So I prefer diapers with tabs and plastic backing and right now I use abri-form L4, I think that's what they are called. I am still learning all this so sorry if I dont sound smart. Anyway, Lately I have been having difficulty getting a comfortable fit. Since my wife is not into it me being in diapers, I change in the bathroom standing up and some times I diaper too loose and other times its crooked and I leak. Which do you guys prefer diapering standing of lying on your back? Also is baby powder safe to use on my man parts?