Well it's hard to walk in to a bar and find someone who would be the other half. You have to start online. Places like Fetlife helps to find others with the same interests. Things may have to start long distance, because we're spread quite thinly.
When I was dating my wife, I was very upfront with her, telling her that I lived an exclusively gay life all during college. She married me anyway and we gave birth to two children. Women are as diverse as us guys and all things are possible.
As a trans lesbian little girl it's been extremely hard to find anyone to be in some kind of relationship with. I haven't had a loving relationship in eight years and it's so painful. I haven't been able to find anyone to act as a mommy figure or a caregiver to me in any way and it makes me feel so isolated.