Dateing sites for incon and diaper wearers?

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wetatnight

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hello
sorry if anybody was offended by my previous post.
but where else am I supposed to meet someone of the opposit sex that also wears diapers for what ever reason to date?
I have tried diapermates.com , yahoo personals and eharmony.com
any other suggestions.
I thought it was a lagitamet question.
 

AshleyAshes

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I don't mean to sound cynical, but that's heading into one heck of a shallow dating pool if you limit yourself like that.
 

wetatnight

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maybe it's shallow
but trying to date people who aren't incon or wear diapers isn't working and people who don't have those issues aren't always wanting to date someone who dose have them.
 

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Why do you want to date just people who are just incontent or likes diapers?

It sounds like you just want to be dating them just cos you like them for wearing diapers and not who they are.

Edit: Thanks BabyKat for spotting that out.
 
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well, you should keep trying those sites. just not this one :p but i encourage you to stay and post... just not about meeting up.
 

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It sounds like you just want to be dating them just cos you like them for wearing diapers and not what they are.
I think you meant who they are, but ya I agree.


...If someone likes you enough, they'll look past that and let you do your thing...That doesn't mean they will get involved, but they will tolerate it...And you should respect that too...Not just look for someone who would...That's selfish...It's a give-take relationship and you shouldn't be so focused on what you want... Just look around for someone who shares your interests and if they happen to like diapers too, bonus to you...But that shouldn't be the focal point.

And at this point I can only wonder why they received rep. for the thread which hasn't even got off the ground...(mercy rep.?)
 

g6s

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i think he's trying to say that he tried that, and many of the girls that are incontinent aren't willing to date a guy who is.

OP said:
but trying to date people who aren't incon or wear diapers isn't working and people who don't have those issues aren't always wanting to date someone who dose have them.
see? he's tried it and it doesn't work out for him. We all have tastes, and I guess he was just telling us his, and his reasons for posting. Cut the man some slack PEAPAL!
 

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I think you meant who they are, but ya I agree.


...If someone likes you enough, they'll look past that and let you do your thing...That doesn't mean they will get involved, but they will tolerate it...And you should respect that too...Not just look for someone who would...That's selfish...It's a give-take relationship and you shouldn't be so focused on what you want... Just look around for someone who shares your interests and if they happen to like diapers too, bonus to you...But that shouldn't be the focal point.

And at this point I can only wonder why they received rep. for the thread which hasn't even got off the ground...(mercy rep.?)
BabyKat is on the button!

Dating someone who shares an interest in diapers isn't necessarily going to mean an instant successful relationship, in spite of that I can understand the frustration. Searching for someone who can relate to such a personal aspect of yourself can seem like a logical step so long as you don't base a relationship entirely on that peculiarity alone! Personally, I'd say you should join another infantilism community intended for an older audience, I can think of a few that are respectable, allow others to get to know you, your personamlity & interests and possibly, somewhere along the line, you'll meet someone.
 
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Essentially what BabyKat said.

Just to further that point some more, incontinence aside, understand that this is a fetish. And whilst partners may have fun within the realms of this fetish, that does not mean you have anything in common outside of it. Trust me, I've met a few people before, and I liked them on the basis of being a DL. But beyond that, I felt that they didn't have much to offer in the way of friendship, and that there was a personality conflict. So I opted to lose communication with them.

If you are primarily looking for someone to be with, then you'll have to find a lot more about them that you like and are comfortable with. I'm sorry, but in most circumstances, it's not true that "If a person has [x], then they also must have [y]". So yeah, just from my little bit of experience, just because someone is a DL, doesn't mean they are perfect for you.

On the topic of incontinence though. Basing a relationship on that would be even worse. Chances are, the person wouldn't be too open about the fact and not too thrilled at the idea of sharing it with you. But that's just if they weren't a DL and incontinent. It may differ for those who are involved in this fetish as well.

However, the point still stands that dating someone on the basis on one or two things isn't really worth it. You may find that you just don't get on with them, or you can't stand their personality. You should be with someone for who they are, not for some superficial reasons.
 

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you should find a non-AB/DL that is accepting. It is easier to do and you dont get stuck changing their diaper (unless they get into it). =]
 

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What people do is they date like they normally would and after a while a year and then reveal it. You will know when its time but you can't do it in the first few dates or anything like that other wise they. But really you don't date for selfish reasons ever, otherwise its doomed to fail.
 

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Honestly I tend to doubt incontinent people who use dating sites advertise it. It seems like the kind of thing you'd keep to yourself at least until you're ready to meet.

Also, if I were an AB/DL female, I'd probably not be on diaper sites advertising it. For whatever reason, there seems to be abnormally high population of rabidly horny guys out there harassing the few females who do show up on these sites (not saying this applies to you, just a statement in general).

Hell, I'd love to meet a girl who was into diapers. Unfortunately, though, either there are precious few women into diapers, or they choose not to reveal themselves because of the people I mentioned previously.

Sorry to rain on your parade. I wish you the best of luck anyway. If you do turn up something interesting or have luck with it please do post about it. I, and others I'm sure, would like to hear about it.
 

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Not to mention, if your AB/TB/DL interests are so signifigant that they have to be a primary element of your relationship... Maybe you shouldn't be dating to start with.
 

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hello
sorry if anybody was offended by my previous post.
but where else am I supposed to meet someone of the opposit sex that also wears diapers for what ever reason to date?
I have tried diapermates.com , yahoo personals and eharmony.com
any other suggestions.
I thought it was a lagitamet question.
I guess im crazy too.. I've read threw all the posts but I really would enjoy dating somone who is into diapers because if I put all that TIME + MONEY into a relationship to find that she dosent like diapers and wont do anything with me in them. Then I fell like I've been ****ed (and not in the good way).

I mean a real life example is african americans prodomently date among them selves (NOT ALWAYS!) and it happened more 20 years ago so, this is not a new concept to try to date people who are liek you instead of just on personality.
 

AshleyAshes

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I guess im crazy too.. I've read threw all the posts but I really would enjoy dating somone who is into diapers because if I put all that TIME + MONEY into a relationship to find that she dosent like diapers and wont do anything with me in them. Then I fell like I've been ****ed (and not in the good way).

I mean a real life example is african americans prodomently date among them selves (NOT ALWAYS!) and it happened more 20 years ago so, this is not a new concept to try to date people who are liek you instead of just on personality.
If that's your view and you only want to date within the AB/TB/DL community... Statisticly speaking, get ready to be single for some time.
 

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Thats why I'm glad I can swing either way.

But Good luck finding somone who will help you indulge in your diaper wearing. Both are very unlikly. I just think the later one causes a greater waste of time.

But thats not to say if I find someone I love they must be a *B/DL. It just means that is who I will be looking for.
 

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How about a dating site for the open minded instead? Though it would be hard to determine degree of open mindedness. Plus nothing would stop people from lying.
 

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How about a dating site for the open minded instead? Though it would be hard to determine degree of open mindedness. Plus nothing would stop people from lying.
Yeah. This is a good thought.

Or simply look for a site for people who are into other unusual fetishes or sexual behaviours. They might be more open to your being different than the general population is.

Unless you're a lifestyle *B (and really, even to a certain extent then), you can't try to predicate an entire relationship on a single interest--you'll narrow your pool of potential partners by a huge degree.

My girlfriend accepts my being a DL, and will even change me. But we didn't meet online or anything--we just met in real life through mutual friends and got to know each other. That should be the important part of any relationship that isn't purely sexual.
 
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wetatnight

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hello again
I have tried regular dateing sights with out much success.
and not all people who aren't incontinent are willing to date or marry someone who is.
But someone who is also incontinent would be more likey to be sympathetic to a partner who also has the same problem.
I'm not saying I would only date incontinent people, but the ones who I have tried to date that weren't , didn't want to date someone who was.
 
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