A recommendation from my therapist, among other things.

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Hey ya'll, Ruth here. Thought I'd share something that made me happy.

So my school provides free psychological counseling, and I used it a lot last year to talk about my diaper fetish. Doing that really helped me to stop seeing it as a negative thing.

So we had our first session of the semester and we eventually get to this subject.

Therapist "So have you continued wearing your diapers since I last saw you?"
Me "No."
Therapist "Why not?"
Me "Well I was back home, and my parents would have probably found out."
Therapist "Well now that you're back here and you have your own room, you should order some more."

That made my day. It felt really good to have someone else tell me to wear them. Like the way she said it, it only made sense that I should keep doing it.

So yeah, I'm about to order my diapers. This is my second time, but the first time was all the way back at spring break, and back then I didn't own any girly clothing, so it feels like the first time all over again.

I'd also like to start exploring some LG stuff. Like I used to think I was dl, but ever since I realized I was transgender, I've been more curious about exploring that possibility a bit more.

So I know that other people have asked for recommendations on what to get before, and I've already looked at a few of those. But I do have a question.

Since I don't know if I like pacifiers yet, should I buy a baby one at the store just to find out, or is the experience so different that I ought to just buy an adult one? I'm on the fence here because I've tried thumbsucking, and that doesn't do much for me, but certain pacifiers look really cute and I love being adorable.

Feel free to apply that question to any other ab product, whether it be wipes, bottles or the rest. Or don't, if out think I can just find out somewhere else in this forum.

So yeah, thanks for reading, I'll probably make a post once my stuff arrives.

Yours,

Ruth.
 

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That is an awesome therapist.

And I'd suggest going for an adult one as the baby ones aren't as satisfying to me at least.

https://www.amazon.com/LittleForBig...qid=1474417044&sr=8-3&keywords=adult+pacifier

This is one of the ones I have, but mine is light blue. They come in white too if you're interested. All $8.80 with free shipping. Great to try one out and not spending a ton of money on something you potentially might end up not liking.
 

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Thanks Ruth, that answered a question I've had for a long time. The question is: Are there professionals out there that are enlightened to the fact that there is no cure (or explanation) for this condition (ABDL), it's harmless (as long as there are no other underlying problems) and that their role is simply to help the person accept themselves the way they are? So now I know there is at least one good one out there.

And go with the adult paci. It has a much more natural feel and the larger shield won't chafe your lips as much.
 
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Thanks Ruth, that answered a question I've had for a long time. The question is: Are there professionals out there that are enlightened to the fact that there is no cure (or explanation) for this condition (ABDL), it's harmless (as long as there are no other underlying problems) and that their role is simply to help the person accept themselves the way they are? So now I know there is at least one good one out there.

And go with the adult paci. It has a much more natural feel and the larger shield won't chafe your lips as much.

Yeah, she actually knew ABDL was a thing before I told her I had those feelings. I probably wasn't her first. I got the impression from her that this is how a normal person in her profession would react, but she is a California therapist and attitudes might be different elsewhere.

Anyway, I recommend that every single adult go to therapy if they can afford it. I think society as a whole would benefit from that, because the average human carries way more stuff with them than they can handle.
 

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Yeah, she actually knew ABDL was a thing before I told her I had those feelings. I probably wasn't her first. I got the impression from her that this is how a normal person in her profession would react, but she is a California therapist and attitudes might be different elsewhere.

Anyway, I recommend that every single adult go to therapy if they can afford it. I think society as a whole would benefit from that, because the average human carries way more stuff with them than they can handle.

I think therapy is a great thing to have, but i find my out therapeutic outlets more useful to me then therapists. That said, Im glad you have a therapist you feel is right for you, im sure its a wonderful feeling, and a validating one I would imagine.
I wonder if school therapists are traditionally more broad minded?
 

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The therapist seems to already know your real life and everything related to it, to note here is make sure that she was talking seriously without any facts of jokes.
 

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Yeah, I like your therapist. When I had to see a psychiatrist, he said I'd probably outgrow the desire for diapers. Wow was he ever wrong! I'm glad you found a good one. I had a lot of more serious issues so that's what we discussed rather than diapers.
 
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The therapist seems to already know your real life and everything related to it, to note here is make sure that she was talking seriously without any facts of jokes.

My anxiety towards having a diaper fetish one of the first things I brought up with her. I started seeing her nine months ago. I'd be really impressed if she could keep a joke up this long.
 

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Hi Ruth.

Hee that would like an amazing therapist. It was through mine I found out that I was a Little. He told me that I had a form of Peter Pan Sydrom and he recommended I relaxed in to being my in-child, and let my self play. So now I am a lost boy hee, hee.

I recomind to talk to your therapist about your in child and see what they have to say about it.

Anyway Pasifers they just suck! LOL when I tryed my first one I got it form Sainsbury's the 12+ month one which has the bigist tit on it. The charming felling for me was instant so I got it.

It helped me sleep as it just felt good.

I then brought my AB one and that felt good better and more comfortable becouse the bigger Adult size tit.

Now my boy who is a Middle tryed one I was sent. I didn't like it becouse the hard was bigger than I use to. But that had the "ho whaw." Factor as well as soon as he put in in his mouth he started to enjoy sucking.

One day I get he to try out diapers. Hee, hee maybe.

Well I hope that helps you.

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Its good to know there are professionals out there who can actually understand that our indulgences are not causing any harm if managed properly. Sure there are those who get a little bit carried away and let things control their every day lives, but that does not seem like the case with you. The thought of discussing my AB/DL side never crossed my mind with my psychiatrist. Not that she wasn't a great person to talk to; I was just speaking to her during my down turn with my depression. I honestly couldn't say if she would be one of the ones who understood the fetish or not to be honest.

I cant offer much advice in the way of supplies other then possibly checking out sample packs and things like that as I fall more on the DL side of the spectrum. I haven't even had a chance to try out any of the ABDL diapers as of yet. Closest to anything similar was a case of Molicares and Abenas I ordered a while back.
 

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You seem to have a good therapist there, Ruth. I'm still on the hunt for one myself and I hope they are understanding when I do finally open up to them.
 

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Yeah -- sounds like a good therapist... Although mine would never suggest that I "should" do something. But then, if it's what you want, you sort-of "should" do what you want! :)

Thanks Ruth, that answered a question I've had for a long time. The question is: Are there professionals out there that are enlightened to the fact that there is no cure (or explanation) for this condition (ABDL), it's harmless (as long as there are no other underlying problems) and that their role is simply to help the person accept themselves the way they are? So now I know there is at least one good one out there.

My therapist was fine with it too. I don't think he was familiar with ABDLs, but he understood the idea pretty quickly when I explained it. Pretty much the first thing he said was that I shouldn't expect therapy to "cure" these interests. (Which I already knew.)

The interest he had was very focussed on the feelings and emotions that diapers give me, and the experiences I've had in life, and how all those feelings and experiences relate to my sense-of-self, and... well... whether I should see myself differently...

I would think (or hope) that most psychotherapists wouldn't be that alarmed at ABDL behaviour. In the whole scheme of human psychology, it's not that bizarre.
 

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Muggles might see being AB/DL as bizarre but in the grander realm of psychiatric disorders, it's very small pickings. On the other hand, in 1970 when my mom sent me to see a psychiatrist, he was very concerned over my homosexuality because in 1970, no one who was gay could possibly lead a normal life, be successful, hold on to a job, or even be considered as sane. We've come a long way baby!
 

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We've come a long way baby!

Haven't we just! Thank goodness for progress.

Kinda off-topic, but ain't this cute?

http://metro.co.uk/2016/09/21/mum-w...ender-nonconforming-son-feel-welcome-6139716/

I hope that multiculturalism and modern connectivity is gradually making people more accepting of others. These days we're less afraid of gender/sexual identity. But then, our politicians have arranged for Muslims and refugees to be the focus of our daily Two Minutes' Hate, so maybe the masses have become distracted. It's a lot of effort to hate everyone, after all!
 

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Yeah Tiny. Hating everyone is exhausting. I'm glad that someone stepped forward and made this boys day a little nicer and that she and his mother were/are so accepting. There's too much hate in the world and it only takes us down the path to destruction. Love, caring and acceptance takes us in the opposite direction and that can only lead to a very good place.
 

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Yeah Tiny. Hating everyone is exhausting. I'm glad that someone stepped forward and made this boys day a little nicer and that she and his mother were/are so accepting. There's too much hate in the world and it only takes us down the path to destruction. Love, caring and acceptance takes us in the opposite direction and that can only lead to a very good place.

Right on, brother!

I remember being a teenager and hearing the song "All You Need Is Love" by The Beatles. I couldn't believe the monotonous banality and repetition of the tune and lyrics. It sounded simple and tedious.

Now I'm older, I get it. The whole point of the song is to remind you of how important love is. It starts with the repeated mantra, "Love, love, love..." and the lyrics and melody are simple because loving is simple. What I previously thought of as banality seemed to be revealed as a pure idea that resonated throughout the mantras of the piece. It's almost genius.

You don't have to be fancy, you don't have to be complicated; you don't have to be anything other than who you are. Just "love, love, love". And then love some more.

[video=youtube;dsxtImDVMig]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsxtImDVMig[/video]

In fact, Ruth, I think one of the most important things I learnt in therapy is that you need to love yourself. So, you like diapers. Does that make you a terrible person? Of course not! You are who you are, and you don't owe anyone an explanation (even yourself).

There's no need to shout about it, but if it makes you happy, and you don't let it become an obsession, why shouldn't you do whatever you like when you have the privacy?

The people who mind don't matter; the people who matter won't mind.
 

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Ruth, you are indeed most fortunate to be living now and not in the good old days. Not that everyone is understanding but but it is much better than when I was your age. Being a trans diaper loving little girl I think I can relate to your situation. Anyhow, as others have said, an adult sized pacifier is a must. I tried the baby ones and was not impressed. The adult size is great. That is one thing you really should get. Another thing to always remember is what Tiny said,"The people who mind don't matter; the people who matter won't mind". Sooner or later, others will become aware of your situation.
 

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Right on, brother!

I remember being a teenager and hearing the song "All You Need Is Love" by The Beatles. I couldn't believe the monotonous banality and repetition of the tune and lyrics. It sounded simple and tedious.

Now I'm older, I get it. The whole point of the song is to remind you of how important love is. It starts with the repeated mantra, "Love, love, love..." and the lyrics and melody are simple because loving is simple. What I previously thought of as banality seemed to be revealed as a pure idea that resonated throughout the mantras of the piece. It's almost genius.

You don't have to be fancy, you don't have to be complicated; you don't have to be anything other than who you are. Just "love, love, love". And then love some more.[.

One of the things I love about this song is the meter. It easily slips from 4/4 time into 3/4 time and back into 4/4. Play it and count with it and you'll see. You're right about it being like a Mantra, which of course the Beatles were into, especially John Lennon. "Imagine all the people", another great song.
 
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