Welcome aboard, Apollo18!
Ha-ha! Well... that's quite a lot, actually! I'm a parent myself--of a second-grader and a fifth-grader--so I'm right in the thick of it. Of course, I can also remember the infinitely amusing juxtaposition the kids' potty-training stages and my own diaper habit. ("Woo-hoo! No more diapers for you! Great job, kiddo! ... Now where's my diaper?)
I feel I should mention that this isn't a meet-up site, and so while I sympathize with your goal, you'll need to take an oblique approach to avoid running afoul of the rules. It's no secret that many ADISC acquaintances become real-life acquaintances, but these things should be approached with care--and due caution.
Take care, and I hope you are helped by the site.