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[englandfan13]

just looking for some insight/advice

currently I have 5 friends and 3 family members that know I like to wear diapers, and are all accepting to an extent. they each say though that I need to stop using them though because it's not "normal". for me right now though, diapers are an outlet for stress relief and relaxation, and I don't want to give that up. I'm just not sure how to approach this situation, so any insight is very appreciated.

 

[Fire2box]

Well are diapers affecting your life at all? Sometimes people do have a valid point in that you should stop wearing diapers. Years ago I was getting more and more anti-social just so I could wear diapers more. My dad pointed that out to me and cut me off them for quite a while. Now that I am pretty much back on track its fine again.

 

[Pojo]

I'd say to do what you want...If you think you're normal (which you are), then that's all that matters...

 

[Mesmerale]

I have to agree with Fire2Box, if diapers are becoming an excuse to avoid the outside world, then you need to do something about that.

If they're only a way of relieving stress, or to relax or something of the sort, then I see no problem with it.

But don't let them control your life, m'kay?

 

[englandfan13]

thanks for the insight, I'm trying not to let them control my life, and things seem to have gotten easier since I've found this sight with so many people to connect to. my friends and family are just looking out for my best interest, and think it will affect my future too much to keep wearing them.

 

[Mesmerale]

Well, we're always open to talk.

Some of us may be more hard than others.. Fire.. >.> =)

But we're always open to talk.

 

[englandfan13]

that's why I'm so glad I found this site. it seems like some of my friends are still a little overwhelmed at the fact, and their first instinct is to do what they consider to be normal. I feel it's better to talk here because everyone knows what it's like to wear diapers and know that it's not such an abnormal thing.

 

[Mesmerale]

Ah ah, don't get into that assumption.

Most all of us know what it's like to want to wear diapers, but not ALL.

Most all of us know what it's like to wear diapers, but not ALL.

Not all. I didn't know both until about two months ago.

Anyway, the point is, not everyone here has worn, and not everyone here wants to.

 

[englandfan13]

of course, my mistake, I meant most, because some people are just friends of people who wear diapers, or they can't get diapers, so I see what you mean mesmerale. just happy regardless to see all the people that do want to wear and know what it's like wearing diapers. I'm just hoping my friends/family can understand that, because I don't truly want to give up diapers. they help me out, and I figure that as long as it's not hurting anyone, what's the problem?

 

[Mesmerale]

I've thought about that too.

It's about social norm and all that good stuff.

If they don't understand it, or want you to stop, then that's most likely how they'll stay. They aren't kicking you out, or trying to force you. Let them have their opinion, and you make a point of not telling them about things that they may not want to hear.

 

[englandfan13]

I'll remember that, it's kinda strange, the whole situation. I mean I'm glad they know, but it also feels strange that they know. like I feel that them wanting me to change also means that they don't see me as the same person because of it. and I'll be sure to not talk about what they don't need to hear.

 

[Mesmerale]

That'd be better, I think. Don't take me to be the voice of ADISC. Oh no, the mods wouldn't like that at all...

Would they elect me to be the Voice of ADISC? I hope not... That'd just prove them to be clinically insane...

 

[englandfan13]

haha, just looking for any insight or advice, not the voice of ADISC necessarily, lol

 

[avery]

i can understand your friends and family being a little put off by learning that you wear diapers for fun. if i wasn't a DL and someone told me something like that, i might be concerned about them too and recommend that they try to stop.

confiding in close friends is fine if that's what you want to do. but they don't need to be kept up-to-date about how frequently you've been wearing diapers lately. it's a private thing that isn't anyone's business but your own. if your friends can't understand that you have no interest in cutting back on your diaper-wearing, i'd say you should probably stop volunteering information to them about where, when, and how often you do it. perhaps you could let them believe you've stopped, but continue to wear diapers in private.

if people just don't get your infantilism, you probably shouldn't try to force them to understand. it just means you should keep it to yourself. it's kind of sad, but when you think about it it's perfectly understandable that it might be a little too much to swallow for some people.

 

[englandfan13]

I see what you mean. now that I can express myself here I don't feel as much need for my friends to understand it, even though I would like them to. as long as they don't bring it up then I don't have to worry about stopping. even if I wanted to stop it would be hard because I've used them for so long and I feel like part of me would be lost if I gave them up. maybe in the future if diapers severely affected my life I would stop using them, but I would much rather continue using diapers. I'll remember though to keep my friends uninvolved though.