Abusive spouses and diaper bans

[Deleted member 58550]

I've been at ADISC for a long time and I've seen some reports of guys who were simply forbidden by their wives to wear diapers and even talk about it. Outside the forum I met a guy who was punished (not physically) by his bossy wife for revealing that he wore diapers and that they were ABDL. Of course, this is not a gender issue, any human being can be abusive and oppressive, so I'm sure there must be cases where the ban came from a husband. Have you ever been through or known of a similar situation?

 

[KittyninjaW]

I've been at ADISC for a long time and I've seen some reports of guys who were simply forbidden by their wives to wear diapers and even talk about it. Outside the forum I met a guy who was punished (not physically) by his bossy wife for revealing that he wore diapers and that they were ABDL. Of course, this is not a gender issue, any human being can be abusive and oppressive, so I'm sure there must be cases where the ban came from a husband. Have you ever been through or known of a similar situation?

I have a brother who hates me wearing diapers. And in general he is oppressive to us. To be honest I am glad he's in college now.

 

[steveg]

Uhh, yea, my parents... They thought I was a freak for wearing diapers in my teens now days my wife prefers I be in diapers save on washing bedding and such

 

[Forced]

It would be interesting to know the percentage of partners who don’t allow their OHs to indulge their ABDL side, I’d always assumed it was quite low.

 

[SmolBearSof]

My only experience in an actual romantic relationship was a lot like that. There were many restrictions and I was constantly shamed for not being a straight and obedient christian girl. (Not to say christians are inherently bad but I follow the teachings and traditions of my ancestors and that was one of the many issues that partner had with me.) It's partially because of that past relationship that I had/have such a hard time accepting myself as an AB/little as well as my sexuality, or the lack thereof...

Nobody should have to change themselves for someone else and nobody should have a say in what is okay or not okay for you to do. If you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else and it makes you happy, you have every right to do what you want. Stay safe everyone and, though it is difficult to let go, don't cling to toxic/abusive relationships. Y'all truly deserve love and fair treatment.

 

[Subtlerustle]

I guess I kinda went through this early in my marriage. It wasn’t so much diaper wearing but I think my wife was pissed off about what she perceived as a threat of my online activities. She was concerned it was some kind of deep dive into diaper porn. It wasn’t, though there was some pictures of women in diapers. This was the late 90’s so any diaper content out there was thin and tbh I was just blown away by being not alone in the world as a dl. Hence the powerful draw to logging on. I was secretive about my consumption of said content as I was still so bad at articulating what abdl was to me. I was poor at allaying any suspicions and would shut down the subject as fast as possible. In retrospect I don’t blame her for feeling threatened by something she didn’t understand and I couldn’t explain. That, I believe is central to any Abdl’s that get ultimatums at home. Happy to report that my wife is no longer in that space and neither am I but I credit her for being emotionally flexible and willing to learn. I feel very lucky. I do believe though that people in a bad situation at home have to give their SO’s some time to digest this as long as they remain kind. If this quirk is weaponized, it’s a long hard road back imo. It would be a deal breaker for me in very short order, consequences be damned.