A way to stop the fetish?
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If your trying to stop, likeing diapers try to move on and get some other interest, that will take the place of a diaper fetish.
But I think you will come back to diapers, unless you find something thst takes your mind off diapers totaly.
Maybe sports or an activity you can do with other freinds, good luck if your trying to give the diapers up, I hope you find something that will help you.
But I think you will come back to diapers, unless you find something thst takes your mind off diapers totaly.
Maybe sports or an activity you can do with other freinds, good luck if your trying to give the diapers up, I hope you find something that will help you.
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Let's say, for example, that instead of diapers you wanted to stop liking... hamburgers (random thing).
There are several methods you can use:
1) overdose: eat too many of them you swear you don't want to see an hamburger anymore
2) brainwashing: have an hypnotizer convince you that you hate them to death etc.. etc..
3) mind association: associate hamburgers with something unpleasant (i.e. rotting corpses - random thing) so that when you think of hamburgers you think of rotting corpses and you can't eat hamburgers anymore.
4).....
5).....
etc......
In the end, will you have stopped liking hamburgers? Well, IMHO, you'll only have found a coping method to avoid eating them, but deep in your soul you'll still like them.
And back to your original question, I bet you're gonna get mostly negative answers from people's direct experiences. I myself tried to stop about ten years ago... it lasted less than 6 months. You may say my will wasn't strong enough, but since diapers are not harmful to yourself nor to other people (unless you keep being around in stinky diapers...), which is the reason to damn yourself for a thing you like?
Life is hard enough because of all the things we don't like but we nonetheless have to bear... why not using the ones we do like to make it a bit more pleasant, instead of getting mad at ourselves for them?
There are several methods you can use:
1) overdose: eat too many of them you swear you don't want to see an hamburger anymore
2) brainwashing: have an hypnotizer convince you that you hate them to death etc.. etc..
3) mind association: associate hamburgers with something unpleasant (i.e. rotting corpses - random thing) so that when you think of hamburgers you think of rotting corpses and you can't eat hamburgers anymore.
4).....
5).....
etc......
In the end, will you have stopped liking hamburgers? Well, IMHO, you'll only have found a coping method to avoid eating them, but deep in your soul you'll still like them.
And back to your original question, I bet you're gonna get mostly negative answers from people's direct experiences. I myself tried to stop about ten years ago... it lasted less than 6 months. You may say my will wasn't strong enough, but since diapers are not harmful to yourself nor to other people (unless you keep being around in stinky diapers...), which is the reason to damn yourself for a thing you like?
Life is hard enough because of all the things we don't like but we nonetheless have to bear... why not using the ones we do like to make it a bit more pleasant, instead of getting mad at ourselves for them?
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Get your tubes tied.Btu that's going to the extream and is well kinda ****ed up way to quit. and not to mention dangerous.
If it is a fetish-sexual that is It would be hard to quit But if it is an interest it is all will just try.
If it is a fetish-sexual that is It would be hard to quit But if it is an interest it is all will just try.
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Yeah, that's taking it to the extremes. And it's not even guaranteed to work either... especially if you like diapers and stuff for non-sexual reasons.
Short of performing a lobotomy there's nothing you can really do to cure yourself. Paraphilias all seem to be biologically rooted (though no one knows what the mechanism is yet) which is why mere behavior modification or psychotherapy does little to cure them. Such therapies may treat the condition by making urges less severe and teaching you how to avoid giving into them, but you'll still always have the urge to engage in the fetish.
Also, I'd have to warn against attempting satiation (engaging in the fetish as much as possible) as a way to get over it. While it can end up making you associate the fetish with boredom it won't get rid of the urges and could easily wind up making the fetish worse rather than better. To be honest you should probably just accept that you've got a fetish and will have it for the rest of your life. If you want to keep things down to a minimum the best thing to do is not escalate your fantasies. You'll want to, trust me, because eventually what you find really pleasurable now will get boring later and then you'll want to find something novel to get that same level of pleasure. But then that novelty gets old and you escalate again, and before you know it your fetish is even crazier than before or, worse, you've developed a new fetish.
Like I said earlier, this stuff is most likely due to some sort of biological predisposition. The frustrating thing is though that almost no one researches this kind of stuff in science. As a result we know next to nothing about how fetishes work, what causes them, much less how to cure or effectively treat them.
Also, I'd have to warn against attempting satiation (engaging in the fetish as much as possible) as a way to get over it. While it can end up making you associate the fetish with boredom it won't get rid of the urges and could easily wind up making the fetish worse rather than better. To be honest you should probably just accept that you've got a fetish and will have it for the rest of your life. If you want to keep things down to a minimum the best thing to do is not escalate your fantasies. You'll want to, trust me, because eventually what you find really pleasurable now will get boring later and then you'll want to find something novel to get that same level of pleasure. But then that novelty gets old and you escalate again, and before you know it your fetish is even crazier than before or, worse, you've developed a new fetish.
Like I said earlier, this stuff is most likely due to some sort of biological predisposition. The frustrating thing is though that almost no one researches this kind of stuff in science. As a result we know next to nothing about how fetishes work, what causes them, much less how to cure or effectively treat them.
It doesn't work period. Castration does get rid of your testosterone/progesterone supply but surprisingly people still have sexual urges even with their gender's sex hormone gone. Or at the very least people with paraphilias still experience paraphiliac urges. The only difference is that the urges won't come as often and are less intense.
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Yeah, that's a more accurate way to say it. And it'd probably make it easier to "quit"... but it's just still not guaranteed.Ecto said:
No, that's what we're saying. It wouldn't take the problem away. You'd have to do stuff to the brain, which is.... kinda a bad idea to say the least.
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Yeah, probably not the best idea. If you really want to kick this whole thing, you're gonna have to seek professional psychotherapy which is going to be expensive and very intense, but will have the least risk and will probably have the best chance of "curing" the whole bit. Honestly, though, I'd just learn to live with yourself and be happy.
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Personally i relay don't think there is a way to make it go away. I have tried to stop wearing diapers and it always ends up coming back. Something will eventually get you mind thinking about it. Usually seeing diapers and thinking about how great they are is enough for me.
As they say once a drunk always a drunk.
I think that that apply to us, in more ways than one.
As they say once a drunk always a drunk.
I think that that apply to us, in more ways than one.
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Exactly! ^^^ I was wondering why nobody asked why! If you dont like diapers, then you have no problem with getting rid of the fettish, its gone! I just dont understand! But on all the infantilism help sites, it says going with it is better than the non-gaurenteed cure. Sure, go for it, but if it doesnt work, rember that were still here to share feelings with you.
dude don't try to quit. trust me it only leads to wanting it even more and you being miserable for denying something you enjoy(trust me i Ive done it before). look man it is a harmless hobby so just find a way to balance your two lives. it does not have to be at the two extremes. good luck
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Trying to "break the habit" probably isn't the best approach. All you'll do is end up in denial or get stuck in a binge-purge cycle that is far worse for you than just having the kink in the first place.
My advice to you is to try a bit of self-acceptance. Learning to love yourself (and all your kinks) is an important part of life. Sit down with yourself and your diapers and think it over.
Sure... you may be disgusted by it, your friends may think it's wierd, and your parents may call you a freak... but in all reality it's not so bad. There are millions of people worldwide that have a fetish of some sort. Most of them don't (unwillingly) hurt anyone.
You could go see a therapist and try to get past it that way... but in the end you are going to end up throwing away a lot of time and money that could have been used in the pursuit of other things. These kind of things typically stick with you for life.
Look around at the community here... we're all decent folk for the most part. We lead normal lives and deal with our diaper desires when and if they arise. We may not all be particularly proud of it... but it is who we are and we shouldn't deny that.
So stop fighting with yourself... learn to live with what you have... to "play the hand that you were dealt" to the best of your ability. I think you'll find that you are a lot happier in the end.
My advice to you is to try a bit of self-acceptance. Learning to love yourself (and all your kinks) is an important part of life. Sit down with yourself and your diapers and think it over.
Sure... you may be disgusted by it, your friends may think it's wierd, and your parents may call you a freak... but in all reality it's not so bad. There are millions of people worldwide that have a fetish of some sort. Most of them don't (unwillingly) hurt anyone.
You could go see a therapist and try to get past it that way... but in the end you are going to end up throwing away a lot of time and money that could have been used in the pursuit of other things. These kind of things typically stick with you for life.
Look around at the community here... we're all decent folk for the most part. We lead normal lives and deal with our diaper desires when and if they arise. We may not all be particularly proud of it... but it is who we are and we shouldn't deny that.
So stop fighting with yourself... learn to live with what you have... to "play the hand that you were dealt" to the best of your ability. I think you'll find that you are a lot happier in the end.
Been there done that and boomeranged back into diapers with more vigor every time.
Early on I used to buy diapers, use several and then get ashamed that what I was doing was somehow wrong. Threw away a lot of good diapers that way in those binge + purge cycles. Have even thrown away plastic pants and clothes in desperate guilt-induced purges. Why feelings of guilt? Ashamed of something I should have accepted a long time ago.
When I returned to wearing after the binge-purge cycles it came back stronger than before, meaning that I used them even more frequently than before or messed them more than I would have just to indulge in the sensation.
Just ended a 2 month 24/7 period myself. I was hoping it would satiate my desires a bit. Nope, just reinforced that I love it. I might have a hard time going without when I return to work next week. Might have to wean myself off gradually. For the past year my living situation was unstable so I had few opportunities to diaper up. Probably why I needed a 2 month indulgence to make up for the lack.
My experience is that you should do some soul searching and come to peace with whichever path you choose. Having a diaper fetish is not easy and not too many people would choose this lifestyle - it just happened to be part of my life and something I could no longer deny as being a part of who I am. I've fought these feelings my entire life and even repressed the desire from age 15 to age 25. I had lots of issues with depression and anxiety before I finally accepted this and now I am quite happy and a better off than ever before. Had I visited a shrink for those issues the best prescription would have been diapers since it brings so much comfort and joy into my life now that I have found some kind of level of acceptance.
If you feel that diapers are holding you back in life or causing you work/life/relationship problems, then you might seek some professional help. That is if your problems are *really* out of control. A trusted friend or relative might be a good sounding board too. Then again, picking the wrong person to talk to might not be healthy either if they are of a certain mind set. This support site seems very helpful, so please post if you need more advice or just people to talk this out with.
Might be a wise idea to take a break from diapers and think things through without a commitment to a decision either way. Make no judgments on your feelings either way on this issue, just come to terms with how you feel and proceed accordingly. Only you know what is best for you and ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness and well being.
Best of success to you in life. Hope you find the answer you are looking for and some inner peace as a result.
Early on I used to buy diapers, use several and then get ashamed that what I was doing was somehow wrong. Threw away a lot of good diapers that way in those binge + purge cycles. Have even thrown away plastic pants and clothes in desperate guilt-induced purges. Why feelings of guilt? Ashamed of something I should have accepted a long time ago.
When I returned to wearing after the binge-purge cycles it came back stronger than before, meaning that I used them even more frequently than before or messed them more than I would have just to indulge in the sensation.
Just ended a 2 month 24/7 period myself. I was hoping it would satiate my desires a bit. Nope, just reinforced that I love it. I might have a hard time going without when I return to work next week. Might have to wean myself off gradually. For the past year my living situation was unstable so I had few opportunities to diaper up. Probably why I needed a 2 month indulgence to make up for the lack.
My experience is that you should do some soul searching and come to peace with whichever path you choose. Having a diaper fetish is not easy and not too many people would choose this lifestyle - it just happened to be part of my life and something I could no longer deny as being a part of who I am. I've fought these feelings my entire life and even repressed the desire from age 15 to age 25. I had lots of issues with depression and anxiety before I finally accepted this and now I am quite happy and a better off than ever before. Had I visited a shrink for those issues the best prescription would have been diapers since it brings so much comfort and joy into my life now that I have found some kind of level of acceptance.
If you feel that diapers are holding you back in life or causing you work/life/relationship problems, then you might seek some professional help. That is if your problems are *really* out of control. A trusted friend or relative might be a good sounding board too. Then again, picking the wrong person to talk to might not be healthy either if they are of a certain mind set. This support site seems very helpful, so please post if you need more advice or just people to talk this out with.
Might be a wise idea to take a break from diapers and think things through without a commitment to a decision either way. Make no judgments on your feelings either way on this issue, just come to terms with how you feel and proceed accordingly. Only you know what is best for you and ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness and well being.
Best of success to you in life. Hope you find the answer you are looking for and some inner peace as a result.
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