is kind of embarrassing for me, but she really doesnt seem to mind. It makes me feel very humble and grateful towards my wife.

 

[Diaperedlife13]

This is something I wanna experience. I kinda have with my ex. But. Its complicated. I don't like messing because it's hard for me to clean. Plus the smell is hard to mask. But. I genuinely enjoy it. Just get immediate anxiety because I don't wanna get cought by my fiance and it's a lot to clean up and it makes the house smell. But I wish she was okay with it

 

[loadedpamperman]

This is something I wanna experience. I kinda have with my ex. But. Its complicated. I don't like messing because it's hard for me to clean. Plus the smell is hard to mask. But. I genuinely enjoy it. Just get immediate anxiety because I don't wanna get cought by my fiance and it's a lot to clean up and it makes the house smell. But I wish she was okay with it

Is she aware of you wearing? If no then I highly recommend you either stop wearing OR find the courage to have an honest discussion.

 

[OneWhoHasSeenTheEye]

I was struck by a car and broke bones from head to toe. After being intubated for 10 days, I was told I needed to poop, and they gave me a bunch of laxatives. I was not very ‘with it,’ but I remember asking how I was going to it?

The nurse tucked a million chux pads around me and said, “just go.” I was to tired to care, so I let go. It was a crazy experience.

For three months I was bed bound and was cleaned after every bowel movement. I got used to it out of necessity. To the point that I got comfortable asking a lazy nurse to ‘get in there better’ because it was very itchy and irritating to not be clean.

At one point (this was at a rehab and nursing home, not the hospital) I was constipated and drank two bottles of mag citrate to get things moving. 8 hours later, nothing. So they came in to give me an enema. The nurse was an older lady, super nice and giggly, with an African accent. There were two trainees with her when she came in. She pulled the covers off me and said, “Oh good, you are wearing a diaper!”

I thought that was odd but hillarious. The trainees looked uncomfortable. It is possible they were thrown off by the fact that a 28 year old was in a rehab center with almost all elderly people, and was in a diaper.

 

[lilbabyjooce]

When my daddy and I are together he changes every diaper I wear, which ultimately ends up including messy ones. It’s something I always dreamed of being able to receive, yet the first time/times it happened I was surprised with just how embarrassed I was.
It wasn’t necessarily a bad embarrassment, but it was a very “real” moment—like wow, I am a grown adult woman and someone is changing a diaper I would be worried about changing myself. It’s exciting but in a completely nonsexual way (for me) and one of the most raw and intimate things I’ve ever experienced. Humbling is a good way to put it. But also there’s something so special about it—the person doing it for you must really, really like you to be doing something like that for you! It still hasn’t gotten any less embarrassing but I’ve grown fond of the vulnerability.

 

[loadedpamperman]

For me it was uncomfortably embarrassing as all hell. I was bed bound in the hospital. I have severe autoimmune issues, lower spinal destruction (L1/L2 through L5/S1 with accompanying nerve damage) though I do have bowel control and some (though less & less every year) control of peeing while awake at least. Well, my body over reacts (as is usual) and after a spinal implant surgery I literally could not move anything below my waist for a little over a week...only good sign was i could barely wiggle my toes but the pain was BEYOND EXCRUCIATING!

I had to go in the worst way and rang for a nurse once, twice and the third time I get a response that no one is available to tend to me right now, what is the problem? I explained and was told to "just go" and they'll take care of me asap. I was diapered as I am akin to a hose that can't be turned off when asleep but still, fought like hell to not "load" my diaper. All to no avail, it was coming out and there was nothing I could do about it! Turned out to be one of those MASSIVE loads that completely filled the entire diaper to the point it was coming out the front & back to boot. It took about a half hour after I filled my diaper for the nurses to come in and I learned they had one guy code out and die and an older woman fall and shatter a hip. I felt about 2" tall for almost begging to be tended to asap but was told to ignore it, no one was mad at me. I desperately BEGGED to be "escorted" into the shower as I've always tended to my own needs but they wouldn't hear of that....besides, they would have had to carry my 260lb ass!

I wound up experiencing messy diapers in the hospital at least a few dozen times and let me tell you, it never got easier for me to have to rely on others to take care of me but when you can't, you can't! Thankfully I haven't had a repeat of that since early '21 but it's happened where I couldn't stand/walk so many times already since 2004 I can't recall all of them.

What I always imagined would to be incredibly desirable and even intimate was anything but in my experience.

 

[EastTXDL]

I've had the same experience as others on here apparently. I've changed messy diapers but it would be very weird for me to have mine changed. Rather embarrassing honestly. It would still be something I would want to experience.

 

[sbmccue]

When my daddy and I are together he changes every diaper I wear, which ultimately ends up including messy ones. It’s something I always dreamed of being able to receive, yet the first time/times it happened I was surprised with just how embarrassed I was.
It wasn’t necessarily a bad embarrassment, but it was a very “real” moment—like wow, I am a grown adult woman and someone is changing a diaper I would be worried about changing myself. It’s exciting but in a completely nonsexual way (for me) and one of the most raw and intimate things I’ve ever experienced. Humbling is a good way to put it. But also there’s something so special about it—the person doing it for you must really, really like you to be doing something like that for you! It still hasn’t gotten any less embarrassing but I’ve grown fond of the vulnerability.

LBJ hits the nail on the head. Over the past 35 years, I've had babysitters - including my Significant Other at the time - change perhaps a dozen dirty diapers, ranging from hardly more than a stain to a near-blowout. As much as I've always anticipated and looked forward to the experience, being both the cause of the issue and the observer of the process is more embarrassing and humbling than anything else. Having a messy diaper changed is one of the few times I've honestly wished I could regress and have no sensibilities at all!

 

[Zeke]

The only time that I’ve had a messy diaper changed by someone was when I was having such bad back pain that I was bedridden over 6 years ago. My home healthcare worker pulled down my plastic pants and tore the side seams of the Tranquility ATN pull-up that I was was wearing and removed it. She cleaned me up and powder my diaper area before putting me in a fresh ATN and putting on and pulling up my plastic pants. She had a toddler a home and said that it was just like changing him but on a larger scale except for the plastic pants.

 

[greatlake5]

I've been IC since the beginning. So I've had tons of diaper changes until I could do them myself. From my mom, older sister, babysitters and some teachers and aides. I don't think I liked being changed, at least until I started kindergarten. Before that it was mostly an irritation. What?...I have to get my diaper changed? Why? Your screwing with me because I was playing or watching TV. But...I remember how I liked the attention.

Today I do almost all my own changes. I do remember when I was in my middle teens when I had to go to the hospital. It was for a series of tests that
took a couple of days. Remember that I'm completely IC so wearing diapers are a normal thing for me. But I hadn't started using chlorophyll copper (internal deodorants) until I became using them. So yeah, having a nurse changing my diaper was ...smelly and embarrassing? At least that. Especially when I was an older kid. When this happened, I remember how (and still have today) I normally have fairly large stool. When she went to look at my diaper her face was surprising. She was actually shocked. She even said "Now that's a big one!" Christ, it was so humiliating to listen her say that. But that was back in the 2000's. Now days I use internal deodorants and I change my own diapers.

I now have a fairly new partner. Obviously she knows I'm IC and I wear diapers. For some reason it doesn't faze her at all. She was the one who actually noticed it first before I could tell her. We sleep together a couple of times each week and once in a while she'd say "it looks like you have a messy diaper." She's even touched my bottom and asked if I need help. So far I just tell her I can handle it myself. I don't think I'd ever let her change me. At least when I have a messy diaper. But I admit it's nice for the attention. Letting her change a poopy diaper? Not in the near future.

 

[Lyric]

I've been wearing diapers and rubber pants full time for the past 15 years and before that off and on since I was an adult. I used to mess in my diapers fairly often when I wore diapers but I didn't wear all that often. No one knew I word diapers except a few times I told a girl, but I never told her I messed, only wet, and even then was only changed a few times. When I first met my now wife I told her all about my life long desire to wear diapers, including both wetting and messing them. She ended up accepting and even fully participating in my diaper life, including changing my wet diapers all the time. However, she was put off about my messing in my diapers and told me I had to ask for her permission before I messed in my diapers and she did not expect to allow me to mess very often and when I did, I had to clean and change myself. That seemed like such a small thing to give up for all the benefits I received from being able to wear diapers full time, have her change me and include diapers in our sexual lives that I quickly agreed. But over the years, on a few occasions, she has actually changed my poppy diapers and I was surprised how embarrassed, even ashamed I felt while she changed me. I kept thinking to myself how a grown man like me could go around wearing diapers and rubber pants all day, and not only go potty in them, but poop in my diapers too, and then expose my childish infantile behavior to my beautiful wife. All those feeling seemed to get worse and worse as she had me lay down on my changing pad, while she pulled down my rubber pants, and unpinned my sticky, messy diapers. I fully expected her to chastise me or ask me how I could so belittle myself in front of her and her friends. I never feel feel that way when she changes my wet diapers, but the few times she changed my messy diapers I felt so ashamed of myself.

 

[Harley07]

Being incontinent I usually either poop while I sleep or 1st thing in the am, my wife will change me before she goes to work.... I have Lupus and over the years have been hospitalized a few times, I usually change myself, but there's been times that I couldn't get up or was hooked up to stuff that kept me from doing so, I had to be changed by staff, it really doesn't embarrass me anymore

 

[Fleetwoodmac32192]

I have to change myself. I am not comfortable exposing anyone else to my accidents if I'm able to clean myself carefully.

 

[jdinvirginia]

Lyric mentioned wearing rubber pants. I should note that rubber pants transmit less fecal odor than plastic pants of the same thickness. I am both bowel and bladder incontinent and have both researched and experimented with this.

On days when I think I am at greater risk of a bowel accident, I wear a pair of rubber pants - over my plastic pants - just in case. The combination will not completely block fecal odor, but when in public, it gives you time to move away from a group of people before your situation becomes "obvious."

Rubber pants are a tad heavier than vinyl and are more expensive. However, with care they will last a long time and serve you well.

 

[Samaki1000]

My partner knows I wear and actually wants to experience changing me, I've only recently been able to get into diapers more even though I've always enjoyed them. The idea of being changed while messy though is really embarrassing.

 

[Diaperedlife13]

Is she aware of you wearing? If no then I highly recommend you either stop wearing OR find the courage to have an honest discussion.

She's completely aware of me wearing. Just not okay with messing.

 

[Jrodabdl]

I've only experienced it a few times with ex girlfriends trying to make me happy and I feel very appreciative with it but no one has ever changed my diaper with the love of a mother and made me feel especially little if that makes sense so I don't make anyone change me that doesn't really want to anymore just because most people will do things to please each other in a relationship but won't put 100% into it if it's not their thing.

 

[Diaperedlife13]

I've only experienced it a few times with ex girlfriends trying to make me happy and I feel very appreciative with it but no one has ever changed my diaper with the love of a mother and made me feel especially little if that makes sense so I don't make anyone change me that doesn't really want to anymore just because most people will do things to please each other in a relationship but won't put 100% into it if it's not their thing.

Makes complete sense. I feel exactly the same.