A sweet little forever AB toddler girl in Pampers
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I've changed my view recently about daycare. Youngest grandson is approaching three, and I'm impressed with the things he's picking up from daycare. His current favorite bedtime book is a numbers book, and he loves to show off. He goes to daycare 3 days a week while Mrs. Junior works part time. We get called in as backup if she has an unexpected meeting or trip. To be fair, the daycare isn't some fat housewife watching other people's kids for cash, or a government run thing. They're dropping significant cash for a top of the line preschool, and IMO they're getting a return on the investment. Our 7 year old granddaughter went to the same place before starting school.
PS: All of you other babies will be pleased to know that Junior Jr. is not yet toilet trained. I haven't asked about that. His parents have been doing a terrific job in every other aspect with both kids, so I refuse to second guess. If memory serves, granddaughter ditched the diapers right around her second birthday.
Part of my statement was satire; I don't hold the belief that daycares are made up of "fat housewives watching other people's kids for cash" but there are complications that can arise from having one or more children in daycare for many parents, such as the fact that sometimes one or both parents must work a little extra on a given day or are delayed in picking up their child and are thus charged accordingly...usually steeply. Also I've had friends with kids in daycare who've experienced regular issues, such as being forced to either remove a sick child (even if only suspected) or there are common maladies children get & pass on to others in the daycare, which result in long-term mandated child-absence...and a parent seeking out a sitter to cover the gap.
I have an oldest granddaughter with marked autism, another who's considered 'normal', yet another with mild autism...and a preschooler grandson. As I said, my grandkids have never been in a daycare at any time, but they have been in schools (excepting the grandson) with either very tight health restrictions (this was before the COVID outbreak)...or a rather substandard special-needs curriculum that is abused by the special-needs personnel whose only curriculum is to sit an autistic child at a table with a coloring book & crayons, offer no teacher-student interaction, offer little supervision of the class as a whole...and handle a meltdown by calling the parent(s) in exasperation, telling them to retrieve their child...or even bring the child on a trip to the nurse and generate a false report of head-lice to get a child out of the class for a week...and that has happened on a routine basis with more parents than my kids...or even myself.
Thankfully, that has been a different story here in Idaho, where the special-needs class has been both effective and superb in all aspects. My oldest granddaughter flourished there, as did my third granddaughter (even though her autism is mild); my second granddaughter has developed into a highly-intelligent, remarkably-adjusted student on her own right. So far, Kentucky has been holding the same good standards as Idaho.
I would be extremely remiss in my role & duty as a grandparent in my current state of retirement to not offer my time or even other resources to help my family out, as I have little else to do. I don't have all the money in the world...but I do have time. That makes the definition of my role very clear. And so, there I am. That is the mantle I take up, because I believe, above all else, that there's nobody better to watch over children than family...and that family is everything. Not everyone can avail of themselves to exercise that standard, due to people having careers or other obligations of their own...but I can. So I do.
Hopefully, this message came across as no-malice-intended. Hopefully, you understand my point of view. Thanks.