What if you're messy and she puts her hand down the back of your diaper?My fiancée checks me fairly often, usually either by squeezing me in my crotch, or putting her hand down the front or back under my diaper. I only wear cloth prefolds so she can quickly tell how wet I am if my diaper is wet all the up the back of my diaper or my front over my tummy.
OMG my mom did that too! She’d pat my butt and check to see if I was ready for bed. As I got older, she trusted me to do it myselfMy fiance will poke my diaper in the morning and ask if I'm wet. Growing up my mom would pinch my butt after my shower to see if I had my pullup on for bed.