winterheart01 said:
I ore sure am not going show everyone I am in need of such things, in stores where I live they consider it not respectfull of the other customers and yes, diapers are considered a private thing.
You're not going to see, for example anyone dangling out a fresh tampon either do you?
It is indeed prefered as others said to bring a bag and have it checked by security if needed. I did that at te supermarket and that was no issue.
People's disabilities are kept very private around here, a lot of people are ashamed of needing to wear diapers or other medical items.
Why do you think manufacturers create discrete pouches for insulin pumps? Not because people want to tell everyone "Hey I'm a diabetic".....
I understand wheelchairs are impossible to hide but I have seen others at the hospital, in wheelchair who entered the toilet and they carried their supplies in bags with them, to get changed before they saw the doctor.
Some (and I'm not exaggerating) even consider taking an adult diaper visibly out while going to the restroom a little attention demanding.
But it's not the same, you're comparing wheelchairs to diapers, each item falls in a different category. Glasses and hearing aids are much more accepted, same with walkers or wheelchairs, but diapers remain an item rarely spoken of.
1. I didn't say be a snobby jerk and dangle, and announce your diaper, and announce what you did in your last one, and what you're going to do now. Did I? No. I said the exact opposite.
2. Women carry a fresh tampon, when needed, openly, all the time, as long as it doesn't embarrass the person doing it. They aren't obnoxious about it, but, if the general public should happen to see it, it's incumbent upon the general public to chill the boink out! Here's a nice thing. If it embarrasses the individual woman, she can carry her period necessities in a bag.
3. You're the behavior interpretation deity? Just what the boink will you do, if the reason some people take a diaper out before going in, isn't to demand attention, but because it's damn difficult, if not impossible, to reach the diapers they need, from inside that tiny space, and they'd need more attention and help, if they didn't take it out, beforehand!? How about you judge? That'll help.
4. Diapers are nothing but medical equipment. The reason some medical equipment is more accepted than other medical equipment, is because people choose to let it be. They pander to the notion that it is, or should be, embarrassing. Diapers are tools. That's all. Changing them is private, because poop and pee are private, when possible, as is being naked.
5. Nope, diapers aren't private, when it's a medical need, unless IC people decide they are. It's up to them. Just like insulin pumps are private, to people embarrassed to be diabetic, and other medical equipment is, to those embarrassed to need it. What have they got to be embarrassed about?
If it embarrasses you, as an IC person, always carry a bag. If it doesn't embarrass you, as an IC person, you are certainly within your right to carry only a diaper, if that's all you need, and stop pandering to everyone else's embarrassment for you. The goal should be to go in and get changed, not to make everyone notice, or be loud and obnoxious.
The goal should not be to judge other disabled people, for daring to grab what they needed, while they had the space required to get it without help!
"How dare you! Grab what you need before you're so scrunched in, you can't grab it for yourself! Why, I've never, in all my days! There's no way
I'm misinterpreting! That's attention demanding!"
Yeah, or, maybe you're judging other disabled people.