Forcing kink or no?

[puddlefeet]

I shared a video on my tumblr and people say this girl is forcing her kink on others. Frankly, id have to disagree. Yes, you can see the outline of her diaper, but are the lives of humans so black and white that we can't have a little bit of fun outside the norm? The girl is still properly dressed.

https://at.tumblr.com/wetfeet/bebote85-big-diaper-in-public/cwjsn7dpm8l1

 

[SoakedinTexas]

As long as she is happy it is her life to live the way she wants.

 

[Cottontail]

Is she forcing her kink? Well... 🤷 Yeah! If she was just out and about in a bulky diaper and happened to get caught on somebody's phone camera I might be on the fence, but that's not what happened. This was pretty obviously an arranged outing with a designated camera person, conducted with the express purpose of wowing people and possibly humiliating the subject.

I won't automatically give somebody a pass just because their diaper isn't poking out. Intent does matter.

(It's pretty tame versus some of the other stuff I've seen, but while we're speaking in absolute terms...)

 

[TeddyJoy]

Yeah, if you have to question it, then don't do it. Her kink is in view of others who don't need to know. It doesn't help the rest of the community.

 

[mistykitty]

I would say that yes it doesn't do the abdl community any favors, but based on the photo I would say forcing it on others was hopefully not the intent, or if it was she wanted to do so subltely without the diaper showing (not saying I approve if that was the intent though). Like @Cottontail said without knowing her intent at the time it's a little ambiguous of which story is the right one. As for the person who made the statement about her, that's her opinion which she is allowed to have and if this experiance made her feel uncomfortable yes that is definitely something that should be avoided because it's unfair.

 

[Stevepw]

Hmm I'm not sure. The video is definitely set up and I love the idea of being forced to go out like that.
Would i ever go out like that no.
Ps i gave you a follow

 

[fleckothefennec]

Yes I think the intent there was aimed at people seeing her in a public space with an oversized diaper. Definitely intentionally involving non consensual people in her kink.

 

[CrazySmoker]

Thatt video is exactaly What I dislike in oublic - if you're not IC.

 

[mistykitty]

Yes I think the intent there was aimed at people seeing her in a public space with an oversized diaper. Definitely intentionally involving non consensual people in her kink.

All things considered this was the direction I was leaning as well unfortunately. I hate to say it but I think like you said I think it was on purpose.

 

[puddlefeet]

Is she forcing her kink? Well... 🤷 Yeah! If she was just out and about in a bulky diaper and happened to get caught on somebody's phone camera I might be on the fence, but that's not what happened. This was pretty obviously an arranged outing with a designated camera person, conducted with the express purpose of wowing people and possibly humiliating the subject.

I won't automatically give somebody a pass just because their diaper isn't poking out. Intent does matter.

(It's pretty tame versus some of the other stuff I've seen, but while we're speaking in absolute terms...)

I agree that it is tame, but in the end they are still wearing suitable clothes to be outdoors... but I guess we could go back and forth about this topic all fay haha I do this on rare occasion and enjoy it. Most people don't even realize. Maybe 10% of people do with a questionable face, but it's not like I'm harming the public. Could be worse, a ton of guys walk around with their shirts off and girls wear incredibly short skirts during the summer.

 

[puddlefeet]

As long as she is happy it is her life to live the way she wants.

I wish most would think like you.

 

[mistykitty]

I wish most would think like you.

I'm big on accepting all kinds of people and them doing what makes them happy because I know and respect the fact that everyone is their own individual. My above statements were not meant to say she couldn't be happy with her above actions at all, I'm just saying maybe she made it a little to obvious and that made people uncomfortable.

 

[MetalDan86]

As others mentioned, forcing her kink on others to view seems intentional based on the camera work here. Without that context and if she were just wearing less thick padding, it may go unnoticed and not stir up any passers-by. It is how one flaunts it that counts. There is a time and a place to show pride in diapers and this act seems wholly inappropriate.

 

[mistykitty]

As others mentioned, forcing her kink on others to view seems intentional based on the camera work here. Without that context and if she were just wearing less thick padding, it may go unnoticed and not stir up any passers-by. It is how one flaunts it that counts. There is a time and a place to show pride in diapers and this act seems wholly inappropriate.

I agree with this 100%.

 

[Seasonedcitizen]

She maybe incontinent and doesn’t know that it shows.

 

[BabyHailey1977]

I honestly don’t see a problem with it. If someone is uncomfortable because they see it outside like that, then that’s their hangup.

Guys sagging their pants so far down that you can almost see their entire boxer is a hell of a lot mor inappropriate than this. She’s fully covered.

 

[chiaochai]

yep, exactly the kind of thing that gives all of us a bad name and just serves to add more time until we can be accepted every time they do it.

 

[chiaochai]

I honestly don’t see a problem with it. If someone is uncomfortable because they see it outside like that, then that’s their hangup.

Guys sagging their pants so far down that you can almost see their entire boxer is a hell of a lot mor inappropriate than this. She’s fully covered.

if someone is uncomfortable being around that, its because theyve been involved in a kink they wanted no part in.

 

[mistykitty]

She maybe incontinent and doesn’t know that it shows.

Ok true, that's an possible acceptable explanation, but as I put in one of my earlier posts without clearer info about her intent it's kind of an abiguous situation as far as how it can be percieved.

 

[LittleZeeb]

I've been of the opinion for awhile now that, unless you're actively naked and doing sexual acts in front of people, you're honestly not forcing anything on anyone. Existing in fetish gear at pride, for example, is not forcing a kink. It's a touchy discussion, and people will certainly feel a way about it. But is it actually morally harmful or is it provoking a knee-jerk or disgust reaction from onlookers? People have this reaction about hand holding and kissing in public too. A diaper in full clothes is the least of the uncomfortable things I've seen in public, but it isn't hurting anyone.