advice for discrete incontinence wear in daily life?

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hello everybaby and friends!!

I am personally adjusting to diaper use as I guess I am hyperaware to 'cleanliness' and I can panic due to this at times, if that makes sense. I have only tried Rearz & littleforbig so far and while the prints are adorable I find myself getting little bumps I guess after only one use? I wouldn't say so much a rash necessarily yet, but my skin just isn't as smooth. :( I have seen training pants, would those work well? they're just so pricey. I typically can hold most of it but I do wet myself about halfway while trying to get to the toilet sometimes, especially when I get closer to it (?!). I hardly wear jeans ever, so it's usually not much coverage at all.

I haven't worn a diaper in public yet although I'd like to try and see where my comfort lies. >.< I like to feel cute while wearing something that helps this. so, does anyone have any ideas? 💕
 
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If I'm reading this correctly, are you having issue making it to the bathroom on time? And looking for something discreet for said issue?
 
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Have you tried pull ups ?
 
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PuffPuffPaci said:
If I'm reading this correctly, are you having issue making it to the bathroom on time? And looking for something discreet for said issue?
yeah, it rarely ever goes successfully. no matter how hard I try it still happens so I don't want to have any accidents in public. but I don't feel like training pants may work that well coverage wise.
 
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mechanicX said:
Have you tried pull ups ?
I haven't but I don't know what brand to try and was unsure if pull up styles were even made for adults (silly I know lol but I only ever see tapes, which are uncomfortable for me) is there a comfortable brand of them you recommend? :)
 
angelpup said:
I haven't but I don't know what brand to try and was unsure if pull up styles were even made for adults (silly I know lol but I only ever see tapes, which are uncomfortable for me) is there a comfortable brand of them you recommend? :)
I like and trust Abriflex level 3. They are pretty good. Tranquility products makes a pretty good pullup also.
 
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angelpup said:
I haven't but I don't know what brand to try and was unsure if pull up styles were even made for adults (silly I know lol but I only ever see tapes, which are uncomfortable for me) is there a comfortable brand of them you recommend? :)
Yes there is pull ups available for adults, they are not very flattering be aware of that. But they perform a duty I guess, I purchased comfy life premium incontinent pull ups (small) , they where perfect for me. Of course it depends on how big you're waist is for the sizes.

 
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Adult pull ups never work and they are only for people with bladder leakage who can still make it to the bathroom. If you have bladder leakage where you completely wet yourself and it comes out in a stream of urine, they will not work for you. Unless you go for ABDL pull ups they might if they hold as much as a fitted brief.
 
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I use adult size pullups and I find the WELLNESS
 
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{Sorry I didn't finish my comment} I use adult size pullups and I find the WELLNESS brand to fit nicely and be quite absorbent.
 
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Northshore.com has an excellent customer service group and will provide a free sample.
Their pull-ups are good, but you will have to better define your volume and need as it is hard to tell if you are pushing yourself (waiting too long) or if you are experiencing some level of urinary IC.

Their brief (diaper) MEGAMAX is a high-capacity, high-absorption premium diaper that like other premium diapers, several members here use regularly.
 
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I have some ability to hold back the flow but I dribble/"water gun" and drip all the way to the bathroom. Goodnites work for me. I can have about 3 failed trips or one total bladder failure per pair. It works for me most days. On a bad day, better use something more absorbent. I go for abriflex on those days.
 
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For me wearing compression underwear over whatever diapers I’m wearing seems to help hide diaper lines. In my case I have dual ic so they also keep air from accumulating in my plastic pants which can get vented with certain changes in body orientation resulting in fecal odors being exposed to the public. Since I usually wear cloth diapers I’ve bought relaxed fit pants and pants that are at least one or two inches bigger around the waist to also help to make diaper lines less visible. You’ll be surprised after a while at just how little other people notice about your derrière unless you’re wearing lighter colored clothing with large wet spots showing or you’re acting like you’re doing something wrong which draws people’s attention.
 
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Calico said:
Adult pull ups never work and they are only for people with bladder leakage who can still make it to the bathroom. If you have bladder leakage where you completely wet yourself and it comes out in a stream of urine, they will not work for you. Unless you go for ABDL pull ups they might if they hold as much as a fitted brief.
I find this to be completely untrue, I use pull ups during the day (go supreme & Abriflex L3), sometimes it's constant leaking and an occasional flood. Never had a problem with absorbance!
 
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crinklechef said:
I find this to be completely untrue, I use pull ups during the day (go supreme & Abriflex L3), sometimes it's constant leaking and an occasional flood. Never had a problem with absorbance!
For some reason they never worked for me thinking they will work like real diapers for me. They just simply leak and when I had urine running down my leg at Safeway after trying a pull up that was supposed to hold like a diaper and I had barely even used it a lot, I was done with them. I have had this same issue with other pull ups too that were supposed to work as good as a real diaper. Plus I don't like the saggy feeling and how I can't make them snug and tight like a diaper. Maybe it's used for one accident than multiple because they're made for those who can make it to the toilet but have accidents if they were not near a toilet and couldn't get to it in time and then they change into a dry one. Maybe some ABDLs like this because it's part of their play and it gives them a toddler feeling.
 
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Calico said:
For some reason they never worked for me thinking they will work like real diapers for me. They just simply leak and when I had urine running down my leg at Safeway after trying a pull up that was supposed to hold like a diaper and I had barely even used it a lot, I was done with them. I have had this same issue with other pull ups too that were supposed to work as good as a real diaper. Plus I don't like the saggy feeling and how I can't make them snug and tight like a diaper. Maybe it's used for one accident than multiple because they're made for those who can make it to the toilet but have accidents if they were not near a toilet and couldn't get to it in time and then they change into a dry one. Maybe some ABDLs like this because it's part of their play and it gives them a toddler feeling.
Well for starters I'm incontinent not an adult baby but have over time become a diaper lover. Granted they're not for everyone, but work in my situation
 
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todderhr said:
I like and trust Abriflex level 3. They are pretty good. Tranquility products makes a pretty good pullup also.
I use Tranquility Night pull ups because they hold so much. I always wear with plastic or rubber pants and Lycra tights over top to hold everything snug and make it not so obvious that I am wearing protection.
 
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Based on your OP that you have only tried ABDL diapers.

The handful of times I have tried a ABDL diaper, I wouldn’t recommend them if your goal is to be discreet. Stick to the medical brands like betterdry, NorthShore. They are cheaper and hold up just as well. Plus if someone was to catch a glimpse, it is far easier to explain something without prints on it.
 
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