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I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

* Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
*Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
*Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
*Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?
 

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I don't think there would be too much correlation. It probably has to do with sensory experiences, possibly even ones that we don't entirely remember. I remember fantasizing about diapers when I was three years old.

That being said I did spend a lot of time by myself because other kids treated me like crap. I wasn't interested in sports or outdoor activities except riding my bike.
 

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I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

* Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
*Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
*Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
*Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?

I would identify with the first 3. Growing up, I didn't feel like I isolated myself but now in my adult life, I do feel lonely.
 

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Although I'm sure there are people for whom these apply, in general they seem like plot points for a Diaper Fiction story, to be honest. I don't think the environment's impact on the development of the brain is that straightforward at all.
 
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To be honest I cannot relate to any unfortunately.

I have two brother, we are all aged six years apart, my mother was very caring and not overly authoritative, my parents were not to bothered about school so long as you passed and I had lots of friends and a social life since I can remember.

I agree with Bart, it is very early experiences I had that led to the way I am, I can almost trace it back to one experience I had when I was four. Good thread though.
 

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Yeah. I was the oldest of three, all very close in age (barely more than a year between each of us). My parents were very liberal socially and politically. They didn't even have a problem with me smoking pot when I was a kid, because my dad smoked too. They weren't even freaked out when they found out about me being ABDL.

I was the overachiever of the family, gettings A's in everything but math and gym class. But the pressure was something I put on myself; my parents would have loved me if I'd been a slacker.

Like I said though, I was never very good at socializing with other kids and I had maybe two or three good friends growing up. I think my Asperger's affected my neural and sexual development but I couldn't tell you to what extent without it being merely speculation.
 
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I identify with the first and last one. My half brother and I were almost 12 years apart, and he left the house when I was about 7. Secondly, I was homeschooled, and got pretty much no interaction with other children. My days have always been spent with my mother.
 

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For for the purposes of your informal inquiries, I can check off box 1 (only sibling six years older than me, so big difference), box 3, and box 4.

That being said I have to share this post by Zeek. I think this cleared up a lot of my own confusion about the purposes of psychological diagnoses in general and the way ABDLism fits into the world of psychology. I'm starting to think questions like these, which I would have been all over in the past, make little difference.
 

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I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

* Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
*Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
*Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
*Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?

OK so boxes:

I have a sister 2.5 years younger than me - I don't recall feeling like there was a huge competition for parental love, but I'm the eldest... if you asked her she'd probably tell you I was hogging the attention ;-)

IDK what the definition of "dominant mother" is... my mother was a stay-at-home-mum until I was 10, and my dad was a commuter who worked long hours so I saw an awful lot more of her than him... as for other female authority figures, I'd say most of the authority figures in the lives of most people under 18 are probably women, given that women do the majority of work relating to children and young people. I'm not sure how you tie this question to being ABDL? Maybe some would connect it with being a "sissy" or an "LG" but I don't see it myself.

I think I had a more than average amount of expectation that I would succeed... which is not the same thing. I'm a boy, I'm white, my parents were well educated and I grew up in the 1990s... I think most people involved in my education assumed based on that - regardless of their estimation of my individual talents - that I would be above average in educational achievement. Ironically having people assume that I was "clever" made it very hard to ask for help or to accept inevitable failure that is part of the learning process.

I did spend a lot of time alone... I'm an introvert, as a younger kid I was very outgoing but I definitely needed my recharging time, after the age of 9 or 10 I didn't fit in very well for reasons to complex to examine here so I became more isolated.

I guess I score 2/4? A lot of people I'm friends with could score 2/4 or 3/4 on these and they aren't ABDLs...

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I'm starting to think questions like these, which I would have been all over in the past, make little difference.

Same.

I would be more interested in the question "What effect did being ABDL have on your childhood?" I think we have to treat being ABDL as a given in our lives - for me at least it's something I've been carrying with my since I was 4 or 5 in some form or another, although I didn't know it was something with a name that I shared with others till I was 13.

I think it did make me more secretive, growing up with something that while I didn't feel ashamed of it, certainly wasn't something I could comfortably share with anyone else and expect them to understand.

What do other people think about that? Did you ever find yourself pushing people away in case they found your deep dark secret?
 

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OK so boxes:

I have a sister 2.5 years younger than me - I don't recall feeling like there was a huge competition for parental love, but I'm the eldest... if you asked her she'd probably tell you I was hogging the attention ;-)

IDK what the definition of "dominant mother" is... my mother was a stay-at-home-mum until I was 10, and my dad was a commuter who worked long hours so I saw an awful lot more of her than him... as for other female authority figures, I'd say most of the authority figures in the lives of most people under 18 are probably women, given that women do the majority of work relating to children and young people. I'm not sure how you tie this question to being ABDL? Maybe some would connect it with being a "sissy" or an "LG" but I don't see it myself.

I think I had a more than average amount of expectation that I would succeed... which is not the same thing. I'm a boy, I'm white, my parents were well educated and I grew up in the 1990s... I think most people involved in my education assumed based on that - regardless of their estimation of my individual talents - that I would be above average in educational achievement. Ironically having people assume that I was "clever" made it very hard to ask for help or to accept inevitable failure that is part of the learning process.

I did spend a lot of time alone... I'm an introvert, as a younger kid I was very outgoing but I definitely needed my recharging time, after the age of 9 or 10 I didn't fit in very well for reasons to complex to examine here so I became more isolated.

I guess I score 2/4? A lot of people I'm friends with could score 2/4 or 3/4 on these and they aren't ABDLs...

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Same.

I would be more interested in the question "What effect did being ABDL have on your childhood?" I think we have to treat being ABDL as a given in our lives - for me at least it's something I've been carrying with my since I was 4 or 5 in some form or another, although I didn't know it was something with a name that I shared with others till I was 13.

I think it did make me more secretive, growing up with something that while I didn't feel ashamed of it, certainly wasn't something I could comfortably share with anyone else and expect them to understand.

What do other people think about that? Did you ever find yourself pushing people away in case they found your deep dark secret?
As a child, I was just what would be considered a diaper/pee fetishist, although I didn't really have a desire to wear diapers or attempted to get them. My dl activities consisted of masturbating to training pants advertisements etc (I was pretty horny for a little kid :p), and because my parents told me not to ''fidget'' as they called it, it did lead to some levels of guilt until I got into my early teens and began to understand what I was doing was normal and what fetishes were. I remember when I was about 11 and started occasionally doing stuff like wetting toilet paper, thinking it was rather weird and not being sure why I was doing it, but not worrying about that.
 

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Well, I don't think of myself as an AB, but here goes anyway:

*Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention)?

Nope. Have a younger sister. We're separated by less than two years.

*Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
Hmmm... no. I wouldn't really think of her as "dominant," but she was a stay-at-home mom until I was ten or eleven years old. Consequently, my sister and I did consider her to be the one in charge most of the time. That faded a bit during our teenage years. I never witnessed any power struggles between my parents either. They always seemed to be on the same page about what was good, bad, what our punishments ought to be, etc.

*Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
Maybe. I've only had one childhood, so I'm not sure what "average" really means here. My parents were both teachers, however (mom was an elementary school teacher, dad was a college professor), and it was clear to me that good grades and such were the keys to their respect. Unfortunately for me and for them, school didn't really click with me until I was in my later teens, so I can remember quite a few confrontations about my report cards. They joke about it now, but it was tough then. By the time I reached high school, I think their academic expectations of me were extremely low. That made it all the more amusing when I started getting 4.0 GPAs. :)

*Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?
Not alone, but I wouldn't call myself especially social either. At any given time, I tended to have only one or two friends who I'd actually hang out with. That always seemed like enough. One of my best friends from second grade is still my best friend today (well, aside from my wife, anyway!). I never felt I was an outcast, nor was I ever really bullied, although the latter might have been because I was large for my age throughout gradeschool.

...so, in the end, I don't really see many positive correlations with AB/DL-dom here. I began borrowing and wearing my sister's diapers when I was six, and I suspect that my life until that point had been fairly unremarkable.
 

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I didn't have any of these in my young life, except for the 3rd question. I went to pretty competitive prep schools and always had to get high grades, besides that I did a lot of sports at a very competitive level. A lot of stress, nothing terrible but I did have a lot of pressure to succeed. None of the others apply to me at all though
 

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I had a dominant mother, and I stressed over getting good grades. I don't think there is a correlation however. I remember that in the late 60's, it was thought that males who were gay, were so because they had a domineering mother. This was when homosexuality was considered a mental illness.
 

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My older sister and I are nearly ten years apart in age. I wouldn't say that my mom was dominant. I always tried to do my best when it came to school with grades and I've always usually been more mature then other kids. I did spend a lot of time alone.
 

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My own Mother was a 100% psychotic fruitcake, and my not having a childhood drove me to be an Adult Baby.
 

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Box 1: Check! I was the only child for eight years until my parents decided to adopt again. And yes... I was adopted as an infant as was my younger sister.
Box 2: Check-a-roony! I spent alot of time with my aunt when I was little. Domineering and borderline abusive. If you made her mad... the first thing she'd see she'd attack you with it! "What did you just say!? Gimme the blender."
Box 3: Another check... wow... I was bullied by classmates classmates to succeed in school. "You got a B? Ha! Pathetic!" This was even when I got the best grades in class.
Box 4: Four for four... sheesh! Because of the aforementioned bullying I was very isolated. It got so bad I had to be homeschooled.

This, however, did not lead to my AB/DL tendencies. They came from trying times later in life.
 

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I would possibly only place a tick next to the final point. It just meant that being something of a loner as a child (although I did have a sibling and plenty of childhood friends) meant that I was psychologically prone to exploring and cogitating on those latent fantasies I had from a very early age.
 

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however I've wanted to stay young for as long as i can remembor. I have a memory of being in pre school at around 4 years old wondering if any the other kids where diapered(i din't know at that time of corse that you had to be potty trained to goto pre-school) I litrily can't think back to a time I didn't want to be littler/ and in diapers. I've just moved thriew the ranks KB, TB, and now TB/AB (I will kling to the word TB till i'm 20, deal with it XD crap thats less then a year now...*crys)

anyway in conclution I'd say i'm this way because i don't like growing up never have never will.
 

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I identify with some.
I was a only child and had one parent from since I was about 2.
As well as being alone a lot.

With this and other reasons, I think it may of had a impact on my AB/DL side.
Its never been a sexual thing for me, and always a comfort thing.

There seems to be many, many reasons why those are into the diaper things.
A lot can be as far apart in reasons as can be possible.
What ever reason we are all here, that is what matters.
That we are here for each other, no matter how we got here.
 
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