Do you ever get jealous?

[PCS]

I’ve just had a week off and saw three things that had me getting those old jealous feelings back.

The first was in the nappy aisle in Sainsburys, where I had legitimate reason to be as I was buying shampoo as part of which happens to be on the shelves opposite.

A girl who must have been a tall toddler was there with her Mum and Dad. Her Dad picked up some size six Sainsburys nappies (purple pack) before her Mum corrected him and said “no, those are nappies- she has the pants”. Mum took the nappies off him and replaced them on the shelf and picked up the size six pants (red pack). All the time the girl was standing there smiling along.

The second was in the same trip to Sainsburys. I saw a Mum with a baby and and older girl who was dressed very “posh”. Nappies in the trolly and also she 3-5 girl DryNites.

For some reason (and it doesn’t happen often these days) knowing that those children would get to wear and wet those nappies I had that old very jealous feeling that kicked off my DL-ism all those years ago.

The final one was in a coffee shop where a Mum on the next table just randomly asked her son, who would have been about 3 or 4 “how’s your nappy?”. He just responded “OK” and no more was said about it.

 

[billybobtombo]

The second was in the same trip to Sainsburys. I saw a Mum with a baby and and older girl who was dressed very “posh”. Nappies in the trolly and also she 3-5 girl DryNites.

For some reason (and it doesn’t happen often these days) knowing that those children would get to wear and wet those nappies I had that old very jealous feeling that kicked off my DL-ism all those years ago.

Yes, I can relate to this in a BIG way. Whenever in a supermarket and I see nappies in a trolley, basket etc, I get a huge pang of jealousy that for the ultimate wearer of said nappies. The larger the pack of nappies, the more intense the feeling of jealousy!

My office windows overlooks where one of our neighbours parks their car, so I often see them unloading the boot after a big shop. They have young twins, and it seems they are forever unloading the "jumbo" packs of Pampers...always makes me jealous, but also hammers home the sheer amount of nappies twins must get through!

 

[BlameBaby]

I get more than jealous it makes me angry

 

[BenNevis]

Yes, very easy to relate to this.

I can recall the first time I had that feeling. We were getting ready to drive off on holiday and I remember my younger brother (three at the time) being put into a nappy 'just in case' even though he was potty trained. Meanwhile me, aged six, didn't and was internally really wishing I could have been put in a nappy too. Of course, I never let on, lest I tranished my 'big boy cred.'

Generally, if I'm at the supermarket and see nappies or pull-up in a basket or trolley, that usually triggers feelings of "I wish they were for me!"

One time though, I was on a packed train and you couldn't really move about and I did overhear a parent in a row behind tell their child "It's okay, you've got a nappy on if you need a wee." Any other time, this would have triggered some strong nappy envy. This time however, I was actually travelling in a Drynite! Not really functional for an adult, but nice to have some 'just in case' protection.

 

[LittleScotty]

Like many others I relate to this a lot.

Whenever I do my grocery shopping I always "take a wrong turn" down the nappy aisle to see what they have.
I often notice packs of nappies or pull ups in trolleys of parents with school age children and the child has tried to cover them with other items in case they see their friends etc. This is something I use to do when shopping with my parents so I always have a little chuckle to myself.

The final one was in a coffee shop where a Mum on the next table just randomly asked her son, who would have been about 3 or 4 “how’s your nappy?”

I can definitely relate this too! I always wore a nappy for long car journeys. When stopping at a motorway services on the route we'd often be queuing for a food or a drink in the cafe or shop and my Mum would try and quietly ask me if I'd wet my nappy. You'd always get people who would overhear and give a disapproving look, especially as I got older.

 

[BenNevis]

Whenever I do my grocery shopping I always "take a wrong turn" down the nappy aisle to see what they have.

Hahah, it's like "I know this will instantly make me jealous, but I want to see the nappies!"

But, such is life as an ABDL 🙃

 

[Rita]

I don't get to jealous very often, do get very frustrated when I see really cute printed diapers and can't really afford them at the time !!

 

[Deleted member 65423]

This is my first post in a while but this thread really stuck out to me…

I get feelings of jealousy and anger a lot seeing or even just hearing about other people getting to wear diapers. Especially if it’s kids of more than a few years old since I didn’t get to experience that kind of comfort and parental affection at that age. Sometimes it makes me feel guilty cause I just feel so uncontrollably angry and jealous about it.

Y’all definitely aren’t alone in those feelings.

 

[blaincorrous]

I’ve just had a week off and saw three things that had me getting those old jealous feelings back.

The first was in the nappy aisle in Sainsburys, where I had legitimate reason to be as I was buying shampoo as part of which happens to be on the shelves opposite.

A girl who must have been a tall toddler was there with her Mum and Dad. Her Dad picked up some size six Sainsburys nappies (purple pack) before her Mum corrected him and said “no, those are nappies- she has the pants”. Mum took the nappies off him and replaced them on the shelf and picked up the size six pants (red pack). All the time the girl was standing there smiling along.

The second was in the same trip to Sainsburys. I saw a Mum with a baby and and older girl who was dressed very “posh”. Nappies in the trolly and also she 3-5 girl DryNites.

For some reason (and it doesn’t happen often these days) knowing that those children would get to wear and wet those nappies I had that old very jealous feeling that kicked off my DL-ism all those years ago.

The final one was in a coffee shop where a Mum on the next table just randomly asked her son, who would have been about 3 or 4 “how’s your nappy?”. He just responded “OK” and no more was said about it.

Let me play with some colors in this post to emphasize connotation or emotions and make my point...

I've recently gotten wise to some of the psychology behind jealousy. If you can identify it as such, it helps you make the connection to something you want to do, be, or a circumstance you wish you had found yourself in... which is fairly obvious and goes without saying.

To expand on that still, there's a bit of a difference between something you might be able to do in the future, which strikes me as more pure jealousy, and something you wish had happened in the past, which mixes jealousy with regret. I'm sure a lot of us have regrets that are out of our control like you are describing, wishing for your youth to be spent in diapers again with the appreciation of knowing what you have. That's fine to give it a name and identify it as regret, but I think you should learn to let go of the regret and act on the jealousy in the present as a desire. This to me is the quintessential expression of being an AB, to heal the emotions with negative connotations, like regret. And yet, either I don't ascribe negative connotation to "jealousy" or I choose to reframe it as an expression of your desire to wear and use diapers and/or express yourself as Little as the children you saw do. The difference between a jealousy or desire you can act on is minimal to me and only turns on connotation. I try to treat them as the same.

What doesn't go without saying is how jealousy and desire can get crossed. There are stories out there of transwomen who identified themselves as previously being "a boob guy". After therapy to discuss emergent trans traits, they discovered their desire and attraction to breasts and other feminine characteristics was similar or related to jealousy for something they wanted for themselves. Indeed, I've even had this moment express itself, playing with my mother's bras and rolled up socks. I found this interesting how interconnected these emotions are.

So, I'll say that your identifying this as jealousy is a great step toward incorporating it back into yourself as an expression of desire. Try to shed the negative connotations and you will feel happier.

 

[todderhr]

The first was in the nappy aisle in Sainsburys, where I had legitimate reason

even buying for an adult on the baby nappy aisle IS a “legitimate reason”. I bet the store and manufacturer’s do not care one bit why you buy their products. Just hand over the money…

 

[ChristianDiaperLover]

Oh yeah I get jealous sometimes. I think most ABDLs who can’t be 24/7 would feel jealous

 

[Diaperedlife13]

In those scenarios no. Not really. I find it odd to connect my fantasy to kids in diapers. Like yes. We act infantile and regress. But I will do anything and everything not to connect those worlds together. I don't wear pull ups or baby diapers because. It just crosses those worlds together and that's not for me.

I do get jealous and sad seeing people online living out my dream and feeling like I will never have that life and it honestly makes me very very depressed

 

[SeniorMan]

After therapy to discuss emergent trans traits, they discovered their desire and attraction to breasts and other feminine characteristics was similar or related to jealousy for something they wanted for themselves.

I might expect my nursing home to start me in therapy when I request hrt (hormone replacement therapy).

 

[LittleAndAlone]

All the time. Every. Day. I just want to be little again and it hurts so much. 😔

Call it more awe, admiration, envy, idolizing, and reverence than jealousy I guess.

 

[Nowididit]

I get envious when I see a person leaving the store with a box of diapers in their cart and a toddler in tow or in the cart. 99% percent of the time I make a detour down the diaper aisle just to feed my envious bone. It's so disappointing that I can't fit those diapers.
I hate babies and toddlers. Little brats get all the good diapers and I'm stuck with semi replicas. Lol

 

[SeniorMan]

I just want to be little again and it hurts so much. Call it more awe, admiration, envy, idolizing, and reverence than jealousy.

I am blessed to be free from envy, apprehension, and bitterness. I am well on my way to becoming a trans woman. I will soon look up in its formulary the coverage my Medicare Advantage plan has for the hrt (hormone replacement therapy) medications. I am so excited.

 

[KCA]

I'd be envious in those situations, not jealous...but that just might be me being pedantic over word usage

 

[Ravensteel]

I get more jealous about the design and availability of certain diapers. Adult diapers are so far behind diapers designed for children, it's not even fair. All I want is an adult style pull up that ACTUALLY functions like a pull-up. Plus the soft stretchy tabs and overall absorbency seen in children diapers. I understand a lot of it has to do with patents and all that jazz. Still, definitely makes me jealous that we just don't have those features in adult diapers yet.

Availability is always a pain. It's substantially easier nowadays, of course since I can order off the internet and get something within a few days. Still, It would be nice to have an actual store I can walk into and buy quality diapers. I hate the fact that near every single diaper in an actual store is hot garbage.

 

[CookieMonstah]

I get so jealous over these sort of things. They can be so carefree and the designs are so much cuter for babies and toddlers. They can use their nappies and not have to stop playing and have someone caring come and change them. Just wish it could be like that for me.

 

[Subtlerustle]

Let me play with some colors in this post to emphasize connotation or emotions and make my point...

I've recently gotten wise to some of the psychology behind jealousy. If you can identify it as such, it helps you make the connection to something you want to do, be, or a circumstance you wish you had found yourself in... which is fairly obvious and goes without saying.

To expand on that still, there's a bit of a difference between something you might be able to do in the future, which strikes me as more pure jealousy, and something you wish had happened in the past, which mixes jealousy with regret. I'm sure a lot of us have regrets that are out of our control like you are describing, wishing for your youth to be spent in diapers again with the appreciation of knowing what you have. That's fine to give it a name and identify it as regret, but I think you should learn to let go of the regret and act on the jealousy in the present as a desire. This to me is the quintessential expression of being an AB, to heal the emotions with negative connotations, like regret. And yet, either I don't ascribe negative connotation to "jealousy" or I choose to reframe it as an expression of your desire to wear and use diapers and/or express yourself as Little as the children you saw do. The difference between a jealousy or desire you can act on is minimal to me and only turns on connotation. I try to treat them as the same.

What doesn't go without saying is how jealousy and desire can get crossed. There are stories out there of transwomen who identified themselves as previously being "a boob guy". After therapy to discuss emergent trans traits, they discovered their desire and attraction to breasts and other feminine characteristics was similar or related to jealousy for something they wanted for themselves. Indeed, I've even had this moment express itself, playing with my mother's bras and rolled up socks. I found this interesting how interconnected these emotions are.

So, I'll say that your identifying this as jealousy is a great step toward incorporating it back into yourself as an expression of desire. Try to shed the negative connotations and you will feel happier.

Jealousy, regret and desire. You’ve got me thinking. I’m not much in the same boat as many of you involving a wish to return to my childhood though there are specific times where I could’ve been put back in diapers. Yes I regret that my mom didn’t put me in Pampers when I occasionally wet the bed or had a handful of stomach bug accidents.

My jealousy is around the generational lucky ones who had their late teens and twenties with a mature internet available. These people must’ve had a faster journey to acceptance and thus easier time with ABDL and their relationships. I want those years back that were a struggle.
Desire, despite all the other changes throughout the years has been relatively steady for me. I have to say that all the folks in their 70’s and 80’s on here that participate and are still actively in the ABDL lifestyle are a real inspiration and beacon of hope for me. I secretly always worried I’d somehow lose my connection to diapers as time went on and now I’m confident I will enjoy this gift, yes gift, for many more years all things being equal.