My wife has changed when I am unable to care for myself and from time to time getting ready for bed and such it's nice when she does as being incon it gets annoying sometimes so it's nice to just lay back and be taken care of.
My girlfriend has helped me out when I’ve been really sick in bed at home and with changes in physically awkward locations like in the back seat of a car in a less than private location where things need to happen quickly to avoid exposure. She’s helped me out when I’ve had a broken arm as well and was struggling with positioning and tapes. Generally though I look after myself.
My wife has changed my wet diapers many of times and as a DL there is nothing more intimate and exciting than having my diaper changed. From the gathering of the supplies to the snapping of the final onsie snap it's an experience in of itself. It's and even greater experience if the diaper has a cute printed design. It can be a euphoric experience if done gently.
*nod nods* my partner changes dry nappies only, if wet then i have to change, so if changing from undies or after a shower my partner puts a clean nappy on me, but if i've ben soggy then i change myself
My spouse of 30 more years now « accepts » my ABDL side but will never participate. I change myself. I’m not 24/7, I will wear mostly by myself, but once in a while I will wear to bed, and that’s « ok » with her. I love her, she loves me, and we both respect each other’s limits, choice or perhaps particularities😃
All that said, I see a nanny once in a while, and that’s my little secret. I’m mostly DL, but with an AB side I just have to experience once in a while, and I will never pressure my wife for that. The « diaper » by itself is one thing, but the AB experience and things, that is something else and my wife would never EVER go there😵💫
So my answer is, no, my wife doesn’t diaper me or pin me up!
I have had a partner who did change me, but I could tell that he had no interest in it.
I have also had diaper changes from a DL friend of mine. It feels better when you both have a vested interest in it.
I can understand how a real mommy or daddy approach would be exciting and relaxing at the same time.