Confessions of a furry

[MarcusBear]

Back when I frequented some forums of a furry nature I noticed a reoccuring trend of furries, most of which were young teenagers, yearning to 'come out of the closet' to their parents and in extreme cases their whole family, to declare themselves as a member of the fandom either by preparing a speech beforehand or by a written lettter, some threatened to end their relationship unless they were accepted, others compared the admission to homosexuality. Personally I've always seen the fandom albeit as a spectator as a hobby, a pasttime, not something if I were a furry would feel the need to declare to my parents unless I intended to rome the house wearing a fursuit and matching collar.

So a question to the furries of ADISC, have you told your parents about the fandom and you being a furry yourself? Do you intend to? Do you feel it's necessary to take an active role in the fandom?

Educate me.

 

[Thallis]

No, no, and no. If my parents weren't completely unreasonable about matters such as this, I might.

 

[AnonKiba]

i don't plan to tell them I'm a furry i don't think it's necessary and causes to much drama but i plan to tell them about the hole adult baby thing when i turn 18

 

[KilionTheFallenAngel]

Nevar, unless i have no other choice and its a life/death situation.

 

[Zanzawolf]

I've hinted at there being a fandom towards the type of art I do when she was telling to try and make some money with my work. However, I have never outright told my mother about the fandom in general and that I am part of.

I'll never tell her the whole story after seeing some of reactions to other odd stuffs I've been into.

 

[EmeraldsAndLime]

Along the same lines of being an *B/DL, I don't think other people need to know about it. People should just keep these sorts of things to themselves.

 

[Mysterious]

No, I haven't told them, nor would I want to. I really don't think they need to know what I do in my private time. It's not like they come to you to tell you about some of their more secret or private matters, so why should you? Many people have this huge desire to tell others, but most don't have much an answer when you ask them why they want to tell others. I just never saw the point of coming out if not necessary.

And as far as being an active member, that's not necessary in the least. It's not like the fandom has a strict set of rules you must follow to be one, you just are really if you say you are. Even then, it's not like someone over the Internet saying you aren't one shouldn't mean much. It's all about yourself, and how you feel about it.

 

[Mako]

Newfurs are pretty annoying in that sense. They treat the fandom like it makes them someone special by being a furry. They take it MUCH to seriously. Just have to learn to relax, being furry is little different then any other type of geeky fandom.

As for telling parents, there's no need to. I never got this whole "coming out" thing, whether it be furry or *b/DL. Usually the response is negative or apathy, why bother?

And of course it's not necessary to take an "active" role. One can be a casual furry, it doesn't make them any less of one.

 

[xdeadx]

My mother knows about the fandom but not in a completely well kind of sense. Some point in time I have to sit her down and explain it better because she doesn't have to much of an idea as to what it is. But in general she does know I'm a furry.

Telling parents, I see no use in it really.

I do however choose to tell my parents just because we have that whole, no secrets thing with each other. But then again I have kept certain secrets from them. But that's different than this D<

Active role... Hmm, no like Zyph said, there's no terms and rules for the sort of thing. And having a set rule(s) would really be useless and dumb. So yea, there's really no point in taking an active role. I guess I sorta do sometimes though by wearing collars to school. But that's just really a thing I do to express myself. No one really bugs the hell out of me because of it. Some people are curious, others just brush it off. No one really cares to be honest.

 

[diapersrulez]

I will not tell them, exept when there is a really good reson they nooed to know.

 

[Ren]

They'd blink, shrug, and no matter how many times i explained it to them they wouldn't get it and they probably wouldn't care anyways...=P of course, I don't tell them either...but if I todl them I bet that'd be the case. p.S: my mother doesn't even speak english.

 

[BromeTeks]

Nah, I don't see a point. It doesn't seem like tohe sort of thing to just shout out wildly.

 

[Slycamer]

yes i have two my step mother who didn't care at all she says it makes sense since i'm almost 14 i told her the extent and she still don't think much of it so i am prepareing for my dad i really have trouble telling him anything big.

 

[RubixFox]

*Thinks them knowing about tbdl is enough* I tried to come out and tell my mom about being a furry but she really didn't understand and changed the conversation as if she doesn't want to know. I'll let her be.

Unless you feel you're holding a secret that needs to be let off your chest to feel better, I'd say go for it. If not, well I don't see a reason to.

 

[andysetra]

Like the *B/DL thing, I also see no reason to do this. It's the just the normal excitement about anything new (I felt it when I came out about being gay, when I figured I was DL, etc...). It passes, and when it does, you'll feel glad you didn't jump at telling everyone - especially your parents. Nothing worse than having that awkwardness until you move out.

 

[FluffyFluffers]

It has never come up... sept with my sister.really I don't see the point.

Although My parents don't give a shit what I do And I'm going to start wearing a collar in a month or so.

I have not even told them I'm Gay XD

and no In my life it is not needed. Although it is hard to get to know the one's in my area better till next year.

 

[Paul_Fox]

So a question to the furries of ADISC, have you told your parents about the fandom and you being a furry yourself? Do you intend to? Do you feel it's necessary to take an active role in the fandom?

Educate me.

Well, I can only tell you about my experience. Yes i have told my parents that im furry. My mother thinks its cute and most of my family know about it aswell. On my desk at work i have some fox plushies aswell. That lead to questions about them so i simply told the people i work with about the fandom. As for my babyfur side there is 2 people outside of the fandom, my sister and her husband. As for babyfur in my furry community, i was once told that i was the 'go to' guy for babyfurs in my city.

As for activity in the fandom, most defenently. I have made so many friends with thanks to the fandom and i am very active in my city. I have even started a regular coffee night for the furs of Sydney. With all this activity i have been so much more emotionally stable and relaxed with everything. The furry fandom is now a part of my life.

 

[ShippoFox]

So a question to the furries of ADISC, have you told your parents about the fandom and you being a furry yourself? Do you intend to? Do you feel it's necessary to take an active role in the fandom?

No, no, no, and no. They do know that I like foxes and wolves though. However, I don't really have any reason to tell them I'm a furry.

 

[Lapin]

I've never told my parents that i was a furry. I think they've figured it out on their own, though because when I came down and visited them on my way to last years FWA they asked me if I was going to a "fuzzy" convention and if I had a fuzzy suit.

It was really hard to not giggle when they said fuzzy suit.

 

[Martin]

So a question to the furries of ADISC, have you told your parents about the fandom and you being a furry yourself? Do you intend to? Do you feel it's necessary to take an active role in the fandom?

Educate me.

No, Hell no, and no.

Even though I doubt it accurate (I didn't see it) the CSI episode sparked enough conversation for me to never even think about telling. And why would it be a necessity?