Given how common they are on other sites, I'm surprised we don't see more of these kinds of posts. I think just making it clear why that sort of thing isn't going to get any good traction here is the best approach. Not rude, just straightforward; as we've been doing.God, we really need to sort something out. This is the second thread i have seen in two days, new people asking if anyone are near them.
Hey now, Spirit and I met up when we were 14 and 18 respectively.1. If the you or another member is under 18, don't even think about! That's just not safe, and wrong on so many other levels too. I am not accusing anyone of this, I just felt I had to say it.
I don't think someone is necessarily dangerous or creepy just because they go looking for a meet-up right off the bat. However, when I've got precious little to go on, it doesn't tell me much that's good about that person. It says at the very least that they didn't take the time to try to understand the community before posting, since it's pretty clear that we don't roll that way (one of the little differences around here that I cherish). First impressions aren't everything, but they count.I think it's unfair to assume that the intent is to "hook-up". I would very much like to meet some people in person just to affirm that there really are good people out there who are like me. I grew up dealing with and trying to understand who I am and I would have given anything to have had someone around to support me who REALLY understood me and not just a therapist. and ya it is risky meeting in person but when I was 15, had this sort of site been available to me, hell ya I would have taken that risk for a chance at compasion and understanding. label that how you want, but the lonliness was maddening and people on the internet, while they help, someone totally getting who are in person would have been the holy grail for me.
There's really nothing else for it but to decide you're going to join up for real. Technically, you'll get yourself out of Newbie status with one more post, so that'll take care of the first big hurdle. That doesn't really touch on building a reputation for yourself (not talking about reputation points, either) in the community. A lot of the topics do repeat, but that doesn't mean that people don't need answers.ya, it's a big blurry topic. so what would be right way to go about this then? I don't hardly post here since most of the threads are repeating but I have been lurking for years. since I don't post I don't get the badly needed rep and my post/rep is too low to contact other users. then again I suppose im suggesting that this is a place to arrange such things but its also the only place where I feel even remotely comfortable doing so. crap im back where I started.