Another Post About Spouses

[Ampelwindel]

Hey guys, changed my username. (Windel is German for diaper)

We see these all the time, but I suppose it's one of those perennial issues among diaper lovers; how can we get our spouses to play along. Two years ago, before I told my wife, I would have counted myself lucky to have even continue to have a relationship with someone who just knew that I liked to wear diapers, but since coming clean, I have realized that most people probably don't find it as repulsive as I think they do. I mean, I imagine that most of us have had some shame issues with this whole facet of our lives since it is so unconventional.

I digress. Also, forgive me if this gets a little graphic. My wife knows about it and I would say is tolerant. She's okay with me wearing under pajamas every few months or so, and one time I was lucky enough to get some diapered foreplay, but that's it. Lately, I've been thinking more and more about asking her to play along a little more.

Now, how do I frame this?*I know everyone is different and has their own things that would speak to them or set them off.

She's been stressed out lately since her dad is sick, so I was thinking of suggesting she try it out and try a little mild regression as a means of decompression. For most ABDLs, diapers aren't always sexual, and I wonder if other people who, like my wife, are familiar with it would be receptive to the idea of chilling out in a diaper and a t-shirt, and watching some movies. Personally, when I'm sick, there's nothing I like better than putting on a diaper, footie pajamas, and watching Scott Pilgrim. There's nothing sexual about it at that point. It's just about me feeling better.

Any thoughts? Has anyone tried this approach?

 

[TOWEL]

Honestly you'd be the best person to gauge your wife's reaction. Everyone has different responses to different things - some are grossed out by diapers, some find comfort in them.

Honestly-honestly, I think it's something that would have been better brought up in a less-stressful time. But it's (probably) not going to be a huge deal if you bring it up gently at this point, a la "Hey. Would you be okay if both of us cuddled in diapers?". Don't push it at all if she seems anything less than willing to try. Don't make excuses like "But it works for me" - some people relax by jumping off cliffs, some by making people angry over the internet, some by wearing diapers, and some by mining internet spaceship asteroids. And some people will just have a gut reaction to being squicked by diapers.

Don't ruin what you have by pressing too far! I have a partner who's willing to cuddle but not pad up themselves. Respecting each others' boundaries is important, otherwise your relationship will be poisoned by the feeling that your partner doesn't have your best interests in mind.

 

[couchesstevenboy]

I'm in your position as well. Try not to push it. That's what I've been doing and it works alright for now. She won't wear them though. Maybe one day? who knows.. But just by the fact that she let's me wear every now and then for fun, it's already a jackpot for me. Im light incontinent so wearing because I need them and wearing for fun are different things.
Good luck and keep us posted.

 

[Ampelwindel]

Update: We chatted at length about the subject, and she basically agreed to do occasionally include it in some of our sex life. On top of that, come fall, she said she would get padded with me and snuggle for a movie, but she said she probably won't enjoy it because she has a negative association with thick maxi pads.

After it was all said and done, I put on a diaper to go to bed... and it didn't stay on long if you know what I mean.

 

[CVS91]

Don't ruin what you have by pressing too far! I have a partner who's willing to cuddle but not pad up themselves. Respecting each others' boundaries is important, otherwise your relationship will be poisoned by the feeling that your partner doesn't have your best interests in mind.

+1 to this.

I'm in a similar situation with the boyfriend in that he doesn't care if I wear when we cuddle or go to bed or wherever. It's still fairly recent that he found out, but he said he doesn't know if he could get into one. We have however done it (just I was wearing)...and it was pretty good, if I do say so.

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Update: We chatted at length about the subject, and she basically agreed to do occasionally include it in some of our sex life. On top of that, come fall, she said she would get padded with me and snuggle for a movie, but she said she probably won't enjoy it because she has a negative association with thick maxi pads.

After it was all said and done, I put on a diaper to go to bed... and it didn't stay on long if you know what I mean.

D=

Who took it off?

 

[Ampelwindel]

I did... She said she is not quite at the level of taking a diaper off me.

 

[CVS91]

I did... She said she is not quite at the level of taking a diaper off me.

Bummer... Well at least there's progress.

 

[Ampelwindel]

Bummer... Well at least there's progress.

I mean, like I said, two years ago, I would have been ecstatic to just have my DL side out in the open, let alone getting changed.

She keeps saying "baby steps... no pun intended." So, I'll just take it in stride.