I believe your right on with this post.Being a diaper lover is not a choice either. For most of us this desire to wear diapers started at a very young age, before we could put words on it. I know in my case I was very troubled with this desire but I could not get rid of it. Very few diaper lovers decided one day to start loving diapers, the very deep need for diapers was present for a long time.
I tried very hard to forget about this need for diapers until I was 20 when I sarted to wear again but it was present all that time.
So, tired of fighting this very real need, I went back to diapers and have been wearing for 42 years and now I have been 24/7 for almost 4 years and the need is as strong as ever and I know it will never go away. I suppose you could call this a form of psychological incontinence but it is very real and genuine.
However when I realized that diapers was the most effective way of dealing with incontinence issues, well I gradually started to like them and the security they provide me. Now I don't have to worry about wetting myself in the most inconvienient places, as now I know my diaper will handle what ever my bladder throws at it.
Sure, the desire to wear diapers is not a choice. But the actual wearing of them is.