ABDL: Did a lack of nurturing cause it?

[Clothforever]

Many have commented that growing up they had a positive experience with their relationship to their mom. How many of you out there credit your ABDL and/or DL tendencies to an absence of nurturing?

 

[todderhr]

I think it depends on who you ask. There are some like the legendary Bittergray who says he didn't lack any nurturing. I'm pretty sure child sexual abuse caused me to be ABDL.

 

[Subtlerustle]

In my case I had plenty of nurturing. I’m still a lifelong DL.

 

[BabyBluePup]

I don't know if ABDL is the sole reason for how its caused. I've had loving parents all my life, but I think it has to deal with the fact that I enjoyed wearing diapers when I was little.

 

[Tommy10]

Yup, the lack of nurturing sure did. There was another factor thats played a major part, and that factor is linked indirectly to the lack of nurturing, and when combined left me exceptionally vulnerable. So short answer: yes

 

[LittleAndAlone]

I blame Pampers for making 80s-90s Pampers so plush and inviting and intoxicating to a curious sheepish adventurous little boy. Had nothing to do with nurturing. 🤭

 

[Dial]

Its probably this for me. So yes.

 

[Ceras]

It wasn't really a lack of nurturing for me, but that I got extra nurturing that made me like it.

 

[lilbabyjooce]

I am almost entirely certain that a lack of nurturing is one of the biggest reasons I am ABDL. Physical and emotional abuse, neurodivergence, and anxiety are also factors I believe made me this way. But my mother’s extreme postpartum that she experienced with every one of my siblings and I is what I believe to be the basis of it all considering some of my earliest memories are of being practically still a toddler myself and wishing I was a baby so I would be safe and loved.
It is really interesting to see that so far in this thread the majority of people have had the opposite experience, though!

 

[AugustDaFluff]

I was sexually harassed when I was 4. I got put into a crappy adoption center when I was 6. I got adopted into a really nice family but the scars never went away. I think it could be a lack of nurturing and sexual harrassment.

 

[ItsTimmyTime]

My ABDL tendencies certainly haven't been caused by lack of nurturing, I remember my mum being very nurturing and caring. I was still in nappies when I was 4 years old and have many vivid and fond memories from my early years. I believe because I was older and still in nappies, I understood how important they were to me and I felt such a strong connection with them.

I've felt this way ever since.

 

[Kota2003]

I believe this may have been the case for me. I don't entirely know why I'm interested in diapers now, I can't pin point a specific event that would have caused it but I remember when I was little my dad had a drug and alcohol problem (he's been clean for the past 9 years now thankfully) and my mother was forced to work the night shift so that we could have enough money to survive. I wasn't properly potty trained until I was around 6 because my mother just didn't have the time and my father wasn't able to care for me. A lot of other traumatic stuff happened during my childhood and I've attempted to block most of it from my memory so its anyone's guess why I'm abdl but I believe neglect played a part in it.

 

[PoofsNFloofs]

Some may have had a lack of nurturing. Others may have had an awesome childhood with plenty of nurturing, but they just don't want their childhood to end!

 

[Kota2003]

Some may have had a lack of nurturing. Others may have had an awesome childhood with plenty of nurturing, but they just don't want their childhood to end!

I can see how having a really amazing childhood or having a really bad one could both end in a person eventually becoming an abdl, phycology is very interesting.

 

[Blekyss]

To be a baby and to be put in diapers again have I bee longing for as long as I can remember.
I don´t know what is the cause of that.
I was separated from my mother and put in an incubator for 3 weeks as soon as I was born, Maybee that can be the root of it.

 

[blaincorrous]

I think there are some innate factors that have to be given fertile soil. If there’s an innate factor, it’s likely some degree of OCD, in my layman’s opinion.

 

[BobbiSueEllen]

I don't think there will ever be a majority reason why we love wearing diapers. Even with so many of us in diapers here with autism, even that's likely not a/the Big Reason. Our kit-bags are so full of varied life-circumstances & conditions, there's no pattern to discern what gets us into this. I just know that wearing diapers is so snug, so soft, so warm and so extremely comfy, I want more of it...and adding the Baby Factor in the form of clothes, toys & other experiences makes an already happy, wonderful, safe place so much better. I call it many things: joy, happiness, peacefulness.

Sometimes I try to analyze the why...but when I'm all diapered & dressed up, cuddling Bonnie, it doesn't matter why. I'm just happy. Never question a miracle, huh?

In closing, I have Ellie from Portland, Oregon to thank. She was the first sissy Adult Baby I ever met, and she made such a sweet impression I'll always be grateful for. She's the biggest reason Bobbi Sue Ellen came out to play. Thank you, Ellie, wherever you are, for everything! I love you for being so wonderfully contagious...so wonderfully you! 🤗🥰🧸🍼

 

[BlueGrey]

I come from the abuse side. I was sexually abused by family and friends very early on. My mother was one who thought that toddlers should be kept in a playpen ALL DAY. Punishment for escaping was severe. I slept in a crib until the age of 5, and night potty training was done with leather belts and cold showers. Much of this I have blocked out, so I would have said that I had a good peaceful childhood until my older sibling confirmed all the abuse.

 

[wetnappyjon]

It's so hard to know. My parents were ok parents but never affectionate to any degree. I used to long for cuddles and kisses as a kid but that never happened. I got into nappies by around 5 I think simply because it gave me the comfort I needed. Then when I was 10 I was sexually assaulted on an almost daily basis by a master at school. Never anything violent or aggressive but alway loving and caring. Of course it was wrong but I responded to him and honestly loved what he was doing to me as I craved the affection. Looking back it was of course very bad but I'm sure it contributed to my being gay as well as ABDL. Now all I look for in a partner is a kind loving warm and sexy daddy to keep me as a little boy. It all adds up in my head.

 

[Subtlerustle]

I just know that wearing diapers is so snug, so soft, so warm and so extremely comfy, I want more of it...and adding the Baby Factor in the form of clothes, toys & other experiences makes an already happy, wonderful, safe place so much better. I call it many things: joy, happiness, peacefulness.

This is definitely a factor. I distinctly recall being in a prenatal class before my first kid was born and one point of emphasis and practice we worked on was how to swaddle your baby. The origami of the proper blanket folds to create maximum comfort and security for the baby was key. Next phase comes when the baby is more mobile and kicking blankets off, the diaper though is still always present and possibly the only source of security in the middle of the night.
At the end of the day we were all just little mammals seeking comfort and security. Just look at puppies huddled together when sleeping. Come to think of it, my dog had a blanket from her mom for years. She snuggled it into her adult years and yes, even humped it in spite of being spayed.