Baby's Homecoming: getting the new place ready!

BobbiSueEllen

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I've changed my view recently about daycare. Youngest grandson is approaching three, and I'm impressed with the things he's picking up from daycare. His current favorite bedtime book is a numbers book, and he loves to show off. He goes to daycare 3 days a week while Mrs. Junior works part time. We get called in as backup if she has an unexpected meeting or trip. To be fair, the daycare isn't some fat housewife watching other people's kids for cash, or a government run thing. They're dropping significant cash for a top of the line preschool, and IMO they're getting a return on the investment. Our 7 year old granddaughter went to the same place before starting school.

PS: All of you other babies will be pleased to know that Junior Jr. is not yet toilet trained. I haven't asked about that. His parents have been doing a terrific job in every other aspect with both kids, so I refuse to second guess. If memory serves, granddaughter ditched the diapers right around her second birthday.

Part of my statement was satire; I don't hold the belief that daycares are made up of "fat housewives watching other people's kids for cash" but there are complications that can arise from having one or more children in daycare for many parents, such as the fact that sometimes one or both parents must work a little extra on a given day or are delayed in picking up their child and are thus charged accordingly...usually steeply. Also I've had friends with kids in daycare who've experienced regular issues, such as being forced to either remove a sick child (even if only suspected) or there are common maladies children get & pass on to others in the daycare, which result in long-term mandated child-absence...and a parent seeking out a sitter to cover the gap.

I have an oldest granddaughter with marked autism, another who's considered 'normal', yet another with mild autism...and a preschooler grandson. As I said, my grandkids have never been in a daycare at any time, but they have been in schools (excepting the grandson) with either very tight health restrictions (this was before the COVID outbreak)...or a rather substandard special-needs curriculum that is abused by the special-needs personnel whose only curriculum is to sit an autistic child at a table with a coloring book & crayons, offer no teacher-student interaction, offer little supervision of the class as a whole...and handle a meltdown by calling the parent(s) in exasperation, telling them to retrieve their child...or even bring the child on a trip to the nurse and generate a false report of head-lice to get a child out of the class for a week...and that has happened on a routine basis with more parents than my kids...or even myself.

Thankfully, that has been a different story here in Idaho, where the special-needs class has been both effective and superb in all aspects. My oldest granddaughter flourished there, as did my third granddaughter (even though her autism is mild); my second granddaughter has developed into a highly-intelligent, remarkably-adjusted student on her own right. So far, Kentucky has been holding the same good standards as Idaho.

I would be extremely remiss in my role & duty as a grandparent in my current state of retirement to not offer my time or even other resources to help my family out, as I have little else to do. I don't have all the money in the world...but I do have time. That makes the definition of my role very clear. And so, there I am. That is the mantle I take up, because I believe, above all else, that there's nobody better to watch over children than family...and that family is everything. Not everyone can avail of themselves to exercise that standard, due to people having careers or other obligations of their own...but I can. So I do.

Hopefully, this message came across as no-malice-intended. Hopefully, you understand my point of view. Thanks.
 

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Well, another development arose as I was finishing posting the last post: I had to cancel everything. The trailer park, which has the trailer I was going to buy, is owned by a larger company, both who have been sued (along with sister trailer parks owned by the big company) more than once for trailer-grabbing, malicious behavior, overcharging for utilities and blocking the removal of lawful trailer removals. Their BBB backlog is quite worrisome. This is NOT a good day. 😡😡😡
 

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OMG! Sorry about your new moving tale of woe. Sometimes you have to wonder if it's not meant to be:cry:
Part of my statement was satire; I don't hold the belief that daycares are made up of "fat housewives watching other people's kids for cash"

I wasn't tossing out some stereotype about the fat housewife running the daycare. That was, in fact, the woman behind us. She flat-out told Mrs. Maxx over the fence that she didn't want to go back to work after having kids, so she started doing daycare. Ironically, her clients evaporated when the pandemic hit, so she was forced to get a job.

Edit: Agree with you on the duties of grandparents. Junior and Mrs. Junior know I'd pick up the slack if it came to that. Fortunately, both of them make good money at jobs that didn't disappear during the last year. I have to admit that while I think I could do a very good job watching and teaching the kids, I can't compete with the socialization aspect that comes with being around other kids at daycare.
 
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Well, another development arose as I was finishing posting the last post: I had to cancel everything. The trailer park, which has the trailer I was going to buy, is owned by a larger company, both who have been sued (along with sister trailer parks owned by the big company) more than once for trailer-grabbing, malicious behavior, overcharging for utilities and blocking the removal of lawful trailer removals. Their BBB backlog is quite worrisome. This is NOT a good day. 😡😡😡




Well shit! that sucks but it is best you figured it out now than later. Hang in there you will find you something you can work with soon enough.
 

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I'm just glad I didn't buy an airplane ticket yet...or make any other final purchases related to the move. I have yet to find a trailer park that doesn't try to work above the law and grab trailers simply because they can. What jerks! :mad:
 

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It really sucks at the moment. I found two nice houses while on a speaker phone call with my mom and great aunt. Mom and I ended the call to visit the first house which was available on the website on which I found it. Sure enough when I arrived at the destination, I pulled up the house on Zillow, and its pending. Every fucking house is pending... especially when I talk to our agent. Like the next day.. pending!

What ducks more is my agent isn't even finding houses for us. We are having an open house on the 24th, and after that, if no good offers, we are going to hire a new agent once the contract with the current one expires.
 
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I'm just glad I didn't buy an airplane ticket yet...or make any other final purchases related to the move. I have yet to find a trailer park that doesn't try to work above the law and grab trailers simply because they can. What jerks! :mad:

At this rate, I'm starting to lose all faith. I seriously am. 😢
Keep you head up. It will will work out. You will find something close to your family that will work. If you want this you will make it happen. Don't pay attention to the people that say it might not be meant to be. I am routing for you anyway.
 

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Oddly enough, a realtor just responded to my ad. He probably had a mind-set of someone wanting a "stick-home" (a house with foundation) so I replied kindly about my situation. He'll probably politely excuse himself for that reason because there's almost no money to be made selling mobile homes in parks. I dunno...I just don't know.
 

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So, what's becoming of this whole thing? It's getting bleak but it's not entirely over with. The quest to get my own place is a rocky one, with plenty of treachery in wait for the one who walks this path.

What I am talking about is mobile home parks. No matter where you go in the US, perhaps even in Canada (?), they're quite the batch: many--not all--operate on treachery, a smile on a rabid dog. So far, the model I've seen in many of these parks is the same:
  1. lure a prospective tenant/buyer (henceforth referred to as "buyer") willing to buy a fixer-upper mobile in the park with an attractive price, whether financed by the prospective buyer or in-house;
  2. seal the deal, get the money, give the title;
  3. allow time for the buyer to make improvements upon the property;
  4. either do nothing or introduce a ridiculous fee/charge above & beyond the contract (a late rent payment, even if caught up, usually makes the management stop taking further rent payments to force a crisis);
  5. inform the tenant the lease is broken and they have 7 days to vacate themselves and the trailer (in most counties, by law, a reason for termination is not required to be given by the park management/owner);
  6. more often than not, a buyer has insufficient money to both pay for the trailer to be moved and secure a space in another park;
  7. if the buyer does have the funds, they and their moving team are usually prevented from moving a trailer out of the park by a preplanned obstruction, such as digging up the street to work on a sewer line, before or on the final day, and;
  8. once the 7 days are up, the trailer is liened, preventing its sale, a lawsuit against the buyer threatened and the buyer is forced to abandon the trailer, surrender the title and walk away from the trailer price and any & all materials & labor put into the trailer, usually running in the additional thousands.
See how that works? And the management/owner will simply tell you "It's not personal...it's business".

Of course it's business to them...it's personal to you. They lose nothing...you do. And they hide behind that quip all day long to take the edge off their consciences, reap your work and sucker the next person in with your former trailer to apply, lather, rinse, repeat. I saw it happen in some states...looks like it goes on in Kentucky, too. Seems to be a common trade secret/shortcut.

That's what you get for following in the spirit of the law: you get the letter.

I'm not saying all parks do this...but it seems many, if not most, do. I've done enough research on many parks in the area after coming close to getting burned last week to discover most are owned by large LLCs...with one LLC that stands out. Someone fought back in a class-action suit which gained considerable media attention; the case can be found here. I'm still seeking a verdict report. But if you read the complaint, you'll get the gist of what I'm saying: shystery.

And so, the search continues. The opportunities are vanishing but I keep at it.
 

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So, what's becoming of this whole thing? It's getting bleak but it's not entirely over with. The quest to get my own place is a rocky one, with plenty of treachery in wait for the one who walks this path.

What I am talking about is mobile home parks. No matter where you go in the US, perhaps even in Canada (?), they're quite the batch: many--not all--operate on treachery, a smile on a rabid dog. So far, the model I've seen in many of these parks is the same:
  1. lure a prospective tenant/buyer (henceforth referred to as "buyer") willing to buy a fixer-upper mobile in the park with an attractive price, whether financed by the prospective buyer or in-house;
  2. seal the deal, get the money, give the title;
  3. allow time for the buyer to make improvements upon the property;
  4. either do nothing or introduce a ridiculous fee/charge above & beyond the contract (a late rent payment, even if caught up, usually makes the management stop taking further rent payments to force a crisis);
  5. inform the tenant the lease is broken and they have 7 days to vacate themselves and the trailer (in most counties, by law, a reason for termination is not required to be given by the park management/owner);
  6. more often than not, a buyer has insufficient money to both pay for the trailer to be moved and secure a space in another park;
  7. if the buyer does have the funds, they and their moving team are usually prevented from moving a trailer out of the park by a preplanned obstruction, such as digging up the street to work on a sewer line, before or on the final day, and;
  8. once the 7 days are up, the trailer is liened, preventing its sale, a lawsuit against the buyer threatened and the buyer is forced to abandon the trailer, surrender the title and walk away from the trailer price and any & all materials & labor put into the trailer, usually running in the additional thousands.
See how that works? And the management/owner will simply tell you "It's not personal...it's business".

Of course it's business to them...it's personal to you. They lose nothing...you do. And they hide behind that quip all day long to take the edge off their consciences, reap your work and sucker the next person in with your former trailer to apply, lather, rinse, repeat. I saw it happen in some states...looks like it goes on in Kentucky, too. Seems to be a common trade secret/shortcut.

That's what you get for following in the spirit of the law: you get the letter.

I'm not saying all parks do this...but it seems many, if not most, do. I've done enough research on many parks in the area after coming close to getting burned last week to discover most are owned by large LLCs...with one LLC that stands out. Someone fought back in a class-action suit which gained considerable media attention; the case can be found here. I'm still seeking a verdict report. But if you read the complaint, you'll get the gist of what I'm saying: shystery.

And so, the search continues. The opportunities are vanishing but I keep at it.
I think you will be best off to find one on a half acer or more land and borrow the money to buy it and the property out right. I know that they must be harder to find that way but there has to be a few out there. If you can find a fixer upper on some land that holds enough value is the key because most banks won't loan very much on a older trailer house alone. Although we looked into some doublewides many years ago and in Oklahoma If they are placed on a poured foundation instead of setting on blocks they are more apt to finance it longer and insure it more like a site built house. Of course that all adds to the cost but if you can find one that the land values would make good collateral as you can finance the land and not the house. That will save a lot as you don't have to insure the house if the loan is on the property. Keep looking I know it feels like it is taking forever and you want to be close to the family but you damn sure don't want to get caught in one of those scams. You will find something.
 

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And so another evolution to the process arrives: the simple truth is that mobile home parks which offer fixer-upper mobile homes for sale are treacherous trailer-grabbers. This isn't a Kentucky thing...it's an everywhere thing. So I've changed my tack and now seek out a tandem-axle camper to buy & fix up to put in a park. At least if things go south, I can hitch up and drive it away for far less than $2,500. It's not a bad thing, really, to go through this: I can still fix it up inside as I need it and still live the baby life in it. Plus I have access to the truck with which to haul it. That can do until I can buy something a bit bigger that's already on a small patch of land. All in all, the better way to go.
 

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And so another evolution to the process arrives: the simple truth is that mobile home parks which offer fixer-upper mobile homes for sale are treacherous trailer-grabbers. This isn't a Kentucky thing...it's an everywhere thing. So I've changed my tack and now seek out a tandem-axle camper to buy & fix up to put in a park. At least if things go south, I can hitch up and drive it away for far less than $2,500. It's not a bad thing, really, to go through this: I can still fix it up inside as I need it and still live the baby life in it. Plus I have access to the truck with which to haul it. That can do until I can buy something a bit bigger that's already on a small patch of land. All in all, the better way to go.
You can find some pretty good deals on some of those RV trader sites. If you have a truck that will handle a gooseneck or fifth wheel they pull so much better than a bumper pull. Much safer too. They put the weight down a few inches before the back axel. Bumper pulls unload weight from the front tires as they hook up a few feet behind the back axel. Plus the extra room they have.
 
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