Do your parents suspect you’re just lazy?

[JustinCace]

According to https://www.staydryatnight.com/are-bedwetters-lazy 26% of parents thought their child wet the bed because they were lazy.

Some of us have experienced waking up with a bladder full of urine, so how many bother to get up only to avoid using our diapers for ther intended purposes?

 

[dpcare]

I was accused of being lazy when I wet my bed when Ii was around 8 years old

 

[JustinCace]

I was accused of being lazy when I wet my bed when Ii was around 8 years old

Awful, and also untrue too I'm sure!

 

[Angel]

I was accused of being lazy when I wet my bed when Ii was around 8 years old

My parents started to think i was just being lazy when i got older, till they eventually realized i was not lying about my condition (i stopped around 11 or 12)

 

[WBxx]

Mom scolded, even spanked, more than once calling me a “lazy big baby” for wetting the bed. There was an element of truth in her accusation. Sometimes it was purposeful.

 

[Cottontail]

I suppose you meant “Did your parents think you were just lazy?” (Hopefully none of us are still contending with our parents in matters of bedwetting!) Anyway... I wasn't a bedwetter myself, but the younger siblings of some of my friends were. Bedwetting alarms and diapers were used according to the situation, but I definitely got that laziness was the prevailing theory. That was in the early 1980's, before the era of GoodNites. Things have certainly gotten better in the decades since, but I'm sure there are still quite a few parents who look at it as willful and lazy, and for their kids I'm sorry.

 

[JustinCace]

That was in the early 1980's, before the era of GoodNites. Things have certainly gotten better in the decades since, but I'm sure there are still quite a few parents who look at it as willful and lazy, and for their kids I'm sorry.

OK so you don't think GoodNites have encouraged more laziness - assuming there's such a thing that causes beds to become wet?

 

[pampers4U]

reverse psychology here.. are parents being lazy not training there kids since there are larger sized baby diapers available… I’m thinking news stories I heard from the UK region.

 

[JustinCace]

reverse psychology here.. are parents being lazy not training there kids since there are larger sized baby diapers available… I’m thinking news stories I heard from the UK region.

Yes that's definitely worth considering and I have heard similar stories. Maybe not just lazy parents but ignorant ones too - I doubt some of them have any idea how to start toilet training and who can blame them as it seems quite unnecessary when you can just wear a toilet!

 

[Cottontail]

OK so you don't think GoodNites have encouraged more laziness - assuming there's such a thing that causes beds to become wet?

Well, kids are pretty lazy by default. I expect the vast majority who wear GoodNites and similar things would rather not need them. I’m also sure that many who wear them occasionally use them on purpose just because they’re there. Does wearing them encourage laziness and extend the duration of a child’s bedwetting? I don’t know. Maybe. But if so, I’d say it’s the lesser of evils versus shaming a child for something they can’t control.

My youngest was in GoodNites until he was 8, maybe 9. He would sleep VERY soundly and was difficult to wake up. He was also a sleepwalker and may still be, though it hasn’t happened recently. Anyway, “laziness” never crossed our minds. We kept buying GoodNites and just let him deal with his own needs until one day he told us that he didn’t need them anymore. I’m sure they were used intentionally from time to time, but it’s hard to see how trying to establish or crack down on that would have done any good.

 

[Ceras]

When I had to go through potty training again (see the "How did you realize you were into ABDL?" thread for context) I was constantly waking up in the mornings to a wet diaper. My parents thought I wasn't making any attempts to go to the bathroom, when the truth was I had gotten so used to going during nap times that my mind just subconsciously decided to go as soon as the need came while sleeping. It took me 5 months to finally start consistently catching myself before I wet my diapers to go to the bathroom.

 

[Bedwetter12]

My parents knew from time to time I would do my morning pee in my Goodnites because when I did the Goodnites would be way puffier and thicker in the front. They didn’t get mad though because I wet every night until I was 14 and they weren’t gonna take them away from me and have me in a wet bed all the time

 

[Lyric]

My parents never got mad or punished me for wetting my bed and wearing diapers and rubber pants. But when I was around 13 or so, my mother did tell me she thought I was beginning to like wearing diapers at night. She never accused me of being lazy but instead thought I enjoyed wearing diapers a bit too much. Since I continued to be wet every morning when she came into my room to get me up for school, she continued diapering me at night, but did reassure me it was OK if I liked wearing diapers. She was right about my liking to wear diapers. I don't think she knew however how much I liked wetting myself wearing diapers. I don't think she would have understood that.

 

[CookieMonstah]

Never wet the bed myself but it's weird that some parents out there would come to the conclusion that 'my child is lazy and they enjoy urinating on themselves and the bed they sleep in making it freezing cold and uncomfortable'.

 

[Jg21101]

To be fair I have always like nappies and definitely laziness has come into it. Could I drink less before bed? yup! could I make more of an attempt to pee before bed? Yup! Could I put my nappy in later? Yup! but I’ve never really thought of wetting myself when I’m asleep as a problem as it means I’m in a nappy very night so laziness continues. I could maybe have the odd dry night if I tired but I’m not going to be dry every night so may as well make the most of my nappy.

 

[Txdpboy]

My parents knew from time to time I would do my morning pee in my Goodnites because when I did the Goodnites would be way puffier and thicker in the front. They didn’t get mad though because I wet every night until I was 14 and they weren’t gonna take them away from me and have me in a wet bed all the time

Wonder how many Bedwetters consciously wet their pull-ups/diapers? I bet there are quite a few who do. Either out of laziness or just the thought of “I’m wearing a diaper, might as well use it” mentality.

 

[grst]

Kids are often smarter than we give them credit for. My son wanted to be out of Goodnites desperately, especially once he got older than 8. It got to the point we had to check him before bed to make sure he had one on because he didn’t want to wear it.

When he woke up dry he would jump out of bed and race for the potty so he didn’t have an accident in his Goodnite. However, if he woke up with a wet Goodnite I know for a fact he would do his morning pee in it at the breakfast table. Not only was it evident by him not racing to the potty when he got out of bed, but I knew he was peeing at the table because he always froze when he was doing it. He would just stop eating/talking for about 20 seconds. A couple times I asked him, “Did you just pee?” He would get this sheepish grin and admit it. I always told him it was okay because he was taking it off after breakfast anyway.

What was funny was when he would wake up and start running for the potty, only to slow down and head down to the kitchen instead. I always assumed he either couldn’t hold it and once it started coming out he just gave up, or realized halfway there that he was already wet. Either way, he was only ever bothered by the Goodnites at night when he had to put them on. He never was upset about a Goodnite that was wet in the morning. He did always excitedly tell us when he kept it dry though, and I thought he was going to do cartwheels when he woke up on his 7th night in a row dry.

Aside from the couple times I asked if he was peeing, we never asked in the morning if he was wet. If he went to breakfast without stopping at the potty first, there was no need to ask! My point is, I think my kid figured out that if he was already wet or wetting when he woke up anyway, he might as well be lazy and save a trip to the potty - he was going to be taking a wet Goodnite off either way.

 

[Bedwetter12]

Kids are often smarter than we give them credit for. My son wanted to be out of Goodnites desperately, especially once he got older than 8. It got to the point we had to check him before bed to make sure he had one on because he didn’t want to wear it.

When he woke up dry he would jump out of bed and race for the potty so he didn’t have an accident in his Goodnite. However, if he woke up with a wet Goodnite I know for a fact he would do his morning pee in it at the breakfast table. Not only was it evident by him not racing to the potty when he got out of bed, but I knew he was peeing at the table because he always froze when he was doing it. He would just stop eating/talking for about 20 seconds. A couple times I asked him, “Did you just pee?” He would get this sheepish grin and admit it. I always told him it was okay because he was taking it off after breakfast anyway.

What was funny was when he would wake up and start running for the potty, only to slow down and head down to the kitchen instead. I always assumed he either couldn’t hold it and once it started coming out he just gave up, or realized halfway there that he was already wet. Either way, he was only ever bothered by the Goodnites at night when he had to put them on. He never was upset about a Goodnite that was wet in the morning. He did always excitedly tell us when he kept it dry though, and I thought he was going to do cartwheels when he woke up on his 7th night in a row dry.

Aside from the couple times I asked if he was peeing, we never asked in the morning if he was wet. If he went to breakfast without stopping at the potty first, there was no need to ask! My point is, I think my kid figured out that if he was already wet or wetting when he woke up anyway, he might as well be lazy and save a trip to the potty - he was going to be taking a wet Goodnite off either way.

That was exactly my approach as well. If I was wet already there was no point in holding it or using the toilet because I was gonna take it off anyways

 

[Hell2DaNaw]

My parents never accused me of being lazy. Whenever I had an accident they handled it very calmly and they never shamed me for needing pull-ups until what I considered an embarrassingly late age.

That said, I agree with grst that most kids are smarter than we give them credit for, and I can attest to having done my morning pee in a goodnites dozens of times. I wouldn’t necessarily classify this as laziness but rather convenience.

 

[Wetshisbed]

I was always accused of just being lazy because I just didn't care that I wet the bed.