Do you think your siblings affected how you view diapers and babyhood?

[Diapered Rabbit]

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I'm starting this thread as a result of participating in Bittergrey's second recent survey.

I will include my response to this particular question from that survey that I would like to share with the other members of the ADISC community. If you care to respond to this question - post on.

Do you think your siblings affected how you view diapers and babyhood?

Possibly - They teased me incessantly about being a baby, cry baby and the such. I stopped sucking my thumb because of the teasing. Another result of the teasing was was that I took my favorite stuffed Teddy bear and blankie to the burn barrel one day several years before I started school. (probably much earlier than I would have wanted). I was NEVER a bed wetter, but my older brother (adopted) wet the bed until he was taken from the home (14 y.o.). I would often crawl into his bed with him (due to my nightmares/night terrors that I experienced every night of my childhood. Subsequently, I was wet and in a wet bed almost every night until was 8 y.o. My mother was both physically and emotionally violent and harsh. My adopted brother was always screamed at and humiliated and/or beaten for his bed wetting. Every night was frightening and traumatizing to both me and him. I was referred to as baby brother long into my high school and college years.

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[angelabauer]

All three of my sisters are challenged by profound urinary incontinence, as am I. My youngest sister and I turned to AB as a coping strategy in 1990. The sister between us in age rants and raves against AB. Our oldest sister does not go about suckling a pacifier, but she owns some Onesies and supports us in our AB.

Our Mom apologized that she did not know about AB when we started wetting because she agrees it is pointless to resent diapers when you are incontinent.

 

[DHLA40]

Yes. My 11 month older adopted sister was incessantly teasing me about something. Anything. Whatever she needed to do to shame me in front of friends and draw the positive attention to herself. Since we were a year apart in school, we went to the same schools, rode the same bus, and sometimes had the same classes, so there was not much avoiding it. Were it not for this, I'd likely have been more open with my Mom about my dee-ellism, and probably more open about it with my wife, but I can't help but repress feelings because I expect ridicule, and misunderstanding.

When ever she was trouble with my parents for something, instead of owning up to anything she would go on a non-linear tantrum that always ended with the words "Well, it's all his fault because blablabla..." and storm off to her bedroom. I believe it was part of her being adopted, and me being the born child of my parents that made her have to deflect blame for anything, and point to me as the culprit. Anyway, were it not for her, I do believe I wouldn't have these feelings of guilt that are associated with how others perceive my actions, words, and position because my sister always pointed out that I got the preferential treatment by my parents, when actually they did everything in their means to give us equality in everything from toys, to bedtime, to curfew when we were teenagers.

My relationship with my sister has gotten much better in recent years. We've reconciled much of the bad feelings we grew up with, and get along pretty well when she's in town, or I'm down further south near her home, and we get to visit.

 

[Gaius]

Apparently when I was younger, like 2 or 3, I was a real jerk to my little brother, probably out of jealousy. He was the new baby and took all my attention away, so the theory goes. Maybe that is why I like diapers and stuff because I want to be the center of attention, although I lately have been avoiding people.

 

[FittedForME]

I really doubt that my brother(my only sibling) had anything to do with my views on diapers. We bickered quite a bit when we were younger, but all siblings do, especially when they're as close in age as we are, with less than a two year difference. He never really called me a baby or anything relating to diapers, but he did get rather creative with the name-calling(Maggot, turd-bucket, etc.)

 

[BitterGrey]

Thanks, but could we wait a few weeks?

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I'm starting this thread as a result of participating in Bittergrey's second recent survey.

Thanks for your interest, but please, could we put off discussions about the survey's specifics until after it is closed? If there are specific discussions about question XYZ, a lot of people with an interest in topic XYZ might take it when they wouldn't have otherwise. This might skew the results. This is also why all the surveys in the series are written to be general, to apply to all AB/DLs. This is the only way to learn the distribution of XYZ among the general AB/DL population.

Thanks for encouraging AB/DLs to take it, but please encourage all AB/DLs to take it, separate from discussions about particular topics.

 

[Prussic_aux]

Well, as I am the oldest in my family what my brother does doesn't really affect the way I think at all. To be honest, I don't really give a flying f*k what he thinks.

But maybe the way I have been ignored the past 10 years by my parents because of him (he has various illnesses, and has spent months in hospital at a time, but still doesn't excuse him for the crap he gives me) And I've had to grow up pretty quickly, seeing as I didn't remember much of babyhood TBism is a way for me to (re)experience it.

 

[Diapered Rabbit]

Perhaps this thread should be closed to honor BitterGrey's request in his post (above). Mods/Admins: Is there any way to delete this thread or remove it from the forum temporarily?

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Sincere apologies, BitterGrey, probably should have PM'd you with what I had in mind. - DR

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[h200420012]

ONLY CHILD...

TAKE THAT SURVEY!!!!


lol

 

[BitterGrey]

Sincere apologies, BitterGrey, probably should have PM'd you with what I had in mind.

Thanks for holding off on this discussion. Data collection for Survey #2 is now closed, so we can discuss it without being concerned about influencing the results.

Some other things (such as getting #3 running smoothly) delayed the preparation of summary results. However, I was able to get part one - the one about siblings - ready. I hope to have the other parts and essays up in the not-too-distant future.

 

[NoahKokoro]

I think so, because I was the youngest and they'd find any excuse to harrass me. Since I was the "baby" of the family, that's exactly what they called me and how they harrassed me.

EDIT: I don't know if cousins count as siblings, probably not, but if they do then yes. I have a cousin who's one year younger than me, but has always been bigger than me. I can remember when I was little (3 or 4), I was put back to back with him as the adults measured who was taller on many occasions. Afterwards they would make comment on him being a big baby or on whether maybe I was the one who should've been the baby.

 

[Spiro910]

I would say that this isn't my case (being that I clearly remember being interested in diapers way before my sister was born [around age 2]), but it did affect how easily I could get diapers.
When I was around 8 I smuggled one of my little sister's pull-ups into my room and wore it, and then once again when I was 12 I would steal one of my sister's goodnites like once or twice a week.

 

[BitterGrey]

I would say that this isn't my case...

My hunch is that, given how different AB/DLs are, some will have been influenced by siblings, while others haven't, and that those who have been influenced might be influenced in different ways. I'll know more once I finish the detailed analysis.

 

[Spaz]

I'd have to say that in some way, yes, my siblings had some influence. Forgetting for a minute that I was born with an overactive bladder and bowel, I had an older sister who babied me until my younger brother was born. At that time, my sister and parents turned their attention to him. It was also around this time they decided I should be potty trained and grow up. I was 2.5 years old. Suffice to say, I was not ready for any of it and, for as long as I can remember it has always been natural for me to turn to diapers and regression.

When I began wearing diapers on my own at age five, my brother would sometimes see me doing it and tell mom. My mom would always say that diapers were for babies and I was not a baby so she would take them away. So, this was a way for my younger brother to get back at me for whatever reason. Naturally, I would find more diapers (i.e. steal them) and, as I grew older, purchase them at the store. It never seemed to occur to any of my parents or siblings that maybe the reason I wanted to wear diapers was because I had occasional embarrassing accidents and I had never been ready to grow up in the first place.
Spaz

Note: elaborating on the last sentence....it has always angered me to see people pushing their timetable on others, or pushing their abilities. Like "what do mean you can't hold it" and "what do you mean you're not ready"

 

[NoahKokoro]

I'd have to say that in some way, yes, my siblings had some influence. Forgetting for a minute that I was born with an overactive bladder and bowel, I had an older sister who babied me until my younger brother was born. At that time, my sister and parents turned their attention to him. It was also around this time they decided I should be potty trained and grow up. I was 2.5 years old. Suffice to say, I was not ready for any of it and, for as long as I can remember it has always been natural for me to turn to diapers and regression.

When I began wearing diapers on my own at age five, my brother would sometimes see me doing it and tell mom. My mom would always say that diapers were for babies and I was not a baby so she would take them away. So, this was a way for my younger brother to get back at me for whatever reason. Naturally, I would find more diapers (i.e. steal them) and, as I grew older, purchase them at the store. It never seemed to occur to any of my parents or siblings that maybe the reason I wanted to wear diapers was because I had occasional embarrassing accidents and I had never been ready to grow up in the first place.
Spaz

Note: elaborating on the last sentence....it has always angered me to see people pushing their timetable on others, or pushing their abilities. Like "what do mean you can't hold it" and "what do you mean you're not ready"

I agree whole-heartedly! It doesn't only include toddler years, but it can be throughout someone's life. Just trying to force them to grow or change for their own convenience.