Diaper fetish growing more Prominent

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Misatoismywaifu

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Ok so my Fetish is getting worse. I've been attracted to Diapers since I was 6 so it's not going away. I don't experience "binge/purge" cycles but experience something different where I experience extreme sexual related urges to wear Diapers and then followed by a period of months or Years of a moderate attraction and then followed by nose bleed inducing sexual frustration over Diapers. It might be because I've had almost no Diaper time in my whole life. I'm 23 Years old and I feel like my Diaper Fetish isn't controlling my Life, I'm not sure if I'm experience a final growth spurt or hormonal surge since I've grown tremendously in the past year in libido, attractions to the opposite sex and strength. Anyone else experience things like this? I'm aware most other ABDLs here do not experience Sexual attraction to diapers but I feel alone in this matter.
 

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ADISC likes to pretend that this is not a sexual fetish for most people but it is. I think it is a reflex from when they used to allow minors on the site.
 

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ADISC likes to pretend that this is not a sexual fetish for most people but it is. I think it is a reflex from when they used to allow minors on the site.

It's not a matter of pretending. It is certainly sexual for many, if not most. However, there are plenty of sexually-oriented DL fetish sites. ADISC is a rarity, if not unique, in that it has made a deliberate choice not to dwell on the sexual aspect. That may well be a legacy of its origins as a TBDL site, but I see no reason to change things. Diversity is not a bad thing. If you want to discuss the sexual aspects, go to one of the sites that cater to that. There is no law against being a member of more than one site.

This can be a support community, or a fetish site. Not both. That doesn't mean that we can't discuss the sexual aspect, just that we can't get too graphic without risking attracting the kind of people that we don't want to be members.

Speaking for myself, I was sexually stimulated by nappies when I was in my teens, but it became more of a comfort thing as I aged.
 

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In my opinion, most people definitely have a sexual attraction to diapers (myself being one of them). I can see why ADISC would want to stay away from the sexual aspect of it though and I agree with them on that.

The extra drive you are experiencing in libido and strength sounds like a hormonal change. Speaking to the going through almost phases of diaper attraction. I would try and be diapered more often or not at all if it is causing sudden sexual frustration to the point of nose bleeds.
 

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I appreciate that we can talk about it as non-sexual. I don't want to have a fetish. It is more than that. I mean, diapers were just as exciting in preschool than in my teens or as an adult. I would have had no reason to put them on again if the attraction had not started in preschool. Then of course life catches up to me and 5 pregnancies and complications later and I probably shouldn't try to live without them anymore. I certainly prefer this to surgery. What guarantees are there that surgery would improve things? I do not think I'd be here if it was just all about the fetish.
 

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Sexual stresses in all this aren't uncommon. It can be unwanted entirely, inopportune, feel like the sexual desire is driving one in unwanted directions, etc. I think a lot of this is a problem of our own making, mostly due to a lack of self-acceptance. Nothing is going to make a guy's random erection a positive thing but accepting that we're influenced by things that are beyond our control and enjoying the ride when it's appropriate is a way to make it more palatable.

I wouldn't describe my sexual stresses at their strongest in the same way you have but they were there nonetheless. I think that the ability and willingness to allow myself to indulge those desires took a lot of the edge off and paradoxically made it more manageable. Are you currently not able to indulge or are you resisting it? Have you ever been able to share this with anyone else? You haven't given us all that much to go on but with what there is, I'd suggest trying to accept yourself and try to more accurately gauge the depths of your desire. It would be my hope that looking at yourself more charitably, you might see that there's nothing there to be afraid of after all.
 

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It's not a matter of pretending. It is certainly sexual for many, if not most. However, there are plenty of sexually-oriented DL fetish sites. ADISC is a rarity, if not unique, in that it has made a deliberate choice not to dwell on the sexual aspect. That may well be a legacy of its origins as a TBDL site, but I see no reason to change things. Diversity is not a bad thing. If you want to discuss the sexual aspects, go to one of the sites that cater to that. There is no law against being a member of more than one site.

This can be a support community, or a fetish site. Not both. That doesn't mean that we can't discuss the sexual aspect, just that we can't get too graphic without risking attracting the kind of people that we don't want to be members.

Speaking for myself, I was sexually stimulated by nappies when I was in my teens, but it became more of a comfort thing as I aged.

I agree with what you have said. I feel that ADISC works best as a support group rather than a fetish site. Lord knows that there are tons of those kinds of sites on the net. I joined ADISC as a teenager many years ago (check out my date of entry) and found it a safe place to be and talk about our special needs. I would never want it to become a place for sexual fetishes and the like. However, I do realize that sexuality is part and parcel of enjoying our diapers, etc. I must confess that I have used my diapers many times,both as a teen and adult, to satisfy my sexual urges. But, I wouldn't bore anyone here by divulging those times. So, to the Administrators, keep ADISC exactly the way it has always been and please don't change anything. Thanks for my rant!
 

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Hmmm. My thoughts on this are varied. Sexual urges are completely natural, while a strong desire to be diapered is...well...different than most people. I was wearing diapers as a young child for many years, before, in my teen years, it became sexual. I went through that phase of it being mostly sexual, though I still suffered through some terrible IC issues. Then as I got a little older and wore diapers more for protection, the sexual part became an occasional thing, sometimes a rarity.

We all go through phases in life. If sexual urges are controlling your thoughts and affecting your life over a long period of time, then its time to take a step back and perhaps see a counselor. During your teen years and early twenties, I wouldn't worry about it.

I appreciate ADISC way more than any other site precisely because it de-emphasizes the sexual aspect.
 

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I'd say that if you're wanting to discuss things that are sexual in nature, that's fine, but keep it within the confines of PG-13 discussions (AKA: Don't discuss anything in too much detail) - We're a support site first and foremost, if a bit of advice on that sort of thing is needed, that's well within the realm of things we can handle.
 

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My attraction to and desire for diapers is 100% sexual, but over time I've learned to accept and embrace that part of myself and deal with the urges, which I find are best satiated by wearing diapers. The longer I go without wearing, the stronger the urge becomes. The key is to strike a balance where your sexual needs are able to be met without it interfering with other parts of your life. There are some people who are able to wear 24/7 and integrate this fetish into almost every part of their lives, but I'm not one of them. I function most effectively when I keep work and play separate, so the diapers stay in the bedroom (and a few other rooms of the house) and wear only on nights and weekends.
 

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Hammer on the head, this exactly is the case for the Diaper Lover person at this side of the line. The most important thing I think is to learn that the DL part of one's life should not dominate important other things. Think about your relation, your work and good friends. The balance is crucial. As INTrePid mentioned I learned over time that it is very important not to forget about yourself and your sexual desires too. It really is a balancing act, to my opinion. But as soon as you learn this, in time, you will recognize people around you who did just that too, or did nothing with their sexual desires at all (whatever those are, off topic). The latter are very very unhappy people… You stand more confident in life, even if you are in the supermarket, fully diapered, trying to reach for the highest bottle :laugh:
You will not care, just laugh about your stupidity.
 

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A lot of ABDLs receive sexual gratification from diapers. It's very common. Please don't feel alone in your desires.

The difference is that ADISC is working to be a site where ABDLs can get together and share non-sexual thoughts about diapers. There's a number of other sites that can give you that kind of stimulation. ADISC is a support site where you can share your issues with others who can emphasize with what you are going through.

Plenty of members here gain sexual satisfaction from diapers. However, like classy folks, we keep those conversations private rather than posting them on the World Wide Web for all to read. And for good reason.

Good luck to you in your pursuit of accepting your fetish. It took me many years before I could do it. Learn to own it, control it, and move on. Believe it or not, what helped me overcome my fetish was having a family member discover my fetish and accepting it. Not saying that it will work for you, but you may want to consider finding someone you can confide in and explain how you're feeling about all of this.

You are more than your underwear. Good luck and best wishes.
 
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Without a doubt the DL part of me has become very prominent in my life. And I am very comfortable with that, with both the comfort and sexual levels of being a DL. While I greatly appreciate and fully understand that ADISC is a support group for those with ABDL passions, needs and desires, there is for a good portion of the group realization and understanding that there is a sexual component to this passion/fetish. It is important for all to realize that the same support is looked for on this level just as it is the same level for the non-sexual aspect of our joys. However I do agree that the sexual aspect should be treated on a very light and brief level for decorum sense, and of course out of respect to those that have non-sexual aspects to their ABDL feelings. This in no way should hold back any member from wishing to discuss the sexual aspect in much more private means such as PM's and/or emails. Even to become a member of another ABDL site that is more sexually open does not take way the support that we all offer each other here at ADISC.
 

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For me wearing diapers, 95% of the time it's not sexual but something I enjoy but it can be sexual when I want it to be.

When it comes to other things such as pacifiers, toys, blankets etc. that's just something I like, nothing sexual whatsoever.
 

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The sexual element in various forms is significant for most members here. Even those who are 100% nonsexual ABs can have sexual issues in their relationships related to their AB desires. It is important to be able to discuss sexual matters freely and openly here. Some of the discussions can get pretty explicit but that doesn't mean they should be censored, even if some people feel offended. The major distinction to make is based on intent. Intimate sexual details can be useful information or can be pornography, depending on the intent. The moderators have the difficult task of making that decision.
 

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Well will say i struggle getting rid of diapering myself every friday night.
specialy if away for long.
 
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Misatoismywaifu

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I do have some AB Tendencies but it's mainly DL Sexual Attraction but I do experience the Psychological factors. I'm often anxious, tense, rarely dream and wake up periodically throughout the night. I may have PTSD too from abuse growing up but when I'm diapered, I feel infantile, safe and at the same time, sexy. It's odd. When I'm Diapered, I'm completely relaxed, mentally and emotionally, I dream, I sleep deeper, my nerves are less intense and I don't smoke cigarettes(trying to quit, diapers seem to help control cravings), any who, diapers do have non sexual factors for me but I always feel like I'm going to bleed out from my nose whenever I diaper up when I get a fresh package. Anxiously looking forward to bellisimo diapered fun in my future. I always "forget" what it feels like to wear diapers and have to concentrate intensively to remember.
 

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Most ABDLs are sexual, with a sizeable minority that is not. This is borne out by Bittergrey's surveys at Understanding Infantilism, and it's been borne out by the occasional polls that people have posted here on ADISC.



I think it's incorrect to say that ADISC somehow denies that ABDL is sexual for most, though I've seen that misunderstanding propagated quite a bit off-site.

We do, however, maintain a "PG13 rule" against posting overtly explicit material because we've found that it leads to higher quality discussions and makes this a more approachable community - which is where we want to be as a support community. Explicit posts have been far disproportionately likely to be low quality, spammy posts, and basically all of this stuff can be thoroughly and thoughtfully discussed without being directly explicit.
 
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Ok so my Fetish is getting worse. I've been attracted to Diapers since I was 6 so it's not going away. I don't experience "binge/purge" cycles but experience something different where I experience extreme sexual related urges to wear Diapers and then followed by a period of months or Years of a moderate attraction and then followed by nose bleed inducing sexual frustration over Diapers. It might be because I've had almost no Diaper time in my whole life. I'm 23 Years old and I feel like my Diaper Fetish isn't controlling my Life, I'm not sure if I'm experience a final growth spurt or hormonal surge since I've grown tremendously in the past year in libido, attractions to the opposite sex and strength. Anyone else experience things like this? I'm aware most other ABDLs here do not experience Sexual attraction to diapers but I feel alone in this matter.

You know, we all go through the same basic things. There's periods of sexuality, sometimes followed by guilt, and voids, followed by a return to the beginning point, where we become sexual again. These can be diaper related, or not. Sex is a very individual path we go down, mixed in with partners/spouses of all types, and experiences good/bad. At 23, you've got much to live for, but the first thing you need to realize is that we're all sexual animals, and we all use different stimuli to achieve our sexual end. Acceptance of who we are, and of choices we make is what makes us whole. The quicker you get to being totally on board with your ABDL aspect, the easier it will be to move through life, wearing & using, as you please, with no real binge/purge mentality, and no negative thoughts. The more you wear, the less charged the sexual aspect will become, and the more it integrates with your personality, as a piece of who you are, and not the whole, since we're far more complex than just a diaper wearing adult.
 
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